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REFLECTION ON A BEHAVIOR AND A SOLUTION
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Have you ever been caught up in a heated verbal argument with a loved one or even another person and had someone interrupt the situation(say a phone call or something) and you respond like"Oh HI, HOW ARE YOU,YES YOU HAVE A GOOD DAY ALSO in an undramatic controlled manner and then when that interac...
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Going off line for a bit.
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bit.due to life Changing personal developments around the consequences of my past behaviours I'll not be publicly posting for a while. Some of you may get a pm. I'll be sticking close to my brothers in fellowship on my side of the pond. Thanks for your help and support. I'll be back but it might take a whi...
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Jaelyn Alliah on the way!
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Please join us in prayer and gratitude as my 23 yr old daughter is in hospital getting ready to deliver her first child.Toxemia(something similar) so Drs want to induce labor this morning for eveyone's safety.We have trust and faith in God and His will be done!Devon(son in law ) and my wife slept ov...
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Deep love growing
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I'm blown away at the moment with the deep level of love I am experiencing for this fellowship of recovery we have in the world. I feel loved, liked needed and also I have hope in the core of me today. I cannot express in word form how much my very being is bursting with love and appreciation for the twelve st...
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Hospital
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The Good Lord has brought me through. I am just out of the hospital after a double coronary artery bypass. I was not feeling well and had some of the symptoms of a heart attack so I decided to go to the emergency room for a check up. The EKG and blood enzymes indicated that I had not yet had a heart attack...
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Sudden sensations
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quarter to midnight. Been to a meeting now back home. No different tonite than on so many other nites the past few years. As you know I've lived alone for over five years.. So why have I got this sudden feeling of being so lonely? This big old house is so empty and the quiet that I normally enjoy, it just feel...
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Great quote in this months' Grapevine
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Hey all, sorry haven't been by for a couple of weeks. Anyway, this quote made me think back to an earlier thread about someone saying that they heard some folks in the rooms trying to tell others that they weren't alcoholics because they hadn't drunk enough, etc. Anyway, in this months' Grapevine on pa...
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God Calling - Life is a Love Story
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"You need Me. I need you. My broken world needs you. Many a weary troubled heart needs you. Many a troubled heart will be gladdened by you, drawn nearer to Me by you. Health, peace, joy, patience, endurance - they all come from contact with Me. Oh! it is a glorious way, the upward way, the wonder...
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Documentary, "Drunk in Public"
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This documentary was brought up briefly way back in the threads when it first came out, but I'm wondering if anyone has seen it? I can't find a way to watch it besides paying $30 to buy the DVD, but I was thinking I might do that and then donate it to my local library. It would seem like a good resource to have,...
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Higher Powered
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Such a great trip to my soul city, and long-overdue renewed bonding with my sister. Very grateful for all the blessings we were given on our trip, especially hooking up with people decades sober & straight, from back in the day! NH feels like a dead zone in comparison to NY, so I am needing to work on n...
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Daily Reprieve
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For some reason these words keep ringing in my head throughout the day. I know it's a one day at a time program. The Book says we have a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. Think I got that right. Anyways, I go to a bunch of meetings, pretty much every day and this isn'...
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Getting Dumber and feeling more serene
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So it was rainy today and it affected my work and as a result I've had the day off. Short on funds at the moment so rather than stay home bored and broke I thought I'd go to a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous. Did something today when asked to share I never thought I would. I said " Hello my name is Jamie...
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God Calling - The Two Joys
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"My children, I come. Hearts eager to do My will, send out a call that ever I find irresistible. I know no barrier then. Resignation to My will keeps Me barred out from more hearts than does unbelief. Can anything be such a crime against love as being resigned? My will should be welcomed with a g...
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Trouble with relationships
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I'm a year and a half sober and feel so lost. I look in the mirror and don't recognize myself. I feel empty in the few relationships I do have and I don't know what my life goals are anymore because I have changed so much since completing the 12 steps. Has anyone else felt this way?
Any replies will be much a...
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75 days
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I'm now 75 days clean from drugs and alcohol....I'm so thankful for the grace...this is not an easy journey but then again something worth doing never is...my problems haven't gone away but I now can at least face them with a clear head. My relationship with my wife whose also an alcoholic is drifting a...
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...that God could... BB Pg 60.
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This is such a comfort to me, knowing that God could, knowing that He has the capacity to. That He has all the resources and that no human being can mess that up. Knowing that He is the ultimate authority. That He will authorise circumstances to make me grow. Knowing that He will not put me beyond my endura...
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Daily Reflections ~ Love & Fear as Opposites
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All these failings generate fear, a soul-sickness in its own right. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 49 Fear knocked at the door; faith answered; no one was there. I dont know to whom this quote should be attributed, but it certainly indicates clearly that fear is an illusion. I create the illus...
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NPR on "wet houses"
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http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/...
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Grumble
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That time of year again. Bonus time. Was on target for 12.5% bonus at the end of February. Final figures are in. 8%. How did I drop 4.5% in one month? apparantly there is the fiddle factor, the How - How did I achieve my targets, apparantly not in an honourable way, so my bonus rate has been revised down. I'l...
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Daily Reflections ~ Anger: A "Dubious Luxury" & 24hrs a Day
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If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. The grouch and the brainstorm were not for us. They may be the dubious luxury of the normal men, but for alcoholics these things are poison. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 66 Dubious luxury. How often have I remembered those words. Its not just anger thats best lef...
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If Bill was the sail Dr. Bob was the anchor
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If Bill was the sail Dr. Bob was the anchor The least two likely of men , as they were less than kin and more than kind, more than friends and less than brothers. Bill was the consummate entrepreneur, someone of import I reckon, a mover and a shaker with a masculine allure was his conjured up se...
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AA Waltz/Absitinence is the leading cause of relapse
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This was an answer to a PM someone sent me, so I thought it was time for this to be reposted here, some of it was written by a friend of mine, the first part was written by me, but none of this is "mine", this is just stuff I have heard1, 2, 3, slip 1, 2, 3, slip is called the "AA Waltz", we se...
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Daily Reflections ~ Resentment is the "Number One Offender" & 24hrs a Day
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Resentment is the number one offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 64 As I look at myself practicing the Fourth Step, it is e...
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Is there a middle ground?
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Hi guys, I know it's usually bad internet etiquette to start a forum post without lurking around the site a bit first but I'm kind of drunk and I apologize for my rudeness. So without further ado: Hi, my name is Leslie and I'm pretty sure I'm an alcoholic.... or at the very least have some serious alcohol...
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God Calling - Never Feel Inadequate
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"Obey My commands. They are steps in the ladder that leads to success. Above all, keep calm, unmoved. Go back into the silence to recover this calm when it is lost even for one moment. You accomplish more by this than by all the activities of a long day. At all cost, keep calm, you can help nobod...
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One of those mornings.
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One of those mornings. The ones where you wake up just before the alarm goes off and lay there. You know you should feel grateful for where and how you are and what you have, but you just lay there. Eyes wide, alone, letting your mind wander unproductively. or at least you think it's unproductive. Tune ou...
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A list from people who know...
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http://www.time.com/time/specials/packages/completelist/0,29569,2063930,00.htmlWho's Afraid of Virginia Wolfe and The Lost Weekend. I bet We The Peopl...
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Im hoping I'm using this forum correctly.
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Hi I just need someone to talk to right now. I don't know where to begin. Ever since I was 17 I wanted to be a bartender. I was one on and off I am 25 now. I began partying with high school friends my junior year. I was 15 or16.
I buy beautiful cocktail dresses... For when I go to places to drink.
I have pretty...
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God Calling - Gentle With All
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"Love and laugh. Make your world the happier for your being in it. Love and rejoice on the grey days. Be gentle with all. Try to see the heart I see, to know the pain and difficulty of the other life that I know. Try, before you interview anyone or speak to anyone, to ask Me to act as interpreter bet...
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Wifes opinion is her Mothers
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What are you supposed to do when your wife has never seperated from her mother emotionally or mentally and all her opinions are her mothers ???? This includes the "truth" about people places and things and sometimes they are important things that affect our marriage. I've tried pointin...
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maybe I'm learning
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tonight that special someone called and asked me to help. Asked me to take her to a meeting. So I took her and she had her drinking hat on. Somethimg wrong with this picture and I so desperately wanted to fix her.. But a flash of reality. I'm as powerless over alcohol re:her as I am with me. Nothing I could do...
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Upate on my little life.........the blessings of Sobriety
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Really dont know why I titled this the way I did, but whatever. When GOD pulled my up and out of gutter, many years ago, the road has sure been full of the ups and downs in life....so greatful to my HP, that I have lived to expience them all, good and bad. This current update is neither good nor bad, it is well...
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Inspiring Story
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I was at a meeting last week where the speaker basically pressured the one newcomer to share (I HATE when people do that!).
It turns out she had had years of sobriety, went out, and now has terminal cancer.
She came back because she wants to die sober, and she wants to be fully present and not drinking...
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God Calling - Golden Opportunity
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"I am your Guide. Strength and help will come to you; just trust Me wholly. Fear not. I am ever more ready to hear than you to ask. Walk in my ways and know that help will come. Man's need is God's chance to help. Man's need is God's golden opportunity for him of letting his faith find expression. ...
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Here we go again...
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Another event where I rely on experience and God and program. As it happens I was on my way to the bank to join a couple other members of my Sunday group to sign checking account cards. We're changing treasurers and alternates and I was stepping up. Made a decision to take the shortest route even with l...
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changed my avatar
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It's pretty small but it's a sketch of a proposed tattoo that someone would like. I've suggested that it should wait a year tho' as tats are pretty permanent. Text reads 'it's not who we are that holds us back, it's who we think we're not.' If anyone can get the meaning of that, then let me know! Other than...
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Am i having a mid Life Crisis?
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Talking with a civvy buddy last night, he suggested that I was having a mid life crisis and recommended that I look for the Mid Life Crisis forum. I'll look for that later. Over here, MLC has particular negative and comedic connotations aong the lines of: Mid Life crisis - grow your hair, dress too youn...
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remember it's not happening today, so it don't count.
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Just got an e mail from Fleet Management, telling me that because I have done 57 miles less than the annual requirement for provision of a business needs car and have used it for 13 days less than the requirement, then either I hand the car back by 11th June or submit a new business case. So the business cas...
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God Calling - April 11
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"Remember that My followers are to be a peculiar people, separated from among others. Different ways, a different standard of living different customs, actuated by different motives. Pray for love. Pray for My spirit of love to be showered on all you meet. Deal with yourself severely. Le...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Word to Drop: "Blame" & 24hrs a Day
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To see how erratic emotions victimized us often took a long time. We could perceive them quickly in others, but only slowly in ourselves. First of all, we had to admit that we had many of these defects, even though such disclosures were painful and humiliating. Where other people were concerned, we ha...
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The worst place to live.....
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.....just had a long chat with one of my civvy buddies. His wife died 4 years ago and he just found an old letter she wrote him several years ago and read a bit out to me. She said'.....and the worst place to live is on a pedestal.' Blew me away.
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Daily Reflections ~ Giving Up Insanity & 24hrs a day
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. . . where alcohol has been involved, we have been strangely insane. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 38 Alcoholism required me to drink, whether I wanted to or not. Insanity dominated my life and was the essence of my disease. It robbed me of the freedom of choice over drinking and, therefore, robbed me of al...
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I just can't stay at meetings - valium doesn't help.
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I drank again in February after 3 and-a-half years due to my panic attacks. I managed to get back to a few meetings but wasn't enjoying them, still I made myself show up. A Consultant psychiatrist put me on an anti-depressant meant to help with panic disorder, but initially - I've been on it 4 and-a-hal...
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Pain Pills and Sobriety
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Over the years I've seen several people go through an accident, injury or surgery while sober, only to become addicted to pain pills in the process which led to a relapse on alcohol. So here I am getting older, generally in good health except for being diabetic, and I get hit with back to back things th...
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Did anyone ever have a bender like this one?
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http://www.theonion.com/articles/man-wakes-up-from-bender-with-financial-problems-s,19858/?utm_source=recentnews-- Edited by turninggrey on Wednesday 6th of April 2011 08:35:45 PM
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Parents went to first Alanon meeting last night!
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Hi all, I just have to share my joy that I finally convinced my parents to go to their first AlAnon meeting last night! I'm an only child, which I think has impeded their ability to draw boundaries about my alcoholism, even though I'm 36 and live 400 miles away -- they try to make it THEIR problem, rather th...
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NYC-28 years and four days
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Went to "Living Now" on St. Mark's Place (old stomping grounds-East Village). This meeting has been running continuously for 40-some odd years, I think. My sister presented me with my 28th medallion (they don't normally do chips, so the crowd enjoyed the surprize as much as I did)...
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Daily Reflections ~ Freedom From King Alcohol & 24hrs a Day
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. . . let us not suppose even for an instant that we are not under constraint. . . . Our former tyrant, King Alcohol, always stands ready again to clutch us to him. Therefore, freedom from alcohol is the great must that has to be achieved, else we go mad or die. As Bill Sees It, p. 134 When drinking, I lived in s...
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AA / FreeLife Church Group
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After several visits, I have began attending the FreeLife meetings at church. They are very similar to AA, but with more emphasis on Christ and the overall groups meeting encompasses alcoholic, narcotics, divorce, etc. We break off an focus on our addiction/problem. I have what essentially is...
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The Crux of My Alcoholism
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The Story & Struggle of Me.. Ever since I was a little child I never knew who I was. I felt special, connected, different, lost. I have been & so often felt confused. I thought something brilliant might happen with me as I grew & mastered this world. As it happened, this didn't happen & i...
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