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tendo


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My girlfriend is an alcoholic and has been sober for a couple years now. I love her very, very much. Right now we're in a rocky place and she's going thru some stuff she won't even try explaining to me because it has to do with being an alcoholic. I don't know what's going on inside her head.

Anyway, last night she came over and was a mess. I asked her if she had kissed another girl I saw her with and she said no. But then she told me she lied to me and that she did kiss someone while she was out. Then she started to break down. I've never seen her like this before. She was nearly shaking and she was telling me she absolutely needed a drink, some drugs, or a knife. I told her I had none of that. I was mad but felt her safety was more important at the moment than my emotional rage. I didn't want to let her leave but she did and wouldn't let me come home with her. She said she needed to be alone.

What am I supposed to do in this situation? I'm so worried about her and I have no clue what to do next. Please help me. Thank you.



-- Edited by tendo on Thursday 19th of May 2011 01:53:00 PM

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Sometimes theres nothing you can do for someone who doesn't want to get help for themselves.

Keep a close eye on her if you can .. pray for her.

And, get yourself some help via Alanon. We have a message board and help here on this site for you.

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It is a bit complex Tendo. It sounds like some thing has happened and that has triggered her desire for booze. If she has been sober for 2 years, do you know if she did it through AA? For you to get a bit of a grasp of whats going on, jump around in this book:
http://www.aa.org/bigbookonline/en_tableofcnt.cfm

If she was in AA she worked the 12 steps in Ch 5 and Ch 6. If you can do a little "crash course" in the book, you may be able to speak the language enough to get her back to a meeting. I would say if she was in AA a great thing you can do would be to remind her of the meetings and to get in touch with her sponsor.



-- Edited by turninggrey on Thursday 19th of May 2011 08:29:25 PM



-- Edited by turninggrey on Thursday 19th of May 2011 08:31:21 PM

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Sorry...tendo to hear about your dilemma.

If she needs time then give her that. There are many "qualified" professionals who can help her if she feels like talking. You can do little things like praying or sending a card, or maybe a call to her parents if you're overly concerned. She has been sober for couple of years now and has some knowledge on staying sober, so we hope she does. Otherwise, letting go and letting God just might be your only alternative -for now, unless she is willing to talk. We hope she does for both your sakes, so pray for some sort of intervention, Divine or intercessory -until then.

~God bless~





-- Edited by Mr_David on Friday 20th of May 2011 02:12:45 AM

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