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Physical and mental changes after quitting
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Hi Everyone, It's been two weeks for me. This site helps, because it's still not easy. I was wondering what changes you all noticed within yourselves at the beginning of quitting and then later on. I've noticed deeper thinking...glimpses of the truth. I've noticed some physical changes too and just...
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Daily Reflections ~ Equal Rights & 24hrs a Day
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At one time or another most A.A. groups go on rule making benders. . . . After a time fear and intolerance subside. [and we realize] We do not wish to deny anyone his chance to recover from alcoholism. We wish to be just as inclusive as we can, never exclusive. A.A. TRADITION: HOW IT DEVELOPED. pp. 10, 11, 1...
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God Calling ~ Test Your Love
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"A great love knows that in every difficulty, every trial, every failure, the presence of the loved one suffices. Test your love for Me by this. Just to be with Me, just to know I am beside you - does that bring you joy and peace? If not, then your love for Me, and your realization of My love, are at fa...
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Something Only an Alcoholic Would Say
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I'm watching the movie "Blue Valentine" and this choice little bit of dialog was something I just had to share with you all... CINDY: Id like to see you have a job where you didnt have to start drinking at 8 oclock in the morning to go to it. DEAN: No, I have a job that I CAN drink at 8 oclock in the mo...
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Member dies in AA meeting right B4 meeting
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One of our very special home group members had a heart attack before our meeting while fellowshiping in meeting place. I had just arrived before ambulances got there. I was very close to him. I talked to him daily about working the program. He was a wonderful and inspirational member of our group....
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God Calling ~ Roots and Fruits
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"Remember the lesson of the seed in its sending a shoot down so that it may be rooted and grounded, while at the same time it sends a shoot up to be the plant that gladdens the world. The two growths are necessary. Without the strong root it would soon wither, as much activity fails for lack of growth...
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Sobriety
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Hello, this is my first time on this website, and looking forward to making new sober friendships. The road to recovery was a messy wreckage I left behind. I began drinking Wild Turkey shots for my teeth pain I was going thru and didn't have Dental Ins. But that 1-shot turned into 6-years of destruction...
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God Calling ~ Claim More
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"You are doing your claiming as I have said, and soon you will see the result. You cannot do this long without it being seen in the material. You see others manifesting so easily, so readily demonstrating My power. But you have not seen the discipline that went before. Discipline is absolutel...
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Never give up, but protect yourself too.
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I'v heard it said and I believe it to be true. Never give up on something good you can't go a day without thinking about. if it's meant to happen, it will, if not, it won't, but whatever, it'll happen in God's time, not mine. But finally, never make someone your priority if you're only an option for them.
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Repairing relationships destroyed through alcoholism
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Hi guys! Its week 3 for me sober and I find the most difficult thing for me to deal with now is the emotional hurt of having destroyed a relationship with someone I truly loved through the effects of my alcoholism. After many drunken fights, lies about drinking, saying many mean things that I never rem...
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Six months down - a lifetime to go.
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Hello fellow travellers, As of the 19th of May I have been six months sober and I feel great. AA has given me some great tools to not only stay sober but to be happier. The buggy things in life don't get to me anymore because most of them I can't change so I just ignore them, and the ones I can change usually inv...
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Relationships- very difficult
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Where to go. I've been praying more than ever, but my patience is wearing thin. My wife and I: married 16 years, 2 kids 14 & 12, I've been sober 3 + years, she had an affair for a year during the first year of recovery. This was done discreetly. Sounds text book huh.... We were going to mediate a d...
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Releasing the Giant within
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The other day on the radio I heard a story about a Catholic priest in Melbourne in the '50's and '60's who was one of the first progressive priests of the time. He wasn't interested in doctrine or even what religion you followed as he saw them all a different paths to the same end. What he wanted to do was (in...
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My ass hurts
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Just wanted you all to know that. I have been cramped into small airplane seats all day and I thought you all needed a shocking new topic. Tom
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Daily Reflections ~ Progressive Gratitude & 24hrs a Day
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Gratitude should go forward, rather than backward. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 29 I am very grateful that my Higher Power has given me a second chance to live a worthwhile life. Through Alcoholics Anonymous, I have been restored to sanity. The promises are being fulfilled in my life. I am grateful to be free fro...
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32 days ago I died in the ambulance...
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Yesterday, at 30 days my son turned 3. Today went to my regular meeting house and got my chip. My new second home.
After all these years of trying it on my own it took dying with a BAC of .54 to wake me up. Talk about a spiritual awakening. I know other have had the same, and I know others for whom death made no...
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Your anonymity is not automatically protected here. (From John)
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Hello folks, Someone has eluded to the idea that they thought their anonymity was automatically protected here, but this is a public message board. It can be crawled by google, yahoo, and another search bot that roams around the internet. If you are using your full name in your registration, inste...
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Daily Reflections ~ Happy, Joyous and Free & 24hrs a day
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We are sure God wants us to be happy, joyous, and free. We cannot subscribe to the belief that this life is a vale of tears, though it once was just that for many of us. But it is clear that we made our own misery. God didnt do it. Avoid then, the deliberate manufacture of misery, but if trouble comes, cheerfu...
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God Calling ~ Abundance
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"Get a feeling of bounteous giving into your being. I give with a large hand and heart. Note the draught of fishes. The net broke; the boat began to sink with the lavishness of My gift. Lose sight of all limitations. Abundance is God's supply. Turn out all limited thoughts. Receive showers a...
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What happened to contrition?
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What happened to contrition? Hardly ever heard in meetings nowadays. That was the hallmark of Dr Bob's recovery. My contrite heart refused self pity & resentment. That's what refused to divorce my wife when she got mad with me. That's what refused to leave my employer when he scolded me when I wa...
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God Calling ~ Accomplish Anything
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"There will be no limit to what you can accomplish. Realize that. Never relinquish any task or give up the thought of any task because it seems beyond your power, only if you see it is not My Will for you. This I command you. Think of the tiny snowdrop-shoot in the hard ground. No certainty even t...
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I've been f**king up
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Got nine months and then racked up 4 lapses. No "oh my god, where's Dad? It's been two days!" benders, but though a failure to maintain my spiritual; connection with my higher power I have allowed my character defects to get the better of me and old habits behaviors being what they are' I'm an...
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God Calling ~ Little Frets
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"Your lack of control is due not to the big burdens, but to your permitting the little frets and cares and burdens to accumulate. If anything vexes you, deal with that and get that righted with Me before you allow yourself to speak to or meet anybody, or to undertake any new duty. Look upon yourself...
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God Calling ~
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Win Me, Win All "You will conquer. The conquering spirit is never crushed. Keep a brave and trusting heart. Face all your difficulties in the spirit of conquest. Rise to greater heights than you have known before. Remember where I am is victory. Forces of evil, within and without you, flee...
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examining one's motives.
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it's something thqt of late I've realised I do afer the fact most times. Basically I lie to myself and dress my motives up in something more palatable to me. A couple of weeks ago I needed to go to two banks. I convinced myself to go to the ones across the mall from where my son works. I felt uneasy so talked to...
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One day at a time........
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......this being one of those days that must happen. It's not a good day for me. I don't know what to do to change it, or more rather to change the way I'm looking at it. Gratitude List - well I'm still sober, still don't want to drink, got friends, people who care, I can show love, I can accept love, I can help...
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Nothing but...
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...gratitude today. I was reading through recent posts and somewhere someone said something about making a gratitude list that had nothing to do with yourself. Well, I tried, but I could not. It did not take more than a few entries to realize that even if I was expressing and feeling genuine gratitude...
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Meetings are crucial and I don't ask why.
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The longer I am sober the more crucial the meetings become. The relapse begins with complacency & self satifaction. One slip is all it needs for the entire structure to collapse. The speaker's story tonight spoke of just that. What's frightening is that the family are just as sick. They were will...
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Thought/Meditation of the Day
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~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Be A Sponsor*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ SELF-ACCEPTANCE We know that God lovingly watches over us. We know that when we turn to Him, all will be well with us, here and hereafter. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 105 I pray for the willingness to remember that I am a child of God, a div...
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Todays Meditation
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~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Be A Sponsor*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ WHAT WE KNOW BEST "Shoemaker, stick to thy last!" . . . better do one thing supremely well than many badly. That is the central theme of this Tradition [Five]. Around it our Society gathers in unity. The very life of our Fellowship requires the pres...
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AA Thought For The Day
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A.A. Thought for the Day
The A.A. way is the way of sobriety, and yet there are slips. Why do these slips occur? Why don't we all accept A.A. and stay sober from then on? There are many reasons, but it has been proved without exception that once we have become alcoholics we can never drink successfull...
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Thought/Meditation of the Day
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~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Be A Sponsor*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ GLOBAL SHARING The only thing that matters is that he is an alcoholic who has found a key to sobriety. These legacies of suffering and of recovery are easily passed among alcoholics, one to the other. This is our gift from God, and its bes...
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Daily Reflections ~ As We Understand Him & 24hrs a Day
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My friend suggested what then seemed a novel idea . . . "Why don't you choose your own conception of God?" That statement hit me hard. It melted the icy intellectual mountain in whose shadow I had lived and shivered many years. I stood in the sunlight at last. It was only a matter of being willi...
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Daily Reflections ~ Real Independence & 24hrs a Day
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The more we become willing to depend upon a Higher Power, the more independent we actually are. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 36 I start with a little willingness to trust God and He causes that willingness to grow. The more willingness I have, the more trust I gain, and the more trust I gain, th...
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Daily Reflections ~ Active, Not Passive & 24hrs a Day
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Man is supposed to think, and act. He wasn't made to God's image to be an automation. As Bill Sees It, p. 55 Before I joined A.A., I often did not think, and reacted to people and situations. When not reacting I acted in a mechanical fashion. After joining A.A., I started seeking daily guidance from a Powe...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Full & Thankful Heart + 24hrs a Day
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I try hard to hold fast to the truth that a full and thankful heart cannot entertain certain conceits. When brimming with gratitude, one's heartbeat must surely result in outgoing love, the finest emotion that we can ever know. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 37 I believe that we in Alcoholics Anonymous are fortun...
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If program not easy you are not doing it right. True or False
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I went to home group meeting last night. The topic was "a softer gentler way" It was said several times that if the AA program and maintaining sobriety is not easy then you are not working your program correctly. Some say this is a simple program but not an easy one. Also have heard it is a s...
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that filmsy reed...
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In my worst days when I could not manage my life drunk or sober I held on to that filmsy reed. I know today it was definitely the hand of God. But I had to be still & know that it was God. What an ask from a restless, irritable alcoholic. Despite myself HE still got me well, if I was only willing to let HIM. --...
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"Do not be discouraged" BB.
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Why are we discouraged? None of us have been able to do these steps perfectly. We are striving for the ideal. That's all that is important. Setbacks are there to give us strength. The paradox: when I am weak, then I am strong. God is interested in weak people, so that He may help us with our infirmities. I f...
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I'm Looking 4 A SPONSOR
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Hi Guys & Gals Been in the program for a couple of decades and I'm looking for a sponsor. My sponsor died a couple of months ago. Need your help in getting thru the middle of my 4th step. I'll be waiting for one of you ?
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to an old sweetheart
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ok sentimental old fool that I am, having moved on from snatches of song lyrics to full blooded poems I find this from Burns who surely was one of us in training. But only one verse eh? Permit me. Once fondly lov'd and still remember'd dear, sweet early object of my youthful vows, accept this mark of frien...
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Can you all remind me why I can't have a glass of wine?
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It's been nine days without running to the glass of wine to numb myself. I could use some encouragement please. I'm very happy I haven't drank, but I'm feeling a little depressed.
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Thank you God
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Thank you God for helping me stay sober today. For not giving me more than I can handle in a day. For putting the people in my life who can help. For carrying me thru the pains of the past month. For not letting me have enough money to afford a bottle when I got to the offy on Good Friday. God bless my posse, you k...
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Sometimes forgiveness seems impossible
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: When people don't forgive, they probably shorten their lives. --Doris Donnelly Sometimes forgiveness seems impossible and we feel stuck in the quicksand of our own resentment. When everything else fails, we can try the "First Five People Forgiveness Plan...
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Daily Reflections ~ A List of Blessings & 24hrs a Day
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One exercise that I practice is to try for a full inventory of my blessings. . . . AS BILL SEES IT, p. 37 What did I have to be grateful for? I shut myself up and started listing the blessings for which I was in no way responsible, beginning with having been born of sound mind and body. I went through seventy-f...
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Please help...I don't know what's wrong with me....
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It seems that no matter what great situtaion I'm in I sabotage it and go to great lengths to harm myself and do damge to my life. Why do I do this? Please, somebody, give me an answer :(
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First AA meeting
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I attended my first meeting last night and the stories told there were both sad and moving. One in particular stuck home with me was a lady there as she called herself a codependent with her husband in a rehab clinic for the first time and her struggles. This meant something to me about what Im doing to my w...
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Growth from RAF to ALF
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The triangle of Obsession, learning to shift from resentment ,anger and fear to acceptance ,love and faith! The Resentment kept me stuck in the past, the Acceptance helped me moved forward a day at a time. In the present the Anger blinded me, the Love helped me free myself. Without projection,becau...
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Help on cravings and finding faith
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I am new to this and a bit nerves. I would appreciate some ideas for dealing with cravings. I hope if I learn to deal with them I can beat this. I have recently started attending church and truly want to believe. I frequently read and read my first book on religion called The Case for Christ by Lee Strobel....
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~ Three Meetings...Ten Days
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This nasty cold/infection is finally letting up and I am back to work today. I made it to the noon meeting yesterday and will hit the one today as well. It feels like a good place to be and I listened a lot yesterday as people talked about resentments and forgiveness. I have a long way to go on that front but a...
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