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Question for AWs I need honesty
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First off if I am being rude or invasive by seaking anwers here I apologize. My wife has recently went to rehab and is now back home trying to be sober (unsucesfully) I know her and lover her very much. And she IS trying. I am going to al-anon meetings and reading the big book. I am gaining understandin...
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meetings
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I have only been to one meeting so far. I went yesterday, and noticed the car (big ole jeep with big ole tires, hard to miss) of a co-worker. He is very open about his issues, and has been sober for years. I didn't go in. I am not ready to let people know...very scared of the failure, and even when I do, thi...
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New here, need help & advice.
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Greetings! I recently came accross this site, and found it both informative and welcoming. (So I thought to join/post). My name is Jay, and I recently had an "awakening" (so to speak) regarding my drinking habits. I have been drinking for the better part of the past decade. These last fews...
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AA and the family
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I'm one sometimes to share on the small miracles that AA delivers, like the one I experienced today. My wife usually picks up my son from the school bus on Fridays and they go to a nearby pub/restaurant for a snack. She's working today so I picked him up instead. He wanted his usual snack at the pub -- my off...
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22 Months in..... And discouraged
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Hi all.... I am discouraged today. I cant say my life alone and drinking was all that bad. I did drink and drive for many years (like 35) but at the end, I mostly got a 30 pack and sat home alone feeling sad and or sorry for myself, drinking beer after beer, watching tv and eating pizza. When I joined AA I made l...
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Time for a funny
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Not having a 'shot' at people who have been thru hell over divorce . I have been there , Very painful . Even 35yrs later , she tries to give me hell. Bless her Lord , "I Wish her Well" "Best Divorce Letter EVER Written Dear Wife, Im writing you this letter to tell you that Im leaving you fore...
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Here we are again.......a
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Another month sober and smoke free, 5 sober 10 smoke free. Alot of hard work, alot deceiding who I want to be and becoming who I am. I am a sober, life enjoying father, and husband, with a great support system which includes each and every single person on this board! Thank you!
So even though I've been he...
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an Aussie in Texas
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As I have mentioned , last week I was at a Navy reunion in Texas . My mate came down to breakfast on Fri morn wearing a 'T' shirt with - "I Am Too good looking to Be this old" written on it . Most days don't ya just Love life , that's how I feel Right Now . Gotta go , 2 meetings waiting for me. Rick.
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The 10 Rules for Being Human ... from Life's Instruction Manual
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Here is a beautiful 3 1/2 clip that is simlpy a great way to view Life ... and to help us keep our perspective of 'why' we are here ... ENJOY:http://play.simpletruths.com/movie/if-life-is-a-game-these-are-the-rules-v/?cm_mmc=ExactTarget-_-FR-_-10.05.12-_-ILIGmovie&j=17081&a...
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Today's Gift 10-05
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Gifts of the Spirit Through the program, we come to desire spiritual gifts as well as material necessities. Experience shows us that serenity is priceless and something to be desired. Courage, wisdom, faith, hope, love, humility - these are all spiritual gifts which come to us from our Higher Power...
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Two Directions
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There are basically two directions I can go in once I get into AA. There's getting the willingness to work the program of recovery and knowing God and aligning my will with His once I understand what that means, and there's believing that I'm here for me. There's the complete destruction of self-cente...
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blue Bonnets, here we come
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Blue Bonnets to the border was the cry, apparantly, when several decades ago the Dumfries and Galloway (as it is now) region of AA launched a convention - they had found out that the English were coming en masse.........the name stuck. Apparantly the first convention was held in the Wee Free church Ha...
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Today's Gift
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Easy Does It Dear God, Help me remember to take things slowly for spiritual progress requires time for growth. Maturity is not an overnight miracle. Help me to be productive and keep me from procrastinating or being impatient and rushing ahead too quickly. I will remind myself today not to push mysel...
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Does AA work? Is it Dated?
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I am new in recovery, 60 days, and have been doing my research in regard to AA. There are lots of people who have negative things to say about the fellowship: sites dedicated to alternate methods, leaving AA, etc... I stayed clean and sober for 13 years on my own, after leaving AA only 4 months in, so oth...
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Prayers are welcome.
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Hey guys, I'm an occasional poster here, out of the country (US) for a bit in somne non-Engish speaking areas with few meetings (Poland, etc). Really no problems staying away from the booze, but any additional prayers or thoughts would be most welcome. Will try to check in regularly while I'm abro...
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Recovery Today
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When I walked through the doors of AA the day after Christmas last year (or rather - came here to MIP) and began my recovery journey, I didn't last long. 40 days. Then I drank again - still kept coming here every day, still kept the lies to myself & everyone else going, still continued to do my 1 meeti...
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30 days
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ok, I just wanted to say I have been slacking a little on posting here. I read a few posts every morning and usually every evening quickly but I have been so swamped that I haven't posted or replied a ton. I just don't want you to think I have been slacking in my recovery. Today is 30 days sober and I feel prett...
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Back on deck
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After a week away , I am 'back' . I went to Texas for a Navy reunion , for "The 74" lost sailors from th USS FrankE Evans. Great weekend , finished with a 'hoe-down' on Sat nite . Yee hah , what a Hoot . Even got dressed up in a cowboy outfit , danced most of th nite . And NO I did Not pick up that fatal 1st d...
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Sex at 79
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SEX AT 79I just took a leaflet out of my mailbox, informing me that I can have sex at 79.I'm so happy, because I live at number 73.So it's not too far to walk home afterwards. And it's the sameside of the street. I don't have to cross the road!Life is good !!!!
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Today's Gift 10-4
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Turning an adversity into opportunity is possible. We didn't escape problems just because we came to a Twelve Step program. Problems still exist, whether it's a car that won't run, a neighbor who complains, a spiteful co-worker, or a family member who drinks or uses other drugs. The difference is, n...
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1 month/ one week
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Well everyone, I'm so sorry for not posting any updates, NO, I didnt have any break downs and still sober, today is one month and one week in for me, kind of lost track and had to count my days again,lol! But that should be a good thing! Right? Anyways, past two weeks have been, some what different, Im feel...
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Isolating
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Hey all:) I haven't really been spending all that much time here lately. I haven't really been speaking with my sponser much lately either. Come to think of it, I haven't really been reading the literature lately, either. I have been going to a good amount of meetings, but I can feel my enthusiasm falte...
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Today's Gift 10-3
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Say when it's time to begin. I have a friend who is always planning to start a writing project "as soon as she gets organized." She has read nearly every book, attended every seminar, and bought all the tapes on the subject. She has closets full of organizers, drawers stuffed with folders, a...
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Fear
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I believe one of the reasons I continued to suffer after the 4th step is that while my directions for resentments were very thorough, my directions for the fear inventory were not. My sponsor was very inexperienced and the fear section was a lot of guesswork type of stuff. There is an actual formula to g...
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Sponsor
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Can someone explain how the whole Sponsor relationship works? What are the dynamics like, and do I have to seek one out? Or will someone perhaps offer?
I appreciate the continued support.
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Monday Night, cold, wet and windy
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So it's been one of THOSE days where nothing but nothing seesm to go right. The suspension's burst on my car, the temperature seems to have dropped 10 degrees, every thing I've touched at work has turned into a nightmare, I'm putting weight on, the huuuuuuge pan of broth I made is..........challengin...
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Today's Gift 10-2
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I look in the mirror through the eyes of the child that was me. --Judy Collins The child within each of us is fragile, but very much alive, and she interprets our experiences before we are even conscious of them. It is our child who may fear new places, unfamiliar people, and strange situations. Our chil...
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Daily Reflections ~ The Acid Test & 24hrs a Day
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As we work the first nine Steps, we prepare ourselves for the adventure of a new life. But when we approach Step Ten we commence to put our A.A. way of living to practical use, day by day, in fair weather or foul. Then comes the acid test: can we stay sober, keep in emotional balance, and live to good purpose...
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Another trigger
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After getting through Friday night, I was hit with another trigger. Saturday. And not necessarily night. And now Sunday football. So, I am trying to think of something that ISN'T (really hoping WASN'T) an occasion to drink...can't come up with anything. Sad, happy, celebrating, wallowing,...
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RIP Clancy's wife
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http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/latimes/obituary.aspx?n=charlotte-imislund&pid=160023785#fbLoggedOut
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"Anything an alcoholic lets go of has claw marks all over it"
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Before recovery, I tried to control everything. I would lie in bed at night planning my days and weeks, and I would make endless lists of activities I could follow that would lead to specific results. I played and replayed conversations that were sure to take place to make sure they came out the way I wan...
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**MIP AA Message Board Moderator(s) Found!**
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Just a quick note asking that those who are regular members of this message board with 1 or more years of continuous sobriety, who also attend f2f meetings, and are knowledgable of the 12 Steps and Traditions of AA who would like to be considered for the service position of Board Moderator, please cont...
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Congratulations on 6 years Sobrietyspell!!!
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I love this day. LOL. Thanks for your ongoing service and carrying the message. Hope this year has brought you wonderful things. Thank you for being such a wonderful part of my recovery :) 6 years. Wow!
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Happy Four Years, Pinky!!!!
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Congratulations on your 4th Soberversary, Mark, for your wonderful recovery & message. Thank you for all you give here. Such a massive contribution & safe presence for our newcomers & oldtimers alike. God bless you in your journey for much time to come one day at a time. All my love, Brot...
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Just some stupid Alcoholic!
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It's been a long 4 years. Since I was 21 I've lived on my own, been through absolute hell with alcohol, relationships, poor health and everything else..And after 4 years of batlling sickness, making ends meet, and bettering myself in every possible way, Im recovered. Heading back to work. Since...
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Positive thinking. A good skill to learn.
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Taken from Wikipedia: Worth learning if your having a bad time somewhere. Optimism is a mental attitude or world view that interprets situations and events as being best (optimized), meaning that in some way for factors that may not be fully comprehended, the present moment is in an optimum state....
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Today's Gift 10-1
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Patience is needed with everyone, but first of all with ourselves.--Saint Francis De SalesOne night Sandra was having trouble putting a puzzle together. Angrily, she pushed all the pieces into a huge pile."I can't do this," she said. She got up and walked over to the couch and plopped dow...
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Experience has taught me.
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There's one prayer I have forgotten in recent times: "Ask Him in your morning meditation what you can do each day for the man who is still sick." AA book pg 164. This is more like a command from God for the recovered alcoholic, because neglect means certain death through relapse. Practical a...
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Today's Gift 9-28
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Every time I get worried about something I say my prayers more. --Jim Burns Whether we grew up in religious families or not, most of us seek help from some Greater Power when we're faced with terrifying situations. Often it's at an unconscious level that we ask for extra help. But the fact that we do elic...
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Gratitude
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The other day in a meeting on gratitude, I found myself quoting from the latter part of an essay had written some year back while my wife was still in prison. I looked for it when I got home and decided to share it here. There's always something to be grateful for: Other men wake up in the morning, open th...
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Just Some Processing
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Tonight has been difficult. With the exception of a quick flash a couple nights ago, I haven't felt the urge to drink in a while. I had a really good day and was feeling great when I got home from work. I took a short drive to the grocery store for some dinner ingredients, made a big meal, and settled on the co...
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Just gratitude.
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I had one of my horrible dreams, not of my drinking days, but my first sober days in AA. It was a replay of my selfish ways towards my wife, when I got sober. Whenever we went shopping, I showed no patience and tolerance. In my dream, I am using my old colorful adjectives to swear her and ask her why she had bou...
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Today's Gift 9-30
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The block of granite which was an obstacle in the pathway of the weak becomes a stepping-stone in the pathway of the strong. That block of granite is often nothing more than a decision. --Thomas Carlyle Trails through national parks and forests are often clearly marked and well-maintained. But some...
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Some days are better than others
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It's funny how some days seem to be easy and some are just so damn hard. And yet I feel almost stupid for thinking that when I look back on yesterday and tried to pinpoint why I was so tempted. Today the reasons seem so minute as compared to others problems but I had a hard day anyways. A whole lot of little thi...
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The hell do I do with this one?
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Just called a previous sponsee for a chew of the fat. He tells me he's a/ drinking, b/ threatened his partner and c/ intends to travel to another city and is 'tooled up'. (i.e. has weapons and is prepared to use them) I do not believe him on point c. it's possible, but I think it's drunken ranting - apparant...
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Understanding the sickness.
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Ive been clean for almost a year now and Im happy that im not even around old friends and certain people. Im not even gonna say what it all is. But alcoholics are not only sick. Theres some gross people out there... -- Edited by Closer on Thursday 27th of September 2012 02:40:49 AM
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Aliasisme - 3 weeks!
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Congrats to you. I can already see your transformation happening - you get to be who you were always meant to be now... never give up!
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60 days!!!!
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I have 60 days today! I had the crazyiest day ever and I did not want a drink. Angry parent, sobbing teenager, cut my finger REALY bad, broke up a cat fight, student barking in class and a not so perfect rehearsal and I didn't want a drink. 60 days sober feels really good
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More fun while drinking concept....
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Ok, so I know I have thought this before and I know many of you have thought this......the 'how am I going to have fun without alcohol' or the 'will I be fun without it'. Alcohol for many gives that feeling of relaxation in a social setting, giving them more extrovertedness. I have been wondering how it wo...
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A survey for Alcoholics on Recovery and the Built Environment
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Hello, My name is Jessica and I am currently doing research on the impact of the built environment on the recovery process. Please take a moment to click the link below and take my survey. All information provided is completely confidential. Your time and information is greatly appreciated. All res...
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