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Valuing this Moment
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Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. -- Codependent No More This moment, we are right where we need to be, ri...
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Morning Thoughts - As Bill Sees It
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On awakening, let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity and from dishonest or self-seeking motives. Free of these, we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for God gave us brains to use. Our t...
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emotion
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Hi everyone... I have a question... As I posted before I had my 6 months on Wed. Things are better than I have imagined in just 6 months... BUT I am missing something. I got my motivation and am back in school and have a much better relationship with my family and I know what I want to do with my life now (nursi...
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Owning Our Power
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Many of us have someone in our life that challenges our ability to trust and care for ourselves. When we hear that person's voice or are in his or her presence, we may forget all we know about what is real, about how to own our power, about how to be direct, about what we know and believe to be true, about how i...
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Know Your Motives
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"As long as one keeps searching, the answers come."-- Joan BaezWhy? Why? Why? Asking ourselves 'why?' helps us delve deeply into our main motives -- why we do what we do. This process helps us go deeper into our reasoning, habits and unconscious beliefs. Once we become aware of our underly...
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Healing Thoughts
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Think healing thoughts. When you feel anger or resentment, ask God to help you feel it, learn from it, and then release it. Ask Him to bless those who you feel anger toward. Ask Him to bless you too. When you feel fear, ask Him to take it from you. When you feel misery, force gratitude. When you feel deprive...
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Are you still with us Doll/Jen?
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I'm hoping that you are off somewhere on a well-deserved vacation and I just didn't see you post about going. I miss reading your posts. Jen? Jeh-enn? Ollie ollie in come free!...Tim
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Rescuing Ourselves
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No one likes a martyr. How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away. Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want. It is our job to noti...
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Slogans
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Good morning everyone, I am doing a workshop later on this year in which we will be making God Boxes. I am looking for slogans that you like or have heard in your meetings that I might be able to print out for use on the God Boxes. Thanks for your help Barb
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Leaving Room for Feelings
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We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, and somet...
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Still Here
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Hi Just wanted to check in, still here and sober. Internet is down for a bit, but still pluggin away at her lol. Kids have been away for a bit, and well mama is taking some time for me. Taking it easy, over did it with my left side of my chest, pulled something in the outter wall of my chest. Other than that t...
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Thx all - for helping me get this far
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Greetings all,
I want to thank you, very sincerely, for being part of my sobriety - getting to the two year mark.
Two years ago, my husband (of 18 years) and I got sober together.
One year ago, he was diagnosed with the cancer that took him from this world within 3 months.
Thus, I missed my 1 year bi...
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Sharing a letter by Bill W. from many moons ago..
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This is the substance of a revealing letter which Bill Wilson wrote several years ago to a close friend who also had troubles with depression. The letter appeared in the "Grapevine" January, 1953. EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY "I think that many oldsters who have put our AA "booze cure&...
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step 2
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"came to believe that a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity" i went to a meeting last night that talked about this step. a fellow shared that he needs to read what is in black and white...that it doesn't say.. came to believe IN a power greater than myself...therefore he nee...
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Don't Sweat The Small Stuff...
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Let it go The trivial annoyances, even though they are virtually meaningless, can overwhelm you if you let them. Choose not to let them. Be diligent about the things that truly matter, and be very flexible about the things that don't. There's no sense in wasting your precious time arguing or agonizin...
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Changing
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You cannot build a house or a life without some foundation. While we were still drinking or using drugs, it seemed our lives could not change. There was no foundation to build on. We had no working principles in our lives. We found we could not become the good things we wanted to become. Until we quit drin...
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Have A Great Week !!!
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I just wanted to tell everyone hello, and that I hope all of you have a Great and sober week. Im so happy...I get to pick up my 2 mo. chip this week...provided that I dont drink. All of you have played a VERY important role in helping me get back on the right track. I started my new job last Thursday, and Im lovi...
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Sitting with Feelings
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It can take great courage to really sit with our feelings, allowing ourselves to surrender to their powerful energies. All too often we set our feelings aside, thinking we will deal with them later. If we dont deal with them, we end up storing them in our minds and bodies and this is when anxiety and othe...
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Friends
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Don't overlook the value of friendship. Don't neglect friends. Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to appreciate how much fun we can have with a friend. Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us better, or is more able to give us support, than a good friend? A...
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Kindness
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The rain was coming down in sheets now, and she had no idea how to change a flat. As long as it was raining so hard she held out little hope of getting someone to stop and help her. Suddenly, a rapping came at her window, and she rolled it down slightly. "Need help?" "I've got a flat and...
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Letting Go of Perfection
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As I journey through recovery, more and more I learn that accepting myself and my idiosyncrasies - laughing at myself for my ways - gets me a lot further than picking on myself and trying to make myself perfect. Maybe that's really what it's all about - absolute loving, joyous, nurturing self-accepta...
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Directness
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Direct people are a joy to be around. We never have to guess what they're really thinking or feeling, because they're honest about their thoughts and openly express their feelings. We never have to wonder if they're with us because they want to be, or if they're there out of guilt and obligation. When t...
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One year today...
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Yes, it's been one year for me of straight sobriety as of today. I see that There appears to be some good company. Zster celebrates two years and, I believe, Destinydreamer (Jamie) celebrates six months. I guess this date must have been one of those serious "morning after" times for som...
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How I Did It
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Hi everyone, In my post a few days ago saying that I was eighteen months sober, somebody asked me to share on how I had done it. That got me thinking. When I first came to AA, I just wasn't ready to really accept that I was an alcoholic. I had to go back out and prove to myself once and for all, that I really was. T...
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Any advice ??
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After getting sober again this time, My Dr. Put me on some meds. One of them I take at bedtime to help me sleep, another is for anxity. I take it because I have A.D.D and I take a low dose of Adderall and the meds for anxity help calm me down some . It's a VERY low Mg. The other day I applyed for a new job. I passed th...
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FORGIVENESS
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True forgiveness only occurs when we treat the subject as a closed matter. If we bring up old hurts whenever feelings fly, then we have never really forgiven. To hold a grudge is to build a wall between yourself and another person. Forgiveness breaks down walls. My higher power came to break down w...
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Been busy
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I've been very busy learning my new job. Stopped tonight to catch up on some reading and to say congrats to those with birthdays. Best I can say is keep it up it only gets better. My good friend and fishing buddy died a couple days ago. He used to be drinker also but had sobered up many years ago. It's al...
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moving
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As some of you know my parents moved down south last summer which forced me to get an apartment and partially grow up!I have lived on my own for a year now and only started becoming responsible a short time ago. My 6 month sober date is in a couple days and I realize that I have straightened out my life ALOT th...
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18 Months Sober Today
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Hi everyone, Well, today I have been sober for eighteen months! It seems amazing to me that I have managed this when I look back at my drinking days. And, how my life has changed. I just never thought it would be possible. I am so truly lucky to have found the rooms of AA. My sobriety really is all down to AA an...
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Sharing is healing.
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Sharing is healing. - Cathy Stone It's not easy to share the intimate details of our lives. We have guarded our secrets for years. But now it's suggested that we tell our secrets to people whose names we barely know. That's certainly not the way we were raised, and listening to others reveal their awful...
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A sober summer
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Hello all this summer has flown by I have my kids with me (they usually live 7 hours away ) I'm 4 and 1/2 months sober and I've had a wonderful time just hanging out with the kids its been great I'm clear headed, not depressed and just getting joy from being a dad. Here's the point of this post I went to over 1...
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just checking in...
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Hello all... just stopped by to say hey. Work has me pretty busy right now, but I had a few minutes this morning for a fly by... lol . hmmmm... I didnt see the daily reflection... it used to be posted here every day.
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Asking for What We Need
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Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it. Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy to get what we want and need. We have to go through the pains of identifying what we want, then struggle to believe that we deserve it. Then, we may have to experience the...
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Clinging to the Core
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When Our World Falls Apart There are times when our whole world seems to be falling apart around us, and we are not sure what to hold onto anymore. Sometimes our relationships crumble and sometimes its our physical environment. At other times, we cant put our finger on it, but we feel as if all the walls h...
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Saying Yes
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Yesterday we talked about learning to say no. Today, let's discuss another important word: Yes. We can learn to say yes to things that feel good, to what we want - for others and ourselves. We can learn to say yes to fun. Yes to meetings, to calling a friend, asking for help. We can learn to say yes to health...
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There's Hope
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No matter how painful our early experiences were, our Essence cannot be harmed. Our Essence is waiting for the opportunity to reveal itself. In a very true sense, we are waiting for the opportunity to become ourselves. Our spirit is yearning to break free, to express itself ... And yet, ironically, w...
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My Buddy next door, Mike
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As alot of you know, I went back out , but thanks to my VERY loving God , Im coming up on 2 Mos. ! As a result of me going back out, and coming back into the world of reality A.K.A. sober, my good friend and X drinking buddy next door Mike decided he wanted to get sober too. Yesterday he picked up his 1 Mo. chip. Im s...
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To all of you
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There are quite a few, on the board...achieving stepping stones..one day at a time, in sobriety. You are miracles. Most of us are living on borrowed time. We shouldn't even be here, when one thinks about it...and where we have all come from. Thanks to a "Higher Power" of our individual unde...
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Saying No
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For many of us, the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No. No - simple to pronounce, hard to say. We're afraid people won't like us, or we feel guilty. We may believe that a "good" employee, child, parent, spouse, or Chris...
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Solving Problems
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Problems are made to be solved! Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this happening to me?" . . . "Isn't life awful?" . . . "How come this had to happen?" . . . "Oh, dear. This is terrible." ....
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Question on sponsorship
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I've struggled a lot with finding a good sponsor since I moved to Nebraska... and am having to look for a new one again.... and it's not the whole deal of finding one that will tell me what I want to hear, or anything like that... I think I've posted some about this before, the first one was controllin...
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Ive got to share this one because it is SO true
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A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After ma...
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Unfulfilled Relationship Expectations
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Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot! - Guy Finley Unfulfilled expectations always cause problems. Having expectations in our culture is...
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A celebration...
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Today is a celebration of love, laughter, life, tears, joy, and an incredible journey in recovery. It is by far the most important thing I have ever done, and continue to do, a day at a time. Today, I celebrate 17 years of sobriety. Without God's goodness, a LOT of help from my friends in the rooms of AA, an...
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Keep Smiling
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You can't let adversity get you down. Keep smiling. -- Violet Hensley Violet's smiles certainly fit this category. She lights up rooms with her joy and energy, her fiddle playing and storytelling. We don't all smile quite so easily. Why is that? Some naively assume one's easy; individual circumsta...
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Gratitude
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We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more. -- Codependent No More Say thank you, until we mean it. Thank God, life, and the universe for everyone and everything sent your way. Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It t...
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Perfectionism
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We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measurin...
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Hello. I'm new here.
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My name is Mike, an alcoholic who has been associated with treatment programs since 1985. May 12, 2007 was a typical crisis event that led me to "in-patient" treatment for the first time. The difference between the past and the present is that (1) this is the longest I've been sober since 19...
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Vulnerability
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I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am. -- Anonymous Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we have to show to the world should always be one of politeness, perfection, calm, strength, and control...
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Some readings re Step Two
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How it Works When, therefore, we speak to you of God, we mean your own conception of God. This applies, too, to other spiritual expressions which you find in this book. Do not let any prejudice you may have against spiritual terms deter you from honestly asking yourself what they mean to you. At the star...
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