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payoffs from bad relationships
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Payoffs from Destructive Relationships
Sometimes it helps to understand that we may be receiving a payoff from relationships that cause us distress.The relationship may be feeding into our helplessness or our martyr role.Maybe the relationships feeds our need to be needed, enhancing our s...
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Taking a Risk?
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Risk Taking is Free
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool, To weep is to risk appearing sentimental, To reach out for another is to risk involvement, To expose feelings is to risk exposing true self, To place your ideas, your dreams before the crowd is to risk their loss, To love is to risk not being l...
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WOW!! big lesson on surrender
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Hope for Today - October 10 Sometimes I need to work Step One backwards.I don't always recognize when I'm powerless, but I certainly notice when my life becomesunmanageable. Then I remember that usually when I'm feeling insane, I'm forgetting my powerlessnessand trying to control outcomes or oth...
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bending with the wind
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Sometimes it's worse to win a fight than to lose. --Billie Holiday
Our struggles with other people always take their toll on us. They often push us to behavior we're not proud of. They may result in irreparable rifts. They frequently trigger an emotional relapse. No battle is worth the damage to t...
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Rick
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You have a good trip my freind. And stay sober hu? :)
If you find the need to make a call when youre gone-just pick up a phone, and call 1-519-369-5631.Collect-- Ile be around here somewhere, or one of my daughters will be. If no answer--keep tryin.
Been told by the Doc to d...
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Daily Reflections Oct 10
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 If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also.  
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I need a meeting
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I haven't been able to attend any meetings in the past week because of work and everything else.
I feel myself trying to make excuses to drink. I DJed a party tonight and had a lot of intoxicated folks in my face all night. Many offered to buy me a drink. I said "sure, a Pepsi or Coke would be nice." Some see...
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Over-Serious Anonymous 12 Step Program
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1. We admitted that we were powerless over seriousness -- that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that only by lightening up could we achieve a state of non-seriousness. 3. Made a decision to turn our constant self-criticism over to our sense of humor and learn to "lovingly and whol...
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Hi
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Just dropping in to say hi to everyone here-been outa commission for a couple days--could be a few more yet-but am home, and glad to be. My best to all of you.
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Hey! Dan?
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I'm intrigued by the fact you call yourself an old hippie. Just curious if you'd like to share what puts you in that catagory? I happen to be a "new" hippie. Found The Dead about 20 yrs ago and it changed my life!! 
Hope you'll share.
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putting my house in order
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Order
"We emphasize setting our house in order because it brings us relief."Basic Text p. 93
Focusing on what others are doing can provide momentary relief from having to take a look at ourselves. But one of the secrets of success in Narcotics Anonymous is making sure our own house is i...
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Today I Will Remember
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Today I will try to remember that when I feel down everything I do seems to come out wrong.
When my self-pity begins to build, I will stop, rest, gather my thoughts, and ask my Higher Power for help.
God reminds me there is a tomorrow and that I can begin anew by living one day at a ti...
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hello from phil
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Phil called on friday night and ask me to say hello to all. He hopes to be back on soon. I am leaving for a hunting trip on WED and probably won't be online untill Nov 1 or so. I may try tp get in touch with him today but for now He's doing good.
I've been so busy trying to get ready th...
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Daily Reflections Oct 9
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for newbees...a light hearted look at the steps
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hi am rosie, and i abused alcohol to escape the pain of my childhood abuse.....my beer/wine was my **tranquilizer*......when life was ok??? i was ok with having a beer and stopping....but life was not **ok* very often, so i would, at night, drink till i got a buzz on and fantasize a...
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serenity prayer
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The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sin...
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10/8 THOUGHT
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Learn what you are and be such. --Pindar
The most precious gift we can give those closest to us is honesty. Yet we often hide our true selves from friends, fearing we won't be accepted or loved if we let them see the real us. Often, we show parts of ourselves that hide who we really are. We have often h...
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10/8 GIFT
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People have a need to feel their pain. Very often pain is the beginning of a great deal of awareness. As an energy, it awakens consciousness. --Arnold Mindell
Better the Pain Than to Remain the Same
The Barbara I met at my high school reunion was not the same person I had known a dec...
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Today's Quote
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Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality. -Les Brown
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question
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how am i supposed to knwo ifi have a driniking problem?
im 18 and i drink with friends at parties and such
i do however drink by myself sometime s before igo to bed
i love wine but i drink vodka to get drunk or jsut to fall asllep
kinda like now
i donno if i need help or if this is norma...
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thanx
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i just wanted to thank everyone for ur help.
i found this site last night when i finished drinking my problems away for the night. after going through ur posts and web sites, i realized that yes i do have a problem. i just dont know how to fix it. im not a terrible alcoholic but im surly on my way there. its t...
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i want to KEEP what i got
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A New Pattern Of Living
"We suspect that if we do not use what we have, we will lose what we have."
Basic Text p. 75
Addiction gave a pattern to our lives, and with it a meaning - a dark, diseased meaning, to be sure, but a meaning nonetheless. The recovery program gives us a new pattern of living to r...
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tis a great day for recovery-forgiveness
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Today is October 6, 2005 A Great Day for Recovery!
FORGIVENESS
"Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom." -- Hannah Arendt Early in sobriety I found it easy to forgive others but hard to forgive myself. This kept me sick and negative, even in recovery, because I was unable to p...
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10/7 thought
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There are two kinds of slaves, the prisoners of addiction, and the prisoners of envy. --Ivan Ilich
No emotion brings us more personal pain or wastes more of our time than envy. When we envy, we are never free from stress, because envy takes no holidays. Shakespeare called envy the green sicknes...
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Check in
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Hi all.
I survived the stag weekend, but not sober, really fluffed up and got wasted 3 nights running. I've got video footage of me running into the sea naked at 3am and then losing all my clothes, my friends had to dress me and carry me off the beach. I'm lucky to have friends that would do that. Totally p...
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Worry
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addiction or envy it is still slavery
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There are two kinds of slaves, the prisoners of addiction, and the prisoners of envy. --Ivan Ilich
No emotion brings us more personal pain or wastes more of our time than envy. When we envy, we are never free from stress, because envy takes no holidays. Shakespeare called envy the green sickness....
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alcohoroscopes:)
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ARIES Drinking style: Impulsive Aries people like to party and sometimes don't know when to call it a night. Their competitive streak makes them prone to closing time shot contests. They're sloppy, fun drunks, and they get mighty flirty after a couple tipples. Getting Aries people drunk is a good wa...
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My Brain Train
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Since I really got back on this sobriety business, I've found that, once in a while, especially after a little "channeling" (sort of like a meditative poking around in the subconscious closet of the mind) that I can find my brain has left the station without me.
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Daily Reflections Oct 8
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making amends with NO expectations
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hi , i am rosie, recovering alcoholic......i cannot remember if this is off the "NA" daily or the "AA" daily.....i read both because i get so much out of them both!!!!! so i hope it is ok, that i gave my take on this daily with you all......peace/ rosie.......
i kno...
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Traumatic Experiences
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Effects of Traumatic Experiences A National Center for PTSD Fact Sheet by Eve B. Carlson, Ph.D. and Josef Ruzek, Ph.D.
When people find themselves suddenly in danger, sometimes they are overcome with feelings of fear, helplessness, or horror. These events are called traumatic experiences. So...
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leaning on my higher power
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Depending On Our Higher Power
"As recovering addicts, acoas, or codas, we find that we are still dependent, but our dependence has shifted from the things around us to a loving God and the innerstrength we get in our relationship with Him."Basic Text pp.67-68 For many addicts, rebelliousness is s...
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I cannot accept that we call it a disease
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How lucky we are that our "disease" can be cured simply by not picking up a bottle of booze again...if only cancer patients or diabetics could be so fortunate!
Please people, be honest with yourselves...it's a character defect, like picking your nose in public or not covering your mouth when you...
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I surrender
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I dont exactly know the proper way to do it, I'm not sure if there's some sort of protocol or etiquette, all I know is that I am totally hopeless on my own...alcohol is too strong for me, it's beaten me and without help it will always have me in it's grip. This morning I prayed, pleaded and sucked up to god as b...
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today's gift
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Everyone is a bore to someone. That is unimportant. The thing to avoid is being a bore to oneself. --Gerald Brenan
As teenagers, most of us were very self-conscious and concerned about how we looked to others. That was a normal stage in development. But, for many of us, our addictions beg...
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conditions
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we set them, others set them, we get let down, but life goes on
i can stew on it or make pie...
jeez, did any of that make sense???
i am going ahead with my road trip plans, i don't care what happens or who thinks what, where, when, why or how!!!!
i just looked up meetings in calgary, wow theres a ton of...
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10/6 THOUGHT
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What we do upon some great occasion will probably depend on what we already are: and what we already are will be the result of previous years of self-discipline. --H. P. Viddon
In the ninth inning of the baseball game with a tie score and the bases loaded, the batter hit a home run. The fans and the t...
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Daily Reflections Oct 7
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DAILY MONITORING
   
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8 Stages of Sobriety
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1. Surrender. So absolutely important in my recovery. After recognizing I had a problem with booze I found out the only way to win was to surrender. To admit I was, without a doubt, beaten.
2. Uncertainty: Coupled with fear. Will I be the same? What is going to become of me? Will I really stop drinking j...
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finally!!!!!
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i'm going to Calgary this weekend!!!!!!! to see my mom and my sister!!!
i very rarely get a whole weekend off, and it so happens that this weekend is thanksgiving for us here in canada
i'm so excited!!! my mom says she is too.
i haven't seen them now for a couple of years
my sister asked if i could ta...
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DISEASE - Noun
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TODAY
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Today I will delete from my diary
two days: yesterday and tomorrow
Yesterday was to learn
and tomorrow will be the consequence
of what I can do today.
 
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What's up Tipsy?
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Hey man. Haven't seen you around this site for a about a day now. How you holding up? Made it to a meeting yet?
Inquiring minds want to know.
Hugs,
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Blizzard of '05
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Well, we've made it through the first winter storm of the season! We went for 12 hours without electricity because the heavy wet snow, combined with the high winds, knocked down a lot of trees and powerlines! October 5 is absurdly early, EVEN for this far north!
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Thoughts For Thursday
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Its amazing how someone can break your heart but you can still love them with e v e r y broken peice of it ..
Love doesnt require you to be p e r f e c t but it does require you to f o r g i v e
Love isnt finding the perfect person its seeing a imperfect person perfectly
Sometimes you just gotta figure .. if an...
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hello everone
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hey guys took the day off work going to see my son in college for most of the day, have lunch and just visit. i been looking forward to this.maybe stop at walmart for i have not been in a walmart yet. yep to busy drinking before. man what a life i had. evey one stay safe today god bless u wagon
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Daily Reflections 10/6
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FACING OURSELVES    
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Hi Y'all
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Sitting here watching the first snow of the season sift down...I am always amazed at how clean it looks. Snowball fight anyone???
Love cheri
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ANOTHER "ism"
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Well, MIP family, still no word from John. I emailed him this morning and asked "what's going" on, he read it, but has yet to answer, he may have emailed me at home, I'll find out in a few hours. In the meantime I've been trying to figure this all out. Some of you may be aware of this other " ISM ",...
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