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Detaching in Relationships
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When we first become exposed to the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching means we don't care. We may believe that by controlling, worrying, and trying to force things to happen, we're showing how much we care.
We may believe that cont...
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Shakey ground, today.....and grateful for it
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Reading Rosie's marked time in sobriety posts this morning, it occured to me I have 11 months TODAY! I remember getting the shakes in the past over my time without a drink. Amazing how things can change when I work for that change. I feel very grateful at this moment. The memory of my last drunk hit me ups...
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Quotes from Our Co-Founder: Bill W.-Part 1
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Quotes from Our Co-Founder: Bill W.-Part 1 "Most of us feel we need look no further for Utopia. We have it with us right here and now. Each day my friend's simple talk in our kitchen multiplies itself in a widening circle of peace on earth and good will to men." Bill Wilson Source: C. 1939...
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Screaming Works
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I got pretty tied up today, I had a phone call from one of my older brothers dealing with an issue involving our family inheritance and the combination of family and money has long been a trigger point of trouble for me. At least, today when I started to get argumentative and agitated I didn't go on, I...
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Father Leo
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation INDIFFERENCE "The worst sin towards our fellow creatures in not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them. That's the essence of inhumanity." -- George Bernard Shaw For years I was indifferent to family and friends. And the tragedy was that because of my al...
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Rosie's AA meeting
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Hi All, I went to my first AA meeting since March of this year. It was held in the same place as in March. I loved it!! The topic was mainly of not following through with committments to ourselves and others. And of people who drink the night before but who are still drunk in the morning and who drink to feel b...
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Day 10
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Hi All, Today is day 10!! I feel real good and have had a wonderful week. I went to my oldest granddaughters Ty Kwon Do testing and she went from white belt to yellow belt. She skipped over one. The instructor said that was very unusual. Her pattern was wonderful and she kicked a board in half making it look...
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First AA Meeting Ever and having severe anxieties over it
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Hey all, I'm relatively new to this forum and 7 days sober. I've found an AA meeting that meets today at noon, here in my small town of 40,000 where I've resided for only 3 years but already know many of the characters. I woke up with the greatest intentions of going to this meeting but am having severe an...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 21st Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "Who are you to say there is no God? This challenge comes to all of us. Are we capable of denying that there is a design and purpose in all of life as we know it? Or are we willing to admit that faith in some kind of Divine Principle is a part of our make-up, just as much as the feeli...
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I did it!!!
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Hi all you good people, day 5 for me, I went to my first meeting last night and I feel so good today, I now see why everyone told me not to be scared, the people were so friendly, they welcomed me with open arms, I am going to another one tonight, so there!! The AA bug has bitten lol.
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Responsibility for Family Members
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I can still remember my mother clutching her heart, threatening to have a heart attack and die, and blaming it on me. -- Anonymous
For some of us, the idea that we were responsible for other people's feelings had its roots in childhood and was established by members of our nuclear family. We may have b...
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Attracted To People Like My Mother Was
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I have been dating a girl for about a year. The night I met was at a bar and she was as drunk as can be knowing that I was coming to meet her. But for whatever reason I have grown fond of her in the past year. Well I have no longer been able to put up with the antics that come along with the drinking. She h...
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A Few Useful Links
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Hi everyone,
I thought that I'd post a couple of links that might help some of our newcomers. They are all good websites that have helped me in the past and could help you, too.
The first is our Big Book online. If you haven't been able to buy a copy of it at your local meetings, you can use this until you d...
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Daily Reflections ~ We Just Try
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My stability came out of my trying to give, not out of demanding that I receive. THE BEST OF BILL , p.46-47 As long as I try, with all my heart and soul, to pass along to others what has been passed along to me, and do not demand anything in return, life is good to me. Before entering this program of Alcoholics...
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AA sponcer sponcee friendship
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so I have a question and not sure if this website can be used for questions but its aa related.. So how far into sobriety is it ok to become friends with your sponcer or not even friends We are all friends but like hang out go shopping together ect . cause when I first got sober and I call all the time with ques...
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20 Days
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Feelin good, work is good so far, but I feel like I might break down today. I'm sleeping on the floor for the past 2 days on a phone book because sleeping is the hardest part of the day. I guess I should call one of the meeting guys.
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early days of sobriety
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when i had had enough of the suffering caused by MY actions of excessive drinking it was the ongoing mood swings that took me to the 4th stage of alcoholism and after that their was no turning back, if i could even think for one moment that i could save myself. so after 8 months of heavy depression, as alcoh...
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Just For Fun!
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1. Is it good if a vacuum really sucks?
2. Why is the third hand on the watch called the second hand?
3. If a word is misspelled in the dictionary, how would we ever know?
4. If Webster wrote the first dictionary, where did he find the words?
5. Why do we say something is out of whack? What is a whack?
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Self Detoxing
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I'm bound and determined to get and stay clean and sober. I stayed that way for many years, and gradually fell back in to thinking I could "control drink". It's now messed up quite a bit of some beautiful things (like my job) which I regained in a small community at the ripe old age off 55. I th...
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Well, here it is
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Hi all Just thought I'd drop by before Sunday comes and let ya know I'm ok, nervous as hell but alright. Been going through other things I guess I let get to me, felt like i was gonna explode.. But with the grace of GOD, I still have my sense of humour. I had a good cry last nite and look like I didn't sleep, g...
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Starting another meeting
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We are small communities in a rural area. We have a good AA meeting going where I live. I have offered to hold a separate Alanon meeting. We Alanoners are slow to break away from our A's. So another small community wanted to start AA/Alanon. We had 18 tonight. Awesome. I will continue to offer Alanon and h...
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Introducing myself
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Hello, my name is Brad, and I'm an alcoholic! I'm from Arlington, Texas and I came across this board so I thought I'd join up and get in on the online recovery! I love forum boards, so I'm sure I'll be trolling around them and offering my experience, strength, and hope where I feel like I have something to a...
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i think i need help....
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my names eric... i've been drinking everyday for the past 6 months....and most people drink to forget their problesm...but i drink to feel. just to feel these emotions thats havve been in me but wont come out..i used to do druggs but i cant do that so i switched to drinking...and now i drink to feel sadne...
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Day 19
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I posted under day 18 that i found a meeting a few blocks from work. I'm on my 3rd large cup of coffee and i feel like sleeping. Maybe I'll take off from work early and check it out.
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Daily Reflections ~ Toward Emotional Freedom
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Since defective relations with other human beings have nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes, including our alcoholism, no field of investigation could yield more satisfying and valuable rewards than this one. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS , p. 80 Willingness is a peculiar thin...
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The Awakening
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"The Awakening". A time comes in your life when you finally get it... When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quiet...
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Day 9 Rosie
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Hi All, This is day 9 and I am feeling very very hopeful today. It has been a hard week on one hand but the best week I have had in a long time. My senses to life are heightened more so than when I have ever stopped drinking before. I had been in a horrible relationship for this past eight yrs. He is a very sick ma...
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New Here
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I just found this site and glad there is a site like this, I had 5 years sobreity and went back out in 2002 and have been out since and it does not get better, it is like I never stopped, picked up where I left off, I am so sick of this addiction and everything that comes with it, I have chased the idea that I...
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I'm Baaaaaack!!!!!
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Hello my dear family!!! I am overwhelmed by the love and support you all gave me while I was away!!! A lot has happened since I have been gone. My computer died and I didnt have the money for a new one yet. I did some serious drinking and in a black out got in a bad car accident. By some miricle instead of g...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 20th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "When many hundreds of people are able to say that the consciousness of the presence of God is today the most important fact of their lives, they present a powerful reason why one should have faith. When we see others solve their problems by simple reliance upon some Spir...
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Daily Reflections - A Frame Of Reference
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Referring to our list [inventory] again. Putting out of our minds the
wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes.
Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 67
There is a wonderful freedom in not needing constant appro...
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Good Evening
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Good Evening all. Day 5 for me. I find at about 3:00 to7:00PM is when I want to go get the alcohol and drink. I am hanging in there. How long (I know this varies) will I be in thi...
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Day 18
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Whew rough day at work..without going into too much detail, I work in finance and the mkt. was bad today but I took some profits on up positions. So I mad e some change, but with the irregular sleep, I was in the office at 7 am(45 min commute) and left at 6 30 pm. A nice icy cold beer would've hit the spot and ho...
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Honesty in Relationships
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We can be honest and direct about our boundaries in relationships and about the parameters of a particular relationship.
Perhaps no area of our life reflects our uniqueness and individuality in recovery more than our relationships. Some of us are in a committed relationship. Some of us are datin...
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Online meetings
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Hi All I tried to go onto the online meeting at nine but it would not connect for me. Can anyone help with this? Please let me know how to go on there. Thank you Rosie
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Day 8
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Hi All, I am on day 8 and I thank God and all of you again today. I am going to work in my oldest sons yard and my middle son lives beside him so I will see him and I also am taking him for his blood work at the hospital. I am in a hurry but will be back to post tonight. God bless you all. I take you with me. Rosie
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Phil Collins
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Dont laugh everyone but I am dying to see Genesis "phil Collins"!!!!! Hes coming to the US of A in the fall-Toronto 9/7, Detroit 9/30 and Chicago 10/3.......Not a usual thing we do on here but it will be the one and only concert I will ever want to see in my lifetime!!!!! Love the man!!!! So, an...
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Has anybody heard from nique
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Hi, I was just wondering if anybody had heard from nique? I noticed in her last posts that she was having a bad time but have not seen her post since. Will everybody join me in praying for her and hope we see her back here soon. God bless.
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Need to re-establish
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Hello everyone, my name is Rebecca. I need to re-establish my sobriety date as 08-14-08. So, I only have 2 days of consistent sobriety now. I want to quit drinking, but have been using alcohol to avoid the discomfort of the withdrawl symptoms. Yesterday I did go out and purchase the herb Kudzu and some a...
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What to do??
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HiI am writing as I am very concerned about my dad, and I am not sure where else to turn to, He is 51 and he has always drank but in the last year or so its gotten worse after losing his job of 30 years a few years ago and then loosing his mother almost a year ago who he took care of after her being Ill with Alzeim...
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New to this and very scared
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Hi everyone, my name is Deirdre and I just recently turned 50. I have been drinking since the age of 14, I don't drink from the morning to the night, only on weekends but I do drink 6 beers EVERY night. A few years back I lost my was made redundant and I lost my house, my car and worst of all my son. I was given...
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Step 2
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Day 17
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I hope I can keep this up.....even with all the stress at work and my "love life" it's tempting, but I'm really trying. There's a meeting not too far from work Thursday. I will be there.
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Day 30 Down Under
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Well hello all from DownUnder. I haven't been on for a LONG time. After 8 and a quarter years sobriety in AA, I picked up a drink in Feb of last year. Talk about the YETS. It's taken me this long to get up a little bit of time after many attemts back in the fellowship. But with the help of a great doctor, a grea...
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What is sobriety?
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Sobriety is more than just abstaining from alcohol. I like this definition from Money and the Meaning of Life by Jacob Needleman. There are certain alcoholics--we have all known them, we have most of us suffered from them and loved them, many of us are them--who have a certain compelling beauty, ch...
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What does RELAPSE/SLIP mean? To you...
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I was a binge drinker, 2-5 times a week. There was no rhyme or reason as to when I picked up. I just drank when I drank and my binge never lasted more than 12-15 hours, I always passed out at some point before the sun came up. For a 115lb gal I have a HUGE capacity for alcohol and the hangovers would be so severe I...
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24 Hrs a Day - 19th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day
"People of faith have a logical idea of what life is all about. There is a wide variation in the way each one of us approaches and conceives of the Power greater than ourself. Whether we agree with a particular approach or conception seems to make little difference. Ther...
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Letting Go of Shame
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Shame is that dark, powerful feeling that holds us back. Yes, shame can stop us from acting inappropriately. But many of us have learned to attach shame to healthy behaviors that are in our best interest.
In dysfunctional families, shame can be tagged to healthy behaviors such as talking about fee...
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Valuing this Moment
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Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. -- Codependent No More
This moment, we are right where we need to be,...
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Day 7
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Hi All, Today is day 7! I feel so much stronger and grateful. I went over to my sons to take care of my grand children and we all played outside from about 1 to 4. If it hadn't thundered and got dark we would have stayed out a lot longer. I took a lot of photos and had a blast!!! I set up a good size pool for them tha...
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