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Simple Reminder -- Apr.
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The pain of consequences of our past. I am filled with fear.
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Today I find myself in such a parylized state of fear and resentment. I assume it involves unmet expectations. Things have been going well with my Sig other. He expressed to me his excitent and hope for our future moving forward. My sobriety, meeting attendance has been constant. Then 2 days later af...
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Driver's License
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For quite a while had a problem with employer's not accepting job applications because a person did not have a license. Here is what I sent to the local paper--Kalamazoo Gazette on November 7 2008. Letter to the Editor: NO EMPLOYMENT FOR PEOPLE WITHOUT DRIVER"S LICENSE As many people an...
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Financial Responsibility
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We are responsible for ourselves financially.
What a frightening, grown up thought that is for many of us - taking responsibility for money and our financial affairs. For many of us, handing over responsibility for our financial affairs has been part of a codependent trade off in our relationshi...
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Wisdom of the Rooms 4/24
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April 24, 2017Quote of the WeekLife is as bad as I want to make it. I used to make my life really hard. Id wake up with a bad attitude and immediately begin searching for all the things that were wrong or that could go wrong. I hated my job but felt stuck in it. If I was in a relationship, I couldnt wait to g...
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AA Meetings In The Chatroom?
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We used to have AA meetings here in the chat room. They were scheduled at specific times during the week. We stopped having them in 2014. In an effort to foster more participation in the forum, maybe we could start another meeting. We have the chat room all set up. If you'd like, you can take a look at it: ht...
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Feeling safe
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Hello just wanted to share my experience yesterday. I have been Sober 4th will be 10 months :). I had to read my peer eval at recovery group I attend. I was scared to death by putting it on paper the chaos everything I put up with the shame guilt 5 children I buried all came out I was no longer afraid and I can pu...
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Distract a drinking teenager
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My daughter who is 15 years old was caught drinking at her school dance. For me my daughter was the poster child of a "good kid". Up until that moment, we used to be very friendly with each other. She used to be very active, brimming with energy, participating in varsity sports, volunteering to mention a...
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Guess whos back?
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Some of you may remember me? Some may not know me... well I'm back yet again. Wow almost 5 years of being "out there" It is not fun. I have a 3 year old daughter with my wife now and she is a truly a blessing. 16 days ago I had a weird episode where I drank a bunch and spent a lot of $$ at a casino and ended up dehy...
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Head melter
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I'm back to do my usual stream of conciousness writing to help me clear my head.
So I get married to a canny lass on the 21st June this year. She's just started working after 24 years as a single mother on shag all money, so she's damn good at budgeting and living on shag all money.
She saves almost all of...
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One Dy is all I have
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Occasionally people have said to me "all I have is this day" and it gave me the oddest feeling. I felt like questioning their freedom from both the past and the future. It means a lot to me knowing that today I got through without reaching for a drink or drug, losing my temper, being overly critical or tryi...
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Dry drunk grandma
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Hi everyone. After really giving it some thought, I've decided to work the AA Steps along with the Al-Anon ones. Several people have kind of nudged me in the AA direction, meaning that some of my behaviors aren't up to standards (?) in their opinion. My early years did include a fair amount of drinking...
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Pappy's New Look
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This is quite different than the one in my Avatar ... my hair was come'n out in large clumps, so I shaved my head ... then 1/2 my moustache fell off ... so I shaved the rest off ... funny thing, I haven't shaved for a week now and no beard stubble what-so-ever ??? ... I might get to liking this development, LO...
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Wisdom of the Rooms 4/17
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April 17, 2017Quote of the WeekI suffer from terminal uniqueness. I used to think I was so special. Wherever I went, and whatever I did, inside Id constantly be thinking, Look at me! Notice what Im doing, what Im wearing, etc. I used to think that the world revolved around me and that I was too unique...
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I was an alcoholic
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Hi all, I was an alcoholic. I was convicted of drinking and drinking a few years ago. I have stopped drinking alcohol since I came out from the rehab 4 years ago. Now I have got a better job opportunity in the Canada. I am desperately in need of a change of place. So I think it would be just perfect for me to go....
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Families!
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So my future mother in law's sister died 2 weeks ago..
The son of the sister rang our lass but refused to tell Tracey's mum.
They didn't tell us when the funeral would be. It was yesterday.
Now the lil so and so has sent several mealy mouthed messages to our lass, calling her and her mum uphill and down da...
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NON-RELIGIOUS AA meetings San Diego
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As someone who's been through two D.U.I.s I am very familiar with AA meetings and to be honest i thought they helped curb my alcoholism quite a bit. Unfortunately, after 4 years since my last one i feel like i am in need of help once again -- this time before trouble. I'm from San Diego and I wanted to know if...
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Wisdom of the Rooms 4/10
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April 10, 2017Quote of the WeekIf God had made today perfect, there would be no tomorrow. As an alcoholic, I have a lot of black and white thinking. Things are either all right, or they are all wrong there is very little in between. Before I got sober, this kind of thinking was a big handicap in my life...
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Praying for those we hold resentments towards for two weeks and still holding on
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Hi Everyone, I have a question related to my first (last post) about Amends. I have had a real difficult time with forgiving those who I felt had harmed me, and whom I held resentments towards. The AA Sponsor I had in Japan in 2011 when I went through the steps for the first time suggested that I pray for tho...
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Wisdom of the Rooms 4/3
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April 3, 2017Quote of the Week"Before you do something stupid, wait 24 hours..." Restraint of pen and tongue was a foreign concept to me before I entered the program. Instead, I was impetuous and acted on feelings of jealousy, fear, anger or hurt pride. Fueled by resentment, it was easy for me to ju...
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Making an Amend
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Hello Everyone, I need some advice about making an amend. I did one in 2011 and it went very well. It was a financial amend, and I remember asking my informal sponsor lots of questions like, What if this person does not want to see me?" or "What if I try to leave the money with the reception in her office but s...
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One week and two days sober!
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Hey everyone hope you guys are doing well! Just wanted to give an update since my first post to let you all know im one week and two days sober! The fourth day was the hardest for whatever reason, i felt so miserable, restless, sad one minute, angry the next. But after that day it seemed to get easier. Ive n...
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First time here
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iv never done this how do I join a chat I'm 220 days sober and really struggling with my demons today and can't find a meeting today where I live
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Today's Gift -- Mar.
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UnselfishnessDear Lord, I must continually work toward unselfishness. To be unselfish is to be useful. When I am selfish, I am useless to myself, You, and others. Help me to stop thinking on only me and to stop hoarding not only material things but also my thoughts and feelings from others. Dear Lord,...
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Simple Reminder -- Mar.
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My long history with alcohol
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Trying not to drink today. I got drunk in puplic school for the first time. My 12th birthday. My parents didn't find out as they were too busy drinking with their friends. I am now 54. I quit drinking for 6 months while going through a custody battle about 13 years ago. After being separated i had to work mo...
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Crosstalk
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There is someone who constantly says, "uh huh, um hmm" or worse, says something affirmative to the person sharing like, "that's right" or "no, that's fine" for example. We want to extend her the courtesy of not blasting in in front of the group, so how can I approach her? I cannot control how she will fee...
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Step 2 ?feeling confused maybe not completely honest ?
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So I am starting step two.. I was raised Catholic, Still believe I am a devoted Catholic, Well I shouldn't say that, If I was a devoted Catholic then that would mean I should have no problem believing in God,, That's part of my confusion,, Since I've been attending Alcoholics Anonymous meetings I've co...
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Feeling seeing light sun again
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I am currently in a group that is helping me immensely. Its very intense but definitely what I need. I feel grateful and blessed I will have 9 months 4-2 . AA and these rooms has also kept me on track so ty for all the support.
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Newby, a little about me & my alcoholism.
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Hi there everybody. My name is Kay. I knew i always loved the feeling of alcohol when i first started drinking with my friends at the age of 14. I felt on top of the world, and my anxiety seemed to dissapear. Around the age of 17/18/19 it became more accessible and i started binge drinking more at parties, s...
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Weekend drinker
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im not sure what to do. I don't drink much, but lately on the weekends, I have been drinking too much. I have been dealing with stress I can't control. I want to stop and be better. I feel so bad about takes. Even my husband says I drink too much now. I cry too much afterwards because now I think he's rig...
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Wisdom of the Rooms 3/27
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March 27, 2017Quote of the WeekThose who laugh - last. I remember hearing the phrase, "We are not a glum lot" when I was new in recovery - I didn't believe it. I mean, here I was sentenced to attending meetings, prohibited from partying, and forced to believe in God. Things looked pretty glum to me. If i...
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Staying Away From The First Drink
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2 Staying Away from the First Drink Expressions commonly heard in AA are "If you don't take that first drink, you can't get drunk" and "One drink is too many, but twenty are not enough." Many of us, when we first began to drink, never wanted or took more than one or two drinks. But as time went on, we incre...
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Alcohol abuser
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I was asked why I thought I was an alcoholic. My answer is that it has a better ring to it than alcohol abuser and there is no abusers anonymous group that I know of. My therapist says I am not an alcoholic based on my behavior with alcohol. I don't HAVE to have it. I just choose to. Now granted some of the chose...
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My Story
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Hopefully I'm doing this correctly. If not, let me know and I'll post this somewhere else. Been a heavy drinker since I was 18yrs old. I'm 37 now. Where I live, everyone and anyone is a regular drinker. Drinking never really got me in trouble sans maybe some dumb bets at the casino. No DUI's, no alco...
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alcholic - please help
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i hit my rock bottom yesterday. i dont remember anything past 3pm yesterday. drove off road. no damage to vehicle or me, except a hangover and feeling worse about myself now. i drank 375mL of rum in 3 hours. ended up in hospital. i don't know if i still have a job to go back to. my husband says he may take my 7 w...
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Comic ... it ain't like 60 years ago, that's for sure ...
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Recovery Coaching
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Hello Everyone, My name is Jennifer. I'm an alcoholic in recovery. I'm also a student studying to become a recovery coach. I never had a recovery coach back in the day - I'd never even heard of one, and I wonder if a coach might have helped me. Today, I want to be for people what I wish I'd had - a partner i...
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Examples of unmanageable
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My sponsor told me to give them 10 examples of unmanageable, I understand what the word unmanageable means but I'm having trouble coming up with examples of how my life had become unmanageable, I had no problems coming up with 10 examples of how I was powerless over my addiction but I can't come up with...
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dealing with a relationship breakup
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My sister who is a lesbian was in a relationship which broke up recently. I have been her only support during trying times. I have been beside her encouraging her to enjoy life , do things which she likes and not to exert herself too much. I am scared, in spite of all my efforts, if she is falling into depres...
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So I decided to do further research...
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Hi all, Sadly this isn't my first time as a poster on this board. I was quite busy here for sometime a few years ago, and then as the title said... I just had to find out if I really was a true alcoholic. Well, 3 or so years later I think that question has been well and truly answered. God. What a mess. Just like t...
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Sober New Years Eve Party
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I am going to a sober New Years Eve Party tonight and I am nervous. How do you get rid of the anxiety, I mean its with like 150 people from the meetings in my area and I know some of them so why be so nervous? I am not nervous to go to meetings anymore? lol Does anybody have any suggestions or like conversation st...
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Wisdom of the Rooms 3/6
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March 6, 2017Quote of the WeekThe secret to my recovery is no secret. When I was new to recovery, staying sober even one day at a time was a seemingly impossible task at times. Old triggers lurked around every corner, and feelings descended on me without warning. While I was in a meeting I was O.K., b...
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Thanks!
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Hi Everyone, On behalf of the transition committee, I just wanted to thank everyone for your donations! After the last donation drive we had we came out about a year ahead on our fees to Sparklit, who is the host of our board, so we decided to stop taking donations for a little while.We may have another c...
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At a loss
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Not sure what to do about my situation. It took me years to have my eyes open to the deception some people used. I don't know whether to cry or feel angry. My former husband and I were married in the Catholic Church which means no sex unless we are trying to conceive. He did not like it, so he went and got a bott...
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The Dilemma of No Faith
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The Dilemma of No Faith By Bill W.Copyright © AA Grapevine, Inc, April 1961 The phrase "God As We Understand Him" is perhaps the most important expression to be found in our whole AA vocabulary. Within the compass of these five significant words there can be included every kind and degree of fa...
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Today's Gift -- Feb.
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A man who has committed a mistake and doesn't correct it is committing another mistake. --ConfuciusStep Ten tells us that when we are wrong, we must "promptly" admit it. We aren't used to admitting our mistakes. We defend ourselves or blame others. This is called denial. Denial is bad for two reasons...
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Simple Reminder -- Feb.
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Courage and Prudence
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Courage and Prudence When fear persisted, we knew it for what it was, and we became able to handle it. We began to see each adversity as a God-given opportunity to develop the kind of courage which is born of humility, rather than of bravado. ------------------------------ Prudence is a workable mid...
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Wisdom of the Rooms 2/27
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February 27, 2017Quote of the Week"I wanted to be famous but God made me anonymous." I had some pretty big plans when I entered the program. Even though my sponsor told me it wasn't about money, property and prestige, I knew better. I was convinced that, being sober, I would finally write the books an...
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