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Feeling vulnerable
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What else is sobriety but to feel vulnerable? Well, that's what I am feeling right now. Life is happening, and I'm showing up. I have had some amazing changes in my life in the last six months and they are wonderful. Still, I am feeling more feeble and afraid than normal (which I know, is to be expecte...
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daily life without a drink
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How many stores do we pass on the way to work that we used to stop at to buy our fix? I can count at least 5 (regular stops). It is like my car is pre-programmed to pull in to that store. But now, I just keep driving to my destination.
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Checking In
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Hey family. My sponsor has suggested I start writing stuff down/journaling. This was my favorite place to write. Kind of like home. I just went to this A.A. event in Chicago at the Pavillion. Thousands of people just like me and two truly wonderful speakers. Great experience. To hear the serenity pra...
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Feeling lost and alone.......and pathetic!
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As most of you know, after a very LTR, John and I parted 2 weeks ago...I've discovered I have NO friends and nothing to do....I go to work and come home. My phone doesn't ring. I don't even have anyone to call (unless it's AA related). I'm feeling pretty pathetic right now - UGH! Mostly because I've come t...
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gossip hurts
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A man was seen coming and going from a married woman's house. Her neighbor watched with fascination, and concocted elaborate tales which she shared with her friends as truth. There was no evidence any more incriminating that the fact that the young man came regularly, but the rumor was that the wo...
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Shopping
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Yesterday I made my 1st trip to the grocery store since I have decided to get sober. I was terrified of having to go in. In hindsight I shoud have taken a friend with me but I am happy to say that I didn't let temptation take over. I walked right past the lliquor and wine section without a pause. I knew this was...
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Daily Reflections 9/17
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FREEDOM FROM FEAR When, with God's help, we calmly accepted our lot, then we found we could live at peace with ourselves and show others who still suffered the same fears that they could get over them, too. We found that freedom from fear was more important than freedom from want. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELV...
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Revenge
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No matter how long we've been recovering, no matter how solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even, with another person. We want revenge. We want to see the other person hurt the way he or she has hurt us. We want to see life deal that person just rew...
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Allowing Others to walk their paths
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Watching a loved one or a peer traverse a path littered with stumbling blocks can be immensely painful. We instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track and share with them the wisdom we have acquired through experience. Yet all human beings have the right to carve their own paths without bein...
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I just gotta say it..
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Thanks to God and the great folks of AA online and in meetings, I made 3 Mos. today !!
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Daily Reflections 9/16
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WE STAND--OR FALL--TOGETHER . . . no society of men and women ever had a more urgent need for continuous effectiveness and permanent unity. We alcoholics see that we must work together and hang together, else most of us will finally die alone. Alcoholics Anonymous, p.563 Just as the Twelve Steps of A....
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Getting Through Hard Times
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We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way. And only God and we can determine the timing. -- Codependent No More Hard times, stressful times, are not all there is to life, but they are part of life, growth, and moving...
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Who wants a drink?
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Probably all of us. Just think, how much better we feel off the booze. I may be new to this, but am finding not many people want to actually chat. Maybe i'm on the wrong site. If anyone out there has a better way for me to find the online communication tools I need, please share. I'm 12 days sober and it a...
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tranquility
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"Reach into the stream, and try to pick up as much water as you can by clenching your fists tightly around it. Hold up your hand and see how much you could hold. Now turn up your palms and cup them as in supplication, and place them in the stream. Lift your hands and see how much you can now hold, witho...
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Anticipating the Good
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Anxiety About Change When we find ourselves going through any kind of change in our lives, our natural response may be to tense up on the physical, mental, or emotional level. We may not even notice that we have braced ourselves against a shift until we recognize the anxiety, mood swings, or general wo...
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ok, maybe I'm regaining a little sense lol
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Well, winds up that I'm moving back to Mississippi..... once I'd told my dad I was going to California, he offered me a house to rent... well I've been in Arkansas visiting family, and finally realized that financially I just can't do the trip to california... also, although I'm not afraid of hard w...
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Daily Reflections 9/15
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A NEW LIFE Yes, there is a substitute and it is vastly more than that. It is a fellowship in Alcoholics Anonymous . . . . Life will mean something at last. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 152 Life is better without alcohol. A.A. and the presence of a Higher Power keeps me sober, but the grace of God does even bette...
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Live Your Own Life
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"We don't always know what makes us happy. We know, instead, what we think SHOULD. We are baffled and confused when our attempts at happiness fail...We are mute when it comes to naming accurately our own preferences, delights, gifts, talents. The voice of our original self is often muffled, ov...
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Perspective
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Too often, we try to gain a clear perspective before it is time. That will make us crazy. We do not always know why things are happening the way they are. We do not always know how a particular relationship will work out. We do not always understand the source of our feelings, why we've been led down a parti...
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Daily Reflections 9/14
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PEACE OF MIND Do we lay the matter before our sponsor or spiritual adviser, earnestly asking God's help and guidance--meanwhile resolving to do the right thing when it becomes clear, cost what it may? TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p p. 86-87 My belief in a Higher Power is an essential part of my w...
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What's Good for Me?
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When we are soul searching, be it for the smaller or larger decisions we face during the day, we can learn to ask, is this good for me?... Is this what I really want?... Is this what I need?...Does this direction feel right for me?...or am I succumbing to the control and influence that I sometimes allow ot...
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Healing
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We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity... We should anticipate these stages in our emotional convalescence: unbearable...
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Daily Reflections 9/12
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I AM RESPONSIBLE For the readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 87 In recovery, and through the help of Alcoholics Anonymous, I learn that...
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Daily Reflections 9/13
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REPAIRING THE DAMAGE Good judgment, careful sense of timing, courage and prudence - these are the qualities we shall need when we take Step Nine. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 83 To make amends can be viewed two ways: first, that of repairing damage, for if I have damaged my neighbor's fence,...
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Times of Reprogramming
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Recovery is not all-tiresome, unrewarded work. There are times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice what we have learned. There are times of change, times when we struggle to learn something new or overcome a particular problem. These are the times when what we've been practicing in r...
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A good way to approach each day
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"When you wake up in the morning, Pooh," said Piglet at last, "what's the first thing you say to yourself?" "What's for breakfast? said Pooh. "What do you say, Piglet?" "I say, I wonder what's going to happen exciting today?" said Piglet. Pooh nodd...
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introduce me to you
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Hello My user name is twoworlds. I am an alcoholic. As a member of the fellowship with 29 years of unbroken sobriety behind me the quality of my life and the people who I love and who, love me has improved . This is a new experience being part of an online fellowship so please be patience wit...
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Coping with divorce or relationship breakup
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http://www.helpguide.org/mental/coping_divorce_relationship_breakup.htm
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Intoduction of myself
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Howdy, Since I've recently read a few introductions, I thought I best do the same as I have already posted a few. My name is Greg and I am an alcoholic. I've been in and out of AA for about 27 years with a collective 12 years of soberity. In the begining (the frist three times) I was told to go by various le...
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Hey Ya'll, I'm baaaaack!
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Any folks new to the program please, this intro does by no means, apply to you! Had to rejoin. Lost all my info and at 53 oldtimers starts settin' in. I ain't gonna' tell ya'll who I was before, mainly because don't want the old stuff rehashed. Be it true or what I might read into a post, be I wrong or right, i w...
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We said goodbye today
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It's been a week since I received that cowardly email from him......I've cried over it, I wanted to drink over it, I got really pissed off over it...Then I turned my attention back to me. I signed up for a Yoga class, I've been to the gym 4 times this past week. I pulled out my guitar, which was coverd in abou...
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Daily Reflections Sept 11
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MAKING AMENDS Above all, we should try to be absolutely sure that we are not delaying because we are afraid. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 87 To have courage, to be unafraid, are gifts of my recovery. They empower me to ask for help and to go forth in making my amends with a sense of dignity and hum...
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Conflict and Detachment
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In a relationship, there are those wonderful times when things go smoothly for both people, and neither person needs to focus too heavily on the concept of detachment. But there are those challenging times when one person is in crisis or changing - and we need to detach. Then there are stressful cycle...
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Relationship Expectations
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Would it surprise you to know that many times the expectations we have of others are born out of our own psyche, and have little to do with the person we have them about? Expectations in relationships can begin when we take our own ideals, standards, and views of things, and project them onto other peopl...
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Just me, LisaF... changed my name...
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Hey y'all, Well since the divorce is final and I decided to go back to my maiden name, I'm no longer Lisa "F"... so have been changing my name where I used that screen name... Phil has called me "chicken little" in here sometimes, and well, I couldn't think of anything else... l...
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Alcoholism and marriage...
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I have a problem. What if being married to my wife is the reason I drink? I became an alcoholic about 5 years into our marriage. We have been married for 8 years now. I recently went to rehab and continue to go to meetings. I had not had a drink for almost 2 months when I took one about a month ago. She kicked me o...
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I felt it today...
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I was at work and my body temp sky-rocketed.. my blood started boiling for some stupid crap that I shouldn't have been upset about in the first place. My stress was high today. Today is day 2. I spent the majority of the day wondering why I have wasted this much of my life screwing around... drowning... I...
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6 months sober and struggling
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Hi, not posted for ages went to rehad october last year and struggled afterwards. Last drink 5th March this year so just over 6 months ago. Everything been fine for the first 3 or 4 months on a high at being clean (also had drug problems but mainly alcohol) Have had a problem with over the counter pills!!...
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Awesome sayings instead of complaining for once..
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-Healing a broken relationship is not a one step process-but for the men and women willing to go the distance, the prize is worth it.... -Conditional forgiveness (Well,Im willing to forgive them if...) is no forgiveness at all. -Imagine how our marriages would change if we sought to be a host or hoste...
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WHERES THE RULE BOOK....
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I have to share this.. On two occassions now I have made comments at meetings and was told that "perhaps thats something you need to ask before the meeting, questions arent asked here, you should talk to your sponser, you dont put the money in the basket before its passed....Talk to so and so, mayb...
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Our poor children
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I am so sad right now.. My daughter, age 15 1/2 got caught drinking at a school event. She is a cheerleader and for years has said how gross drinking is after seeing myself and her father drink for years. Funny, I always said I would know when she was because she couldnt pull the wool over my eyes!!!She defi...
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Daily Reflections 9/10
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RECOVERY BY PROXY? They [the Promises] will always materialize if we work for them. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS p. 84 Sometimes I think: "Making these amends is going too far! No one should have to humble himself like that!" However, it is this very humbling of myself that brings me that much clo...
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Self-approval
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Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others. Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they disapp...
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Stopping Our Pain
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Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn. - Beyond Codependency There are many sources of pain in our life. Those of us recovering from adult children and codependency issues frequently have a cesspool of unresolved pain from the past. We have feelings, sometimes from earl...
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Daily Reflections 9/9
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OPENING NEW DOORS They [the Promises] are being fulfilled among us - sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 84 The Promises talked about in this passage are slowly coming to life for me. What has given me hope is putting Step Nine into action. The Step has allowed me to see and s...
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Daily Reflections Sept 8
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"WE ASKED HIS PROTECTION" We asked His protection and care with complete abandon. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 59 I could not manage life alone. I had tried that road and failed. My "ultimate sin" dragged me down to the lowest level I have ever reached and, unable even to function,...
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Big Book online
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http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/bigbookonline/en_tableofcnt.cfmThis book had a large hand in saving my life.......for those not familiar with it, please keep in mind it was written approx. 70 yrs ago.....
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Beer Warning To All Men!!
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Police are warning all men who frequent clubs, parties and local pubs to be alert and stay cautious when offered a drink from any woman. Many females use a date rape drug on the market called "Beer." The drug is found in liquid form and is available anywhere. It comes in bottles, cans, or from...
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Daily Reflections Sept 7
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"OUR SIDE OF THE STREET" We are there to sweep off our side of the street, realizing that nothing worth while can be accomplished until we do so, never trying to tell him what he should do. His faults are not discussed. We stick to our own. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, pp. 77-78 I made amends to my dad...
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Feeling Fried
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I probably drink on avrage 3 times a week. I used to drink ALL the time for about 5 years. Slowed down alot. I just feel confused all the time like im fried out. I cnat concentrate. like my brain has "static" or the blue screen of death. I hope you get what im saying. If I were to not drink anymore al...
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