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Finding a Sponsor & Working the Steps: How Vital Is It For Me?
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I'm the product of my family's disease. My father (a wonderful man) is an alcoholic, just like his Dad was. My Mom's father was an alcoholic and so was my uncle. In December, 2009, I realized on my own that my drinking wasn't normal. Thank God I chose to stop on January 2, 2010 before things got "too b...
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Step 4 & 5 Confusion
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Hey Everybody: I have been working with my sponsor on step 4. I thought the hardest part of Step 4 was the resentment list. Which I had no problem doing.. I would love to let go of all of those resntments. I took a couple of days and worked on it. The list showed me the parts I had to play in most of the anger...
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Looking back
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I'm reminded of what my elder sponsor use to tell me about "half life" of the disease of alcoholism. This is the 32 year plus a bit of being alcohol free and yes sober also and I still haven't reach the "half life". I came into recovery free of alcohol at the age of 37. My life was ov...
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Roller coaster of emotions
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I'm on one. And I want off. Now. I'm so sick and tired of living subject to the dictates of my emotional winds. I've been dry for 15months and working my program for about the last 3 or 4 weeks. I've got an excellent sporsor who has really helped me out and is truly an inspiration to me. Also it doesn't...
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I've reproduced
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In about six months there will be a small human that will eventually call me dad. Yikes Oh well, how difficult can raishing a child be? I've done a pretty decent job with my dog...although I do hope my child will be less inclined to bite people and chew up my stuff. All kidding aside, I'm scared shitless an...
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LIFE IS GOOD,ALL IS WELL,BE CAREFUL!
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Morning,Blessings to you on another day of "life"! I was looking "inside" in a little reflection and an old slang term came to mind as I looked back at some of my different periods of working my process.So many years I had spent "two stepping"(1st step and part of 12t...
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Telling the kids
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Tonight at dinner my wife & I plan on telling the kids about our upcoming separation. We are currently mediating our divorce. My kids are 14 & 12. It's been a long process but God has revealed over the past year and a half that this is the right path for me. To the best of my ability; I've turned...
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Mike B.
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Why do a 90/90?
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I figured I would share on something I actually have experience on. For any newcomers that are wondering about this or people that have never done this and are wondering what use it is... Here is what I gained from doing 90 meetings in 90 days: 1. A strong connection with my local fellowship 2. A feeling...
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anyone need a laugh?
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billyjack
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Thanks for 22 Years
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Yesterday... I didn't get a chance to post, was out all day with my daughter and ended up at a meeting to announce it - far from home. I used to have sort of a diary/journal in my early sobriety, and I used to write in it on my sobriety date and go re-read what I had written before. I haven't looked at it in a lon...
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Feeling Lost
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Several months ago I had a fellow AA over to my house. Little did I know that she stole a Rx from me and had it filled illegally. I didn't find out until I went to have my prescriptions filled, they told me it had already been filled. I was livid, but I also understood that this woman was sick and she was going t...
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WE HAVE BEEN THERE
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Blessings of another day of life!! If you are just starting to come around,new here today or been around for a few 100 cups of coffee(probably thousands!!!)let us remind ourselves that worrying distances us from the God of our understanding,whereas living in Faith brings us peace of mind and clos...
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mikef
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Tiny Little Pantry-Beginning of the End!
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I still find it interesting that after 25 years of devastation,memory loss,blackouts and dissassociated states,I can still remember that" little pantry" on Winnikee Avenue,upstate New York.You see thats where me and Rick,my best friend ,closer than my brothers, found that first bo...
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Bad News from Doctor
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Hi All I had a doctor's appointment this morning. I got bad news from blood tests that were taken about 2 weeks ago. I now have Type 2 Diabetes--my doctor put me on generic Glucophage. It seems from family history on my father's side it show up later in life. My boyfriend is being very supportive and says h...
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kld47
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Dry vs Sober
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I was reading old archives from Mr Sponsorpants this moring, I thought this was a nice read "We were having trouble with personal relationships, we couldn't control our emotional natures, we were a prey to misery and depression, we couldn't make a living, we had a feeling of uselessness, we wer...
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LinBaba
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Tranny's done...
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My lil B2200 Mazda has a new clutch and is feeling slick. Took it for a ride...no jerks, grabs, screeches and thumps. I did it myself cause I like the grease and the tools and the muscle pain and strains and man the cussing whenn it just won't go my way my time raises my testosterone levels. I had to calm d...
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Jerry F
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Sorry friends, have to blow off steam...
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Have to get this out of me, got into a "locking of Horns" with someone you might call an authority figure in the eyes of the world, our communication from day one just felt off like that old and dear to me saying of "if you can't keep pace with your companions, perhaps you are dancing to a...
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Just Toni
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1st Sober Super Bowl...
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...in over 30 years. And I still don't remember most of the commercials!
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When They've (Mostly) Heard It All Before
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It went well. I prayed for honesty and some humility. I still love to talk about my favorite subject (me). Small crowd, but probably half the people there hadn't heard my story before. As far as the what it was like part, I focused more on my "isms" that I feel I was born with - traits I now r...
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Old-timers without humility
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Ya, I know what you're thinking and you're probably right... some newbie with no standing at all to criticize his elders is about to get himself in way over his head. But I tell you what. We alcoholics are VERY quick to spot hypocrisy, and it is entirely possible that many of us newbies have gotten quick...
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Translating the 12 steps into .. real life
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I am actually writing this for my non computer friend! Let me start out by saying he is agnostic so has trouble with some of the steps and translating the "god" and "higher power" into real life. He is asking me to ask others how they interpret and use steps 3, 6, 7, 11 and 12 (and th...
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flaky sponsor
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I got a sponsor early on in my recovery. All was going well and we used to talk a lot. I would always ring and she would answer when she could and if she couldn't, we would usually talk every few days and I started working on the steps. I am now on step 4. We didn't fall out but unfortunately she began to get very...
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After being sober for over a year and started dating howed you meet your spouse or significant other?
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I know i have a ways to go before even thinking about it but I was wondering for those that are married now or in a relationship how you met them? From AA? also did you tell them right away you were alcoholic?
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Dealing with family life sober
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Dear All, This evening I had a very stressful incident. My son aged 17 who is acting out a lot lately mostly typical teenage stuff failed to arrive home after school. I could not locate him for some time and it was worrying. I subsequently found out from my better half that he had not gone to school for two d...
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---that our lives had become unmanageable.
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Some believe those who don't stay sober miss the importance of the this part of our first step. It is really just one step, not two. The dash just asks me to pause and try to see my life (or I've heard and like MY Mind had become unmanabeable.) I've read alcohol is a symptom of underlying problems, but the sy...
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Any other avid readers out there? (Not just AA-approved, but everything)
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Hey all, I've been sober for awhile now, but I just joined this forum in the past week- so far it's a nice supplement to my 'real' life (or whatever you want to call it- it's all real, isn't it?), to surround myself with people in recovery online also. I love you guys. Over the past couple of years, I've been...
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Choices
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Okay...so life is shaping up again a little bit. I actually did not get fired from my job and was called back into work yesterday. I have a much more humble attitude and I needed that badly, as it was slipping away. The thing is, I have some choices to make now, as I didn't think I was going back and have se...
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The definition of "selfish"
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Just wondering how you determine (when taking an inventory) when you are being "selfish"...interested to hear people's thoughts.
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HOPELESS....
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Hi fellow alcoholics, Deep down in my heart, I am certain I cannot beat this disease. I am a 41-year old woman. I have tried AA meetings, read the Book Book and other alchohol-related material. A couple times I was able to quit for just under 3 months but inevitably, the craving wins and I find myself in th...
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Artsy Gal
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Alcoholic Family Tree
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me brother father great grandfather - father's mother's side 2 to 4 uncles - father's side uncle - mother's side ex-stepdaughter ex-stepson-in-law#1 ex-stepson-in-law#2 ex-mother-in-law ex-sister-in-law mother-in-law brother-in-law stepsister-in-law one of us in spirit if not intoxica...
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What to do...?
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Long-story-short: Completed a 2week detox at a "recovery house" 12 days ago, with intentions to segway into a halfway house. I got the application in and just need to fax over some medical records, etc...and then they will set up an interview. Here's the deal: I did the recoveryhouse thin...
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alcoholics and one puff of pot
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ok..heres the deal...I am an alcoholic...not a drug addict..Never was into drugs, never was a pot smoker except on rare occasion...I have been sober for 16 years... For some reason, while with a friend, I took a puff off her pot pipe....I am not seeing it as a relapse...I did not smoke again after that....
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How much sober/clean time do you have?
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I was just curious. Please share if your comfortable. I am going on 5 days now,but even though I know we only have today (24 hrs) its still inspirational to me to hear others lengths. Thanks
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SoberSteve
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New here and wanting to confess.
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I am very familiar with the program and such. that said,... Im a mess of a boozer. Its 1pm and I'm trashed. So i should start off and tell my back story..very typical... my mother was an addict. A single mother and I am an only child. We were very close ..but I felt very angry toward her for many years...
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Funeral Blues
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Just about the only good thing in an awful film was the reading of WH Auden's Funeral Blues in 4 weddings and a Funeral. But I digress. Sitting here, suited and booted, working and waiting for my mate to come round, so we can go to another mate's funeral. Crematorium at 1:30 pm, wake at 2 p.m. 100 miles away...
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bikerbill
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ACOA Program took me Backwards not forwards.
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Hello all, I Just wanted to get some feedback from some of the members that have been sober a while here and see if anyone else has had any experience with ACOA . After a number of happy years full of continuing and effective sobriety that had brought me alot of peace of mind and joy, I became interested wi...
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Snow and Snow Day/s
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Hi All Have all and any of you in this Snow Area hunkered down and battened the hatches. Hey, spend it reading the BB or other material. Also join your friends here at MIP and get caught up on reading posts and posting. I did not have my evening class and the college is closed for tommorrow already. Stay war...
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Maybe it's just me...
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I'm constantly hearing people using statements that include things like "MY program" or "work YOUR program." I was guilty of that for a short while after getting out of treatment, but fortunately my sponsor set me straight. AA is not "MY" or "YOUR" pr...
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Need advice, dating someone who drinks excessively
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Hello. I am currently dating a guy who I really care about, but our relationship was always based around alcohol. I got drunk with him so many nights and then REALLY drunk and hit, what I felt like anyway, a rock bottom. We have been off and on for months. It FEELS like a disfunctional relationship yet I st...
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fear of speaking
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Hi everyone my name is mary and I am an alcoholic.Latley that's about all I can get out at a meeting,if I go any futher I panic and my mind goes blank.I understand about walking through fear and doing it anyway but really it just does'nt seem to be getting better.I've been sober since 06 and I've shared alo...
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garner85
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If I got any more serene right now I would be a statue...
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yesterday = (2) AA mtgs, (1) NA mtg Today = (1) AA mtg I get it: Step 2...when enough was enough, I walked into AA and said "Okay...I'm listening." Now I need a friggin' nap. Peace, Rob -- Edited by StPeteDean on Thursday 3rd of February 2011 12:29:14 AM
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Anniversary!!!!
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3 years today. I think back where I was three years ago today.....sitting on a bench in jail with handcuffs on. 2nd DUI. Today, sober, sitting at my computer watching it snow out with plans of snow shoeing later, drinking a hot cup of coffee. What is right with this picture. I thank all the people I...
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When They've Heard It All Before
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I've often joked at my home group that there's absolutely nothing I can say in a discussion meeting that everybody in the group hasn't heard before. It is tough to come up with an original thought, or a story that hasn't been told. Well -- it looks like I'm going to get to be the speaker. At my home group...
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now what?
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for 7 years i stayed out of relationship cause i needed to heal and work on stuff. last 5 months i got into a relationship for a couple of reasons..we have known each other since we were both in early recovery together . he has 18 yrs now, i rented the upstairs of the house he lives in so we both have our separa...
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family and me.
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hi my name is brett and i am an alcoholic.have been one for 16 years and would like to hear from anyone with similar problem.I have had 2 brothers and father who were alcoholics as well.Recently i have learned my sister also has run into problems with alcohol and she has been to detox twice so far with no lu...
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Psychology
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What is the official view from AA about psycholgy,mental problems etc?
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What does the big book say on this?
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I'm about to have a rant.Those of a nervous disposition please stop reading now. when will our blasted helpdesk realise that they are talking to a computer numpty, not Bill sodding Gates? No matter how many times I tell 'em. When will my employer launch a system that works with the PCs that we have now ra...
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hardly scratched the limitLESS lode
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Hi Bill recovered alcoholic, so here I am coming off disability.after 10 months. physically i am some what better. however 45 pounds heavier doesnot help in the trades. right away i wanted to blame .point the finger. you know copping a resentment. and some fear was gripping me. here is the deal becaus...
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Sobriety Benefits Timetable
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http://whyquit.com/whyquit/a_benefits_time_table.html
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Had made a decision....
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fortunately for me, I am a woman, I CAN change my mind. Kidding of course. Now here is what has been going on in my little sober life, one day at a time. Was diagnosised with a fairly new form of Lung Cancer, in late September, and from then til now, have gone thru every conceivable test, first for the surge...
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Just Toni
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