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24 Hrs a Day ~ 7th Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day Another of the mottoes of A.A. is "Easy Does It." This means that we just go along in A.A. doing the best we can and not getting steamed up over problems that arise in A.A. or outside of it. We alcoholics are emotional people and we have gone to excess in almost everythin...
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Powerless over Others
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Stop making excuses for other people.
Stop making excuses for ourselves.
While it is our goal to develop compassion and achieve forgiveness, acceptance, and love, it is also our goal to accept reality and hold people accountable for their behavior. We can also hold ourselves accountable for o...
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So...apparently I suck at sobriety.
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What's wrong with me? Why I can't I seem to do what I see countless others doing at every meeting? And these aren't exactly rocket scientists I'm talking about either...I'm talking about people who would have trouble cracking triple digit IQ scores. So why them and not me...how come they're able to wr...
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Newbie introduction - First post
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Hi everybody, my name is Bob and I am an alcoholic. I am a retired teacher, most recently (19 yrs) at the university level, hence my name. My students addressed me as Dr. Bob when I studied for my doctorate and I did not discourage the use of that name, so it stuck even though I never finished my doctoral t...
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Not a good day, but hanging in there!
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I don't know why I don't feel the usual (for the past 5 weeks of being very sober except for a sip one Saturday nite, and one lite beer the following Saturday..... I'd come to enjoy this huge energy surge and optimistic, almost manic in my happiness with sobriety. Today started off fairly normal; I know...
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Day 5 and flying high!
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Hi all, I'm on day 5 after one beer on Saturday; and that was one week after one swig of wine the previous Saturday. I'm NOT getting cocky that I can have that "one beer". I've thought that before. Nor am I beating myself up because I have to start my counting all over! But - am feeling super and...
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Greiving and Guilt
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Hi everyone! Sorry I have not been here much. Today I finally got honest and I need to share it with you loving kind supporters of mine. Last October 10 my sponsor/best friend and practically mom died. I have not been right since and didnt really associate it with it. I have a lot of guilt behind her d...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 6th Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day Another of the mottoes of A.A. is "Live and Let Live." This, of course, means tolerance of people who think differently than we do, whether they are in A.A. or outside of A.A. We cannot afford the luxury of being intolerant or critical of other people. We do not try to i...
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Daily Reflections ~ Removing Threats To Sobriety
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. . . . except when to do so would injure them or others. . . . ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS , p. 59 Step Nine restores in me a feeling of belonging, not only to the human race but also to the everyday world. First, the Step makes me leave the safety of A.A., so that I may deal with non-A.A. people out there, on their ter...
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I am your disease
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I Hate meetings...I Hate higher powers...I Hate anyone who has a program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you death and I wish you suffering. Allow me to introduce myself, I am the disease of addiction. I Am cunning, baffling, and powerful. That's Me. I have killed millions and I am pleased. I l...
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Hey
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So I got into a heated argument with a member here and didn't plan on coming back, but I like this forum and find many positives and great people-Rosie and Quetzal especially! The market was down 300 pts plus today (344, Nasdaq down 74, S+P down 38). I had some profits that I took yesterday-I'm half psych...
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September 5, Daily Reflections
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September 5, 2008 Daily Reflections EMOTIONAL BALANCE Made direct amends to such people wherever possible,. . . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS , p. 83 When I survey my drinking days, I recall many people whom my lifetouched casually, but whose days I troubled through my anger and sarcasm. The...
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I'm Back....
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Well just thought I'd drop in, To let you I'm back, and that last week was one of the longest weeks I've had in a while. I've left a post in regards to taking my daughter to meet her real father for the first time in 16 years. She turned 16years old today. Well lets just say some people never change and he didn...
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Word Power
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I know I'm controlling, but so is my husband. Possibly more controlling than I am. Each time I set out to leave him, each time I started to walk away, he knew exactly what to say to pull me back in. And he knew I'd respond. He knew how to say exactly what I needed to hear to keep me where he wanted me. He knew what...
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Thank you to Sobreityspell
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With reading Sobrietyspell's decision to go do her Step 4, it ignited something inside of me. I was pretty despondent in my last post. I was procrastinating on Step 4, but have now started ! I get it, I mean I really get it. And if I didn't get it I wouldn't understand that it is unrealistic of me to ask my fr...
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24 hours a day-9/4
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Thursday, September 4, 2008 You are reading from the book Twenty Four Hours a Day Hardcover (24 Hours) A.A. Thought for the Day "We must be careful never to show intolerance or hatred of drinking as an institution. Experience shows that such an attitude is not helpful to anyone. We are not...
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lani
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Apologies
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Hi All! Well Ive been "away" for a couple days, meaning not online.... I have been so busy living life and enjoying it! But, guilt totally crept in today. I have not email my good buddies on here our offered any support to the new folks around here. A big welcome if you are new. I know, for me, no...
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Being thankfull
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Hi all thankyou for coming back to me and for all the nice things that you wrote. It always feels like your coming home when your with other A A and thay always say the right thing well thankyou all again for being there for me.
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Finding Direction
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I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life. -- Anony...
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Not only do I battle the demon of alcohol, I battle the demon of loneliness....
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Just like Daniella, I have procrastinated on Step 4 long enough and have to do it. I have made the decision to do it this week. But this is not the reason of the post. I am finding it continually more difficult to continue in this state of loneliness. A monster that cunningly and slowly made his presence kn...
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I'm Two Years Old, Again
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Thank you all for your encouragement and support. Those who have read my posts here over the past nine months have shared in my ups and downs, my pains and regrets, as well as my gratitude. Indeed, when I first posted, I was nearly ready to "throw in the towel," overcome by the shame and regr...
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Sponsor lays down the cards...
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I have'n't had drink since July 1, some 8 weeks ago. But, I've been smoking marijuana regularly for the last 6 weeks. My sponsor will not work the steps with me until i have a minimum of 2 weeks clean AND sober. So last week I met with him once again and once again told him i'd been smoking. Out of nowhere he st...
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September 3, Daily Reflections
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September 3, 2008 Daily Reflections BUILDING A NEW LIFE, p.255 We feel a man is unthinking when he says sobriety is enough. Alcoholics Anonymous, p.82 When I reflect on Step Nine, I see that physical sobriety must be enough for me. I need to remember the hopelessness I felt before I found sobriety, and...
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Thanks!
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Just wanted to say thanks for the support!! 21 nights sober now and feeling great. I had decided I needed to get healthy and quit drinking about a month ago, (before my sister's diagnosis) I am doing well, I cant say I haven't wanted a drink really, really bad, but I work thru it. I think about my family, ho...
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Thought ~ for today.
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"The greatest achievement of humanity is not its works of art, science, or technology, but the regonition of its own dysfunction, its own madness." ~ Eckhart Tolle
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Day 8 and another "mini-relapse"
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Irritated with myself, to say the least! We headed down to Georgia for my mother's birthday party (82). Beautiful drive, great visit with the entire family, wonderful drive back. Hubby says to me "would you be mad if I picked up some beer?" "no, of course not, and I sure won't drink a...
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PJ Tucker
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Accepting Our Best
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We don't have to do it any better than we can - ever.
Do our best for the moment, and then let it go. If we have to redo it, we can do our best in another moment, later.
We can never do more or better than we are able to do at the moment. We punish ourselves and make ourselves feel crazy by expecting more than o...
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Detaching with Love with Children
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It's one thing to let go of my husband and let him suffer the consequences. But how do I let go of my children? Isn't it different with children? Don't we have responsibilities as parents? -- Al Anon member
We do have different responsibilities to our children than to other adults. We are financially...
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Questions about Rehab
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First let me say this. I am neither an alcoholic or drug user. I was in a relationship with someone that has fought these addictions most of his life. Usually he lost the fight though. We are both in our 30's. Our relationship ended about 6 months ago because of reasons not directly related to his add...
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Offline To Do a Step4
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Dear Sobervibers, a little note to let you know I'm going offline for however long it takes me to complete a fearless & thorough Step4. Would anyone like to take over posting the 24 & Daily Reflections? You can copy & paste them if you use google to find them. I have to disappear as being a ter...
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Daily Reflections ~ Finding "A Reason To Believe"
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The willingness to grow is the essence of all spiritual development. As Bill Sees It, p.171 A line from a song goes, ". . . and I look to find a reason to believe . . ." It reminds me that at one time I was not able to find a reason to believe that my life was all right. Even though my life had been saved...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 1st Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "Be careful not to brand new prospects as alcoholics. Let them draw their own conclusion. But talk to them about the hopelessness of alcoholism. Tell them exactly what happened to you and how you recovered. Stress the spiritual feature freely. If they are agnostics or...
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FLIPPER!
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What I wanted to write was $&^#%$.....anyhow, first day. I had a few last night. I get around a month and boom. I felt fine...again, drank like a normal person. EVen though I had a few beers, my anxiety kicked in today. My psychiatrist told me I most likely have alcohol induced anxiety. So this is the...
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It must be "Talk About Sponsor" Day......
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I love my sponsor. She's my friend. She's loved me when I couldn't love myself. She's given me wonderful suggestions. But something has happened as of late.... She was sober for 8 yrs, went back out for 8 yrs and has been back the last 4. She and I have much in common, i.e. single mothers, hard workers,...
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new here
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Hey y'all, new here, 18 nights sober, since I was a night drinker. I'm hanging in there. Didn't drink growing up. Drank rarely at parties, always the designated driver and was happy to do so. I guess I started drinking more about 1998. Had been taking care of special needs twin since they were 6yrs old th...
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hasima
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Patience
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Sometimes we get what we want right away. At other times, we wonder if our desires will ever be fulfilled.
We will be fulfilled in the best way possible and as quickly as possible. But some things take time. Sometimes, we have lessons to learn first, lessons that prepare us so we can accept the good we d...
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Whew! By the Grace of God I made it!!!
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I fell away from AA for a few years, though I remained sober my life was slowly getting back to the insanity of active addiction. I saw the red flags and am so grateful that I began going back to meetings instead of a bottle. Things are slowly returning to a "comfort zone," that brings peace an...
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Four Days from Two Years Sober (Long Post)
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Hello A.A. Family: I just wanted to check in, and share some E, S & H. It was on this day (Friday before Labor Day) two years ago, that I finally surrendered again. Here's what happened to me: I got sober through A.A. on July 10, 1986 at the age of 24. I was completely bankrupt at that time in all areas...
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every one.
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to all of those living on planet EARTH, be alert, the world needs LERTS.
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hills alive
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Just to say hi and thanks for being here x
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Hi my name is Linda and i am a Alcoholic i am one of the very lucky ones as i have been sober for 8 years and i also think we are so lucky to have the 12 step recovery programe as i dont think i would of stayed sober without it .
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The roller coaster rider
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Hey all, bout time I got back here,lol!
Funny how time flies, it definitely has been interesting over the last several months. I'd say that since rehab in January, 2/3 of my time has been sober so far, a few relapses during the stint. I have some good ideas about what has been happening with my brain and a...
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Squirrely, Angry, Sad, Hurting.....just down right feeling CRAZY!
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Waaaay too friggin' much going on in my life right now.....Trying to figure out how I'm gonna go back to school, keep working, keep up my meetings, find time for my sponsor, BB study, take care of the house stuff, yada, yada, yada....... My son finally called, wanting money. I had to remind myself that ...
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What my sponsor says, need advise
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Hi, I have a lovely sponsor who I get on really well with but she has a control problem which she openly admits she has to work on daily. Up untill a few weeks ago, I wasnt going to many meetings and as is good advise she kept telling me I needed more. Then, as I shared on here, something happened and I started a...
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Thought For The Day
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If you can smile when things go wrong, you have someone in mind to blame.
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Daily Reflections ~ A Unique Program
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Alcoholics Anonymous will never have a professional class. We have gained some understanding of the ancient words Freely ye have received, freely give. We have discovered that at the point of professionalism, money and spirituality do not mix. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 166 I believe...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 31st Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "Call on new prospects while they are still jittery. They may be more receptive when depressed. See them alone if possible. Tell them enough about your drinking habits and experiences to encourage them to speak of themselves. If they wish to talk, let them do so. If they...
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Denial
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I've been recovering many years. I've used denial many times. It has been a defense, a survival device, a coping behavior, and, at times, almost my undoing. It has been both a friend and an enemy.
When I was a child, I used denial to protect my family and myself. I protected myself from seeing things to...
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Question about children at meetings?
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Hi all just wondering, we have a situation at our meeting. one of our members has been bringing her 3 year daughter to the meeting. the first time this happened she said it would be a one time thing, well that was 4 months ago. It really hasn't been a problem because the child has always been very quiet a...
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Horse Races...
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Hi all. Just wanted to share a success. I went to the horse races tonight. I take my kids 1-2 times a a year. I live nearby the track. Anyhow, this was the first time I didn't have a drink. I went with others who do not drink. They offered to buy me a beer...but I was fine. I ate ice cream instead. HMMM. No wonder...
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Reaching out is such a blessing
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Hi All, I am so blessed. I was able to meet with the group of ladies who do the substance abuse program and we are meeting again tonight. We also, with the help of my mentor, have figured out a way to all be able to go to the city for AA meetings. I read what I wrote about the first step and all of my feelings about...
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