Alcoholics Anonymous

Doll · Doll

We had to surrender to a power greater than ourselves to get where we are today. And each day, we have to turn to that power for strength and guidance. For us, resistance means struggle-struggle with others as well as an internal struggle. Serenity isn't compatible with struggle. We cannot control fo...

TimW · TimW

After three weeks of sweating out a very thorough background check. They called today and said I start monday. As checkered as my past prior to 95 is I never thought I'd make it past that part. Funny thing is that last night I told my wife that I was done worrying about this thing. The worry and relivin...

LisaF · LisaF

Yes, this is going to be a long ramble, you don't have to read it, but I about feel like I'm losing it right now and I gotta get all this out. I'm a total mess right now, and it's my own fault. I don't know, I've been a basketcase for the last few days. I really don't know what's going on. But you know, all throu...

Wren · Wren

Peace Often we look at the outside world and find it in a state of seeming chaos or disorder. We feel compelled to transform the situation from one of turmoil into one of peace, yet we are often disappointed in our best attempts to do so. One reason for this is that we cannot bring to the world what we do not h...

Phil · Phil

One of the most painful things we have to do in our lives is Letting Go. Sometimes it is Letting Go of things...material things which mean a lot to us, even if only sentimental value. It may mean Letting Go of feelings. When we hold sadness inside, and try to mask it with only a show of happiness, it is bette...

Wren · Wren

Expanding Your Comfort Zone None of us are born with a guidebook that provides explicit rules for thought and behavior that will enable us to navigate life successfully. To cope with the myriad of complexities to which all of humanity is subject, we each develop a set of habits and routines that groun...

Doll · Doll

THE DETERMINATION OF OUR FOUNDERS A year and six months later these three had succeeded with seven more. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 159 If it had not been for the fierce determination of our founders, A.A. would have quickly faded like so many other so-called good causes. I look at the hundreds of meeti...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve the problem in that same way. We may get frustrated, try harder, get more frustrated, and then exert more energy and influence into forcing the same solutio...

Quetzal · Quetzal

When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's work separately to learn the feel, to learn the sound. One hand picks out a part until there is a rhythm and ease in playing what is difficult. Then, the musi...

LisaF · LisaF

[img]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v17/LiaBunny/Sissys%20Kittens%20June%202...

Tipsy McStagger · Tipsy McStagger

For some reason I'm finding myself highly, um...ahem...aroused since I quit drinking. I dont know what to make of it? I dont know if it's normal or what but I'm like a walking sun dial. It's sort of distracting Anyone else experience this when they stopped drinking? Phil?

Doll · Doll

CONFORMING TO THE A.A. WAY We obey A.A.'s Steps and Traditions because we really want them for ourselves. It is no longer a question of good or evil; we conform because we genuinely want to conform. Such is our process of growth in unity and function. Such is the evidence of God's grace and love among us....

ron70062 · ron70062

As I had posted earlier, I was upset about a job that i was trying to get, but I didnt drink over it. Instead, I prayed and asked God if it was his will to let me get it. Well, today I found out I wasnt going to get it. At first I was upset, then I remembered what I had asked God. As we all know, he always gives us a ans...

TimW · TimW

Just found this site today while looking for something up lifting. I haven't drank since 6/95. I'm being considered for a very good job but probably won't survive the back groundcheck due to all the stupid things I did while still drinking. I have found people to be not very forgiving. Oh don't get me w...

cindy · cindy

well, the 4 year relationship i was in thats been over about a year had ended badly with him refusing to speak to me any more as it continually went to conflict. (same old story, i wanted more) we were stuck in a pattern that suited him to a "t" but didnt do much for me. usually i end up on much more c...

Phil · Phil

My thoughts re....a couple of posts from below.... I believe that a lot of times...we can take things out of context...when posts or replys to posts are read...and we can take them as insulting, or personally...beyond...what they are really meant to be... I believe that any replys that someone get...

Quetzal · Quetzal

A slump can go on for days. We feel sluggish, unfocused, and sometimes overwhelmed with feelings we can't sort out. We may not understand what is going on with us. Even our attempts to practice recovery behaviors may not appear to work. We still don't feel emotionally, mentally, and spiritually as go...

Tipsy McStagger · Tipsy McStagger

I'm having a really difficult time right now...cant seem to keep the "just for today" philosophy in my mind. I keep thinking about things in terms of "never", "forever" and "the rest of my life"...I don't think I have what it takes to do anything for the re...

jeannie · jeannie

If we choose to follow in the footsteps of fools, we will also have to suffer the consequences. When we walk along blindly, we are in danger of falling into sin. We must watch our steps and turn from that which is evil. It is our obligation to flee from sin and evil. If we keep company with fools we will...

Wren · Wren

...self-contempt never inspires lasting change. -- Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter I can suck myself down into a deep, black hole when I focus on what I think I SHOULD be more loving, sexy, productive, whatever. Thinking I should be something else means Im not good enough now. This is poverty th...

Doll · Doll

A GIFT THAT GROWS WITH TIME For most normal folks, drinking means conviviality, companionship and colorful imagination. It means release from care, boredom and worry. It is joyous intimacy with friends and a feeling that life is good. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 151 The longer I chased these elusive...

Wren · Wren

Blaming Others As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relat...

LisaF · LisaF

Hey y'all, just checkin in... haven't posted here in awhile... pretty hot here today, but the house is staying cool enough at least... and it's not so bad in the shade outside... Been busy doing major clean up around here all week... I've been working on the house mostly and a bit here and there outside...

Tipsy McStagger · Tipsy McStagger

Hi. Just checking in. Anybody have any words of wisdom or encouragement for me to publicly mock but secretly appreciate?

welshgit77 · welshgit77

When is the best time to be involved in the AA chat room. I live in the UK. I've never used a chat room before and would like to give it a go, but so far have found it empty ???? Welshgit

Doll · Doll

A TWO-WAY STREET If we ask, God will certainly forgive our derelictions. But in no case does He render us white as snow and keep us that way without our cooperation. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 65 When I prayed, I used to omit a lot of things for which I needed to be forgiven. I thought that if I di...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. We're not available to participate in the relationship. We shut down. Sometimes, it is appropriate and healthy to shut down in a relationship. We may legitimat...

Phil · Phil

Checkin in...and just saying hi.... Dts from computer meltdown are a bitch!! :) No addiction here!! jee sus!! New system and comming back online in a few days... Different email address also... Stay sober....stay sane.... Keep on truckin!! and Watch out for Turnip trucks!! Onward!!!

LisaF · LisaF

heh, well, wasn't posting for awhile, now I'm posting a lot... lol H.A.L.T... Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired... I was a bit hungry... not exactly angry... lonely... and definitely tired... have been up all night... being an overprotective mama, and stirrin up trouble... lol I've got a good...

Tipsy McStagger · Tipsy McStagger

You all said I was too flippant to be serious about quitting drinking. You mocked me for coming and going and not being able to make it stick...you were cold, callous and insensitive. Well I've got a little news flash for you, I did finally get "it" and I have put together some clean time s...

Quetzal · Quetzal

It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. -- Chinese Proverb With all the negativity that surrounds us, it is easy to become overwhelmed. It is also tempting to fight against the negative or to declare war on it. Yet a master teacher offered a better way: "Resist not evil, but overc...

ron70062 · ron70062

First, is there a way to do spell check when writing a post. Second, Is there a thread where folks can post Quotes that they have heard in meeting and other places that have been a big help in their recovery?

urnofknowledge · urnofknowledge

New to this whole AA thing, and, well, frankly, comparatively new to the whole alcoholic thing. It's developed into quite the interesting little life predicament in the last, oh, two years, I'd say. Hmm. It's been a rough two years, as I'm sure many of you can relate to. Before I ever became an alcoholi...

destinydreamer · destinydreamer

Hi Jillian... I saw you wrote a post that quickly stated you were new to this on Doll's thread. Just wanted to bring it up top so we can welcome you! I am an alkie from Ct, nice to meet you... feel free to post anytime... lots of supportive people here!

LisaF · LisaF

Well, even with being in and out of the program for a year now, I'd never chaired a meeting... I did pick a topic a couple of weeks ago at one meeting, it's one where whoever has a topic can speak up. But at tonight's meeting, there's a guy that always chairs it, but he has a speech problem, and so he starts i...

Wren · Wren

Beliefs separate. Loving thoughts unite. -- Paul Ferrini Our ego focuses on how we are different from the rest of the world. We connect with soul when we experience how we are the same. Any time you separate yourself from other people or from situations, you know your personality is in control. At suc...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Try harder. Do better. Be perfect. These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done. Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their goal. W...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

A little history---39 year old husband struggling with addiction for 2 years. In and out of sobriety for 2 years. Presently dealing with some serious legal consequences. I found this today---I haven't heard from him since yesterday at 5p. Here goes... It's at these times that I truly believe th...

Doll · Doll

TRUSTING OTHERS But does trust require that we be blind to other people's motives or, indeed, to our own? Not at all; this would be folly. Most certainly, we should assess the capacity for harm as well as the capability for good in every person that we would trust. Such a private inventory can reveal the...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Hi Ron, I decided to start a new thread as your last one was starting to get a little lost. Well done on making a week!!! A Very Big Congratulations!!! Keep going one day at a time. And, please keep posting and let us know how it's going for you, won't you? Take care, Carol

Doll · Doll

Four Noble Truths: Life means suffering The cause of suffering The end of suffering The path to the end of suffering Eightfold Path To Enlightenment: Right knowledge Right intention Right speech Right action Right livelihood Right effort Right mindfulness Right concentration

Wren · Wren

The right to make your own choices is a precious one. We grow when we have the freedom to decide our own paths and determine what makes us happy. Yet there are those who are inclined to try and control others. They may be driven by insecurity, envy, fear, or the need for power. These people are deeply crit...

Doll · Doll

TODAY, I'M FREE This brought me to the good healthy realization that there were plenty of situations left in the world over which I had no personal power--that if I was so ready to admit that to be the case with alcohol, so I must make the same admission with respect to much else. I would have to be still and...

Doll · Doll

Thought someone might like a chuckle The kitties are now 2 months old and I've had no luck finding homes for them. I told my b/f John I had no choice but take them to the SPCA. He's such a sucker sometimes - hee, hee. Couldn't stand the fact they could be put to sleep so he bit the bullet and said "Pick one...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Hi everyone, I have just worked out that today is my 500th sober day! I cannot believe the amazing difference in my life now and how it was when I was still drinking. I am so very grateful to AA and so incredibly lucky to have found the fellowship. Also, it was one year ago yesterday that I was lucky enough to...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Having boundaries doesn't complicate life; boundaries simplify life. --Beyond Codependency There is a positive aspect to boundary setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good. When we are willing to take som...

learning · learning

Everyone has those times when their hearts feel heavy...... At present there is alot that seems to be weighing on mine. I know I can only pray and leave it to God. I do ask your prayers for these people: My sister had surgery close to 3 mos. ago to remove tumor from her colon. Infection set...

timverton · timverton

Your circumstances were getting kind of lost in the shuffle below so I thought to bring it topside so we can stay posted on your well being. Do hope all is going well and yeah, staying busy will keep bad thoughts away for the most part. The rest you have to "just say no" to. That Gatorade you'...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Let yourself feel the good feelings too. Yes, sometimes-good feelings can be as distracting as the painful, more difficult ones. Yes, good feelings can be anxiety producing to those of us unaccustomed to them. But go ahead and feel the good feelings anyway. Feel and accept the joy. The love. The warm...

Phil · Phil

Many of us refuse to put down what is troubling us. We carry resentment, anger, hostility, mistrust, suspicion, grudges, fear, anxiety, worries, and other burdens. How can we travel very far if we are weighed down by so many concerns? When will we learn to drop our cares, release our worries, and let...

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	Give it up already!!!! (Preview) We had to surrender to a power greater than ourselves to get where we are today. And each day, we have to turn to that power for strength and guidance. For us, resistance means struggle-struggle with others as well as an internal struggle. Serenity isn't compatible with struggle. We cannot control fo...	Doll	2	300	Jun 28, 2007 by learning
	Todays a good day (Preview) After three weeks of sweating out a very thorough background check. They called today and said I start monday. As checkered as my past prior to 95 is I never thought I'd make it past that part. Funny thing is that last night I told my wife that I was done worrying about this thing. The worry and relivin...	TimW	6	309	Jun 28, 2007 by learning
	I'm powerless over LIFE and my life has become unmanageable (Preview) Yes, this is going to be a long ramble, you don't have to read it, but I about feel like I'm losing it right now and I gotta get all this out. I'm a total mess right now, and it's my own fault. I don't know, I've been a basketcase for the last few days. I really don't know what's going on. But you know, all throu...	LisaF	7	2586	Jun 28, 2007 by learning
	An Inner Choice (Preview) Peace Often we look at the outside world and find it in a state of seeming chaos or disorder. We feel compelled to transform the situation from one of turmoil into one of peace, yet we are often disappointed in our best attempts to do so. One reason for this is that we cannot bring to the world what we do not h...	Wren	4	374	Jun 28, 2007 by Wren
	OK Wren....Go Bake The Cake!! :) (Preview) One of the most painful things we have to do in our lives is Letting Go. Sometimes it is Letting Go of things...material things which mean a lot to us, even if only sentimental value. It may mean Letting Go of feelings. When we hold sadness inside, and try to mask it with only a show of happiness, it is bette...	Phil	2	653	Jun 28, 2007 by Phil
	The Boundaries of Experience (Preview) Expanding Your Comfort Zone None of us are born with a guidebook that provides explicit rules for thought and behavior that will enable us to navigate life successfully. To cope with the myriad of complexities to which all of humanity is subject, we each develop a set of habits and routines that groun...	Wren	1	327	Jun 28, 2007 by Doll
	Daily Reflections June 28 (Preview) THE DETERMINATION OF OUR FOUNDERS A year and six months later these three had succeeded with seven more. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 159 If it had not been for the fierce determination of our founders, A.A. would have quickly faded like so many other so-called good causes. I look at the hundreds of meeti...	Doll	0	235	Jun 28, 2007 by Doll
	When Things Don't Work (Preview) Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve the problem in that same way. We may get frustrated, try harder, get more frustrated, and then exert more energy and influence into forcing the same solutio...	Quetzal	0	291	Jun 28, 2007 by Quetzal
	Achieving Harmony (Preview) When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's work separately to learn the feel, to learn the sound. One hand picks out a part until there is a rhythm and ease in playing what is difficult. Then, the musi...	Quetzal	2	319	Jun 27, 2007 by timverton
	My "grandbabies" (kittens) lol (Preview) [img]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v17/LiaBunny/Sissys%20Kittens%20June%202...	LisaF	2	358	Jun 27, 2007 by destinydreamer
	Hm, this is weird... (Preview) For some reason I'm finding myself highly, um...ahem...aroused since I quit drinking. I dont know what to make of it? I dont know if it's normal or what but I'm like a walking sun dial. It's sort of distracting Anyone else experience this when they stopped drinking? Phil?	Tipsy McStagger	7	420	Jun 27, 2007 by jeannie
	Jun 27 Daily Reflections (Preview) CONFORMING TO THE A.A. WAY We obey A.A.'s Steps and Traditions because we really want them for ourselves. It is no longer a question of good or evil; we conform because we genuinely want to conform. Such is our process of growth in unity and function. Such is the evidence of God's grace and love among us....	Doll	0	276	Jun 27, 2007 by Doll
	Life get's better (Preview) As I had posted earlier, I was upset about a job that i was trying to get, but I didnt drink over it. Instead, I prayed and asked God if it was his will to let me get it. Well, today I found out I wasnt going to get it. At first I was upset, then I remembered what I had asked God. As we all know, he always gives us a ans...	ron70062	5	317	Jun 27, 2007 by Quetzal
	Hello new here (Preview) Just found this site today while looking for something up lifting. I haven't drank since 6/95. I'm being considered for a very good job but probably won't survive the back groundcheck due to all the stupid things I did while still drinking. I have found people to be not very forgiving. Oh don't get me w...	TimW	11	458	Jun 26, 2007 by miller2
	oh crap! (Preview) well, the 4 year relationship i was in thats been over about a year had ended badly with him refusing to speak to me any more as it continually went to conflict. (same old story, i wanted more) we were stuck in a pattern that suited him to a "t" but didnt do much for me. usually i end up on much more c...	cindy	7	395	Jun 26, 2007 by learning
	Whew!! Lot to catch up on here..:) (Preview) My thoughts re....a couple of posts from below.... I believe that a lot of times...we can take things out of context...when posts or replys to posts are read...and we can take them as insulting, or personally...beyond...what they are really meant to be... I believe that any replys that someone get...	Phil	9	584	Jun 26, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	Surviving Slumps (Preview) A slump can go on for days. We feel sluggish, unfocused, and sometimes overwhelmed with feelings we can't sort out. We may not understand what is going on with us. Even our attempts to practice recovery behaviors may not appear to work. We still don't feel emotionally, mentally, and spiritually as go...	Quetzal	2	379	Jun 26, 2007 by TimW
	Struggling... (Preview) I'm having a really difficult time right now...cant seem to keep the "just for today" philosophy in my mind. I keep thinking about things in terms of "never", "forever" and "the rest of my life"...I don't think I have what it takes to do anything for the re...	Tipsy McStagger	9	439	Jun 26, 2007 by Tipsy McStagger
	Just my thought (Preview) If we choose to follow in the footsteps of fools, we will also have to suffer the consequences. When we walk along blindly, we are in danger of falling into sin. We must watch our steps and turn from that which is evil. It is our obligation to flee from sin and evil. If we keep company with fools we will...	jeannie	0	253	Jun 26, 2007 by jeannie
	Accepting Reality (Preview) ...self-contempt never inspires lasting change. -- Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter I can suck myself down into a deep, black hole when I focus on what I think I SHOULD be more loving, sexy, productive, whatever. Thinking I should be something else means Im not good enough now. This is poverty th...	Wren	1	553	Jun 26, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	Daily Reflections June 26 (Preview) A GIFT THAT GROWS WITH TIME For most normal folks, drinking means conviviality, companionship and colorful imagination. It means release from care, boredom and worry. It is joyous intimacy with friends and a feeling that life is good. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 151 The longer I chased these elusive...	Doll	0	255	Jun 26, 2007 by Doll
	Burdensome Feelings (Preview) Blaming Others As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relat...	Wren	3	448	Jun 25, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	Just checkin in... (Preview) Hey y'all, just checkin in... haven't posted here in awhile... pretty hot here today, but the house is staying cool enough at least... and it's not so bad in the shade outside... Been busy doing major clean up around here all week... I've been working on the house mostly and a bit here and there outside...	LisaF	7	303	Jun 25, 2007 by Phil
	I'm not dead yet (Preview) Hi. Just checking in. Anybody have any words of wisdom or encouragement for me to publicly mock but secretly appreciate?	Tipsy McStagger	4	438	Jun 25, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	Chat room (Preview) When is the best time to be involved in the AA chat room. I live in the UK. I've never used a chat room before and would like to give it a go, but so far have found it empty ???? Welshgit	welshgit77	3	320	Jun 25, 2007 by Zster
	Daily Reflections June 25 (Preview) A TWO-WAY STREET If we ask, God will certainly forgive our derelictions. But in no case does He render us white as snow and keep us that way without our cooperation. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 65 When I prayed, I used to omit a lot of things for which I needed to be forgiven. I thought that if I di...	Doll	0	307	Jun 25, 2007 by Doll
	Withholding (Preview) Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. We're not available to participate in the relationship. We shut down. Sometimes, it is appropriate and healthy to shut down in a relationship. We may legitimat...	Quetzal	0	268	Jun 25, 2007 by Quetzal
	Just sayin "Hi" (Preview) Checkin in...and just saying hi.... Dts from computer meltdown are a bitch!! :) No addiction here!! jee sus!! New system and comming back online in a few days... Different email address also... Stay sober....stay sane.... Keep on truckin!! and Watch out for Turnip trucks!! Onward!!!	Phil	3	373	Jun 24, 2007 by cooncatbob
	H.A.L.T.... (Preview) heh, well, wasn't posting for awhile, now I'm posting a lot... lol H.A.L.T... Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired... I was a bit hungry... not exactly angry... lonely... and definitely tired... have been up all night... being an overprotective mama, and stirrin up trouble... lol I've got a good...	LisaF	2	278	Jun 24, 2007 by LisaF
	Well well well... (Preview) You all said I was too flippant to be serious about quitting drinking. You mocked me for coming and going and not being able to make it stick...you were cold, callous and insensitive. Well I've got a little news flash for you, I did finally get "it" and I have put together some clean time s...	Tipsy McStagger	16	632	Jun 24, 2007 by Phil
	The Light Of Truth (Preview) It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. -- Chinese Proverb With all the negativity that surrounds us, it is easy to become overwhelmed. It is also tempting to fight against the negative or to declare war on it. Yet a master teacher offered a better way: "Resist not evil, but overc...	Quetzal	2	346	Jun 24, 2007 by learning
	Just a couple of questions (Preview) First, is there a way to do spell check when writing a post. Second, Is there a thread where folks can post Quotes that they have heard in meeting and other places that have been a big help in their recovery?	ron70062	8	358	Jun 24, 2007 by Tipsy McStagger
	Hi, I'm an Alcoholic! (Preview) New to this whole AA thing, and, well, frankly, comparatively new to the whole alcoholic thing. It's developed into quite the interesting little life predicament in the last, oh, two years, I'd say. Hmm. It's been a rough two years, as I'm sure many of you can relate to. Before I ever became an alcoholi...	urnofknowledge	10	707	Jun 24, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	Jillian (Preview) Hi Jillian... I saw you wrote a post that quickly stated you were new to this on Doll's thread. Just wanted to bring it up top so we can welcome you! I am an alkie from Ct, nice to meet you... feel free to post anytime... lots of supportive people here!	destinydreamer	8	394	Jun 24, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	I actually sorta chaired a meeting :) ...and 4th step (Preview) Well, even with being in and out of the program for a year now, I'd never chaired a meeting... I did pick a topic a couple of weeks ago at one meeting, it's one where whoever has a topic can speak up. But at tonight's meeting, there's a guy that always chairs it, but he has a speech problem, and so he starts i...	LisaF	1	299	Jun 24, 2007 by Quetzal
	Seek Union over Seperation (Preview) Beliefs separate. Loving thoughts unite. -- Paul Ferrini Our ego focuses on how we are different from the rest of the world. We connect with soul when we experience how we are the same. Any time you separate yourself from other people or from situations, you know your personality is in control. At suc...	Wren	2	303	Jun 24, 2007 by Quetzal
	Letting Go of Old Beliefs (Preview) Try harder. Do better. Be perfect. These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done. Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their goal. W...	Quetzal	1	321	Jun 23, 2007 by timverton
	written by my struggling AH-(long) (Preview) A little history---39 year old husband struggling with addiction for 2 years. In and out of sobriety for 2 years. Presently dealing with some serious legal consequences. I found this today---I haven't heard from him since yesterday at 5p. Here goes... It's at these times that I truly believe th...	mom to 2	5	485	Jun 23, 2007 by mom to 2
	D.R. June 23 (Preview) TRUSTING OTHERS But does trust require that we be blind to other people's motives or, indeed, to our own? Not at all; this would be folly. Most certainly, we should assess the capacity for harm as well as the capability for good in every person that we would trust. Such a private inventory can reveal the...	Doll	0	241	Jun 23, 2007 by Doll
	Well Done - Ron70062 (Preview) Hi Ron, I decided to start a new thread as your last one was starting to get a little lost. Well done on making a week!!! A Very Big Congratulations!!! Keep going one day at a time. And, please keep posting and let us know how it's going for you, won't you? Take care, Carol	Quetzal	11	386	Jun 23, 2007 by Quetzal
	Truth (Preview) Four Noble Truths: Life means suffering The cause of suffering The end of suffering The path to the end of suffering Eightfold Path To Enlightenment: Right knowledge Right intention Right speech Right action Right livelihood Right effort Right mindfulness Right concentration	Doll	4	309	Jun 23, 2007 by timverton
	Imposing Your Will on Others (Preview) The right to make your own choices is a precious one. We grow when we have the freedom to decide our own paths and determine what makes us happy. Yet there are those who are inclined to try and control others. They may be driven by insecurity, envy, fear, or the need for power. These people are deeply crit...	Wren	9	3408	Jun 23, 2007 by Wren
	D.R. June 22 (Preview) TODAY, I'M FREE This brought me to the good healthy realization that there were plenty of situations left in the world over which I had no personal power--that if I was so ready to admit that to be the case with alcohol, so I must make the same admission with respect to much else. I would have to be still and...	Doll	1	288	Jun 22, 2007 by Jillian
	Off topic - Comical! (Preview) Thought someone might like a chuckle The kitties are now 2 months old and I've had no luck finding homes for them. I told my b/f John I had no choice but take them to the SPCA. He's such a sucker sometimes - hee, hee. Couldn't stand the fact they could be put to sleep so he bit the bullet and said "Pick one...	Doll	6	884	Jun 22, 2007 by cindy
	500 Days Sober Today! (Preview) Hi everyone, I have just worked out that today is my 500th sober day! I cannot believe the amazing difference in my life now and how it was when I was still drinking. I am so very grateful to AA and so incredibly lucky to have found the fellowship. Also, it was one year ago yesterday that I was lucky enough to...	Quetzal	9	597	Jun 22, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	Boundaries (Preview) Having boundaries doesn't complicate life; boundaries simplify life. --Beyond Codependency There is a positive aspect to boundary setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good. When we are willing to take som...	Quetzal	0	259	Jun 22, 2007 by Quetzal
	Prayers (Preview) Everyone has those times when their hearts feel heavy...... At present there is alot that seems to be weighing on mine. I know I can only pray and leave it to God. I do ask your prayers for these people: My sister had surgery close to 3 mos. ago to remove tumor from her colon. Infection set...	learning	5	403	Jun 21, 2007 by learning
	Ron 70062-New thread (Preview) Your circumstances were getting kind of lost in the shuffle below so I thought to bring it topside so we can stay posted on your well being. Do hope all is going well and yeah, staying busy will keep bad thoughts away for the most part. The rest you have to "just say no" to. That Gatorade you'...	timverton	11	949	Jun 21, 2007 by ron70062
	The Good Feelings (Preview) Let yourself feel the good feelings too. Yes, sometimes-good feelings can be as distracting as the painful, more difficult ones. Yes, good feelings can be anxiety producing to those of us unaccustomed to them. But go ahead and feel the good feelings anyway. Feel and accept the joy. The love. The warm...	Quetzal	2	366	Jun 21, 2007 by Quetzal
	Letting go of control (Preview) Many of us refuse to put down what is troubling us. We carry resentment, anger, hostility, mistrust, suspicion, grudges, fear, anxiety, worries, and other burdens. How can we travel very far if we are weighed down by so many concerns? When will we learn to drop our cares, release our worries, and let...	Phil	1	650	Jun 20, 2007 by timverton
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