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~ As Bill Sees It: Maudlin Martyrdom ~
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p. 238 "Self-pity is one of the most unhappy and comsuming defects that we know. It is a bar to all spiritual progress and can cut off all effective communication with our fellows because of its inordinate demands for attention and sympathy. It is a maudin form of martyrdom, which we can ill aff...
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Promises
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If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serentiy and we will know peace. No matter how far do...
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The Little Red Book from Hazelden and the 4th Step
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Step Four Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. The purpose of taking a moral inventory is to expose the harmful character traits of our alcoholic personalities and to eliminate them from the new personalities with the help of the A.A. program as a way of life we now propose...
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4th step
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So I started working on my fourth step today. My sponsor suggested that I get it done in 2 weeks, so I procrastinated for 6 days but started it today. I know the fear many have of this step. I didn't feel this way. I felt that if I was grounded spritually in steps 2 and 3 my HP would guide me. So the resentm...
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Two years sober today!
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Celebrating two years sobriety, today. I have two home groups (being a good alcoholic I can't have "just one"), and apparently my Friday night group was expecting me to share last night for my anniversary (we celebrate home group anniversaries on the last Friday of the month). Last yea...
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I wish I could stop drinking.
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I had 5 days sober, then I had 4 beers today and really I do not feel very well. I have to keep going to the bathroom and I feel sick. I know what always happens when I drink too much beer, yet I keep doing it. Why Can't I stop? I want to quit drinking, but then after a few days I want a buzz, so then I have more beer. P...
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aprilleaves
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emotional sobriety
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I spent the first year of sobriety feeling great, I could not believe I could live without drinking every day and was thrilled to discover it was possible after drinking daily for nearly 20 years. I attended a meeting once or twice a week, read the big book through once, read from the Daily Reflections...
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So life has given us some dents. So what?
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Defeat may serve as well as victory To shake the soul and let the glory out. --Edwin Markham So life has given us some dents. So what? Dents are necessary, besides being unavoidable and painful. Each dent is a part of the process that enables us to embrace life as a creat...
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Huge step
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I wanted to share I took a huge step last night. I admitted to the man I am in love with that I suck at managing money. The reason I pushed him away the past 8-9 months was because I was scared that he wouldn't love me anymore if I told him I needed help with finances. I have a lot of medical bills from my thera...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Unique Program & 24hrs a Day
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Alcoholics Anonymous will never have a professional class. We have gained some understanding of the ancient words "Freely ye have received, freely give." We have discovered that at the point of professionalism, money and spirituality do not mix. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p...
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a new pair of glasses
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im reading a great book at the moment written by an oldtimer chuck C. very enjoyable and totally relate good i can read about my disease today and not squirm, or throw the book away. recovery is going well for me today when i am going with the flow of the tide, one of my defects is when i resist change is some a...
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hayestracey
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Got a sponsor but...
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I got a sponsor a little over a week ago. I am questioning it. I work at a flooring store and she has already asked me for carpet..at no charge. It doesn't seem right to me. For one thing I can't get anything for free and second in my opinion shouldn't be asking me for anything execpt AA related; ie abou...
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susanbiel
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WOW!!! Neat Stuff!!!! Glad I resigned and was online....
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Well, for those of you who wished me well and validated my decision to quit the job I just started by putting my 2 weeks' notice in on Friday, a very interesting thing has come up. Had I not put in my notice and instead hem-hawed around worrying about it instead, I would not have been on the job website I was o...
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KIS 95, A VERY HAPPY BELATED 15th SOBERVERSARY TO YOU!!!!!!!
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Hi There Christine, Hope your Soberversary was a good peaceful, Godfilled day. I have not seen you Post, or missed it when you did. So also a belated Welcome to the MIP Board.... Looking forward to getting to know you, when you find some free time to let us get to know you.... Happy you are here with us. Sup...
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Just Toni
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misspoken step
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So I'm at a meeting Friday and we share The Steps when we read how it works and the fellow who read step 11 did this... "Sought through prayer and mediation to improve our conscious contact with God..." No, no, no. That's Catholicism, not AA. Peace, Rob
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Aquaman
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Daily Reflections ~ The Only Requirement.. & 24hrs a Day
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"At one time. . .every A.A. group had many membership rules. Everybody was scared witless that something or somebody would capsize the boat. . .The total list was a mile long. If all those rules had been in effect everywhere, nobody could have possibly joined A.A. at all. . ." TWELVE STEPS A...
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Expectations of Others
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Expectations of Others It is our job to identify our needs, and then determine a balanced way of getting those needs met. We ultimately expect our Higher Power and the Universe - not one particular person - to be our source. It is unreasonable to expect anyone to be abl...
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Larry_H
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Decisions and Expectations
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Well, I put my 2 weeks notice in to my brand new job I have worked at for a little over 2 weeks now. I do not have any unrealistic expectations that my boss is going to change. And I cannot change to meet the task, maning that I am unwilling to put up with the disorganization and often unsafe conditions there....
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jonijoni1
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Interesting Quote
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O God, that men should put an enemy in their mouths to steal away their brains! that we should, with joy, pleasance, revel, and applause, transform ourselves into beasts! ~William Shakespeare, Othello
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pinkchip
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Break through with my sponsee!
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Last evening I got to really see the program in action. The sponsee I was complaining about (still in jail btw) is out of the picture, but the guy with the boat has ask me to sponsor him, so it became official. He has been struggling with the whole God part of the program, and we've been working steps 2 and...
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Reffner
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HELP
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For the love of God, someone help me. I have RUINED my life. I have lost almost everyone and everything. There's a chance I could be going to jail because of my drinking. I HATE this disease. Someone, anyone... help.
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JJay19
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Learning a lot from an ulcer
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Been thinking about things over the past few months, actually the past year. Last year around this time I was stricken with horrific sharp pain under my ribs that sent me to the ER, and then for round after round of tests. The severity of the pain was suspect by the hospital and my doctor of pancreatitis....
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jonijoni1
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On This Side of The Barrier...
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I feel friggin' GREAT! Nah, it's not that manic "honeymoon" part of recovery...it's actually feeling good and healthy in my own skin. I am me and I belong in this world. What was it...three, four weeks ago that I went through nasty-bad xanax withdrawals and was dope-sick as a lab-rat for a...
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Aquaman
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Wife..Lump in breast..Prayers
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Hey All, A lump has formed in my wife's breast and has put a cloud in front of our lives until it is diagnosed. From what the doctor has said, and my research, there are so many chances that it is benign, and even if cancerous, at this early stage, not a large threat. You can tell yourself all this over and o...
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So many had August Sober Birthdays, just was looking at the Birthday Posts.
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So who ever was missed, just a celebration of your commitment to AA and the 12 Steps.....and thanking God that you are here with us, even if you don't post often. Big Hugs, and sure would like to get to know you all. Belated Happy Soberversary to anyone that had a birthday this month.... Tonicakes
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Just Toni
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~ As Bill Sees It: No Orders Issued ~
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p. 237 Neither the A.A. General Service Conference, its Board of Trustees, nor the humblest group committee can issue a single directive to an A.A. member and make it stick, let alone mete out any punishment. We've tried this lots of times, but utter failure is always the result. Groups have sometim...
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FlyingSquirrel
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An update on my progress in my new AA journey
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So a small update on where I have been. I jumped in with both feet and have been going to about 2 AA meetings a day on average. Since I first posted I have relapsed about 3 times but my new sober date is August 13th and on Friday I will have two weeks sober. I got a sponsor and have begun to work on the first step wi...
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KPie
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Hello everyone...miss you all...
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Just saying hello, I am currently dealing with some major issues, health crisis, heart problem, that started about 4 weeks ago when I had a very threatening trauma happen at my home late at night, which actually as it turned out, cause my heart to go into Arytmia, and now will have to be on this Major Hear...
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Just Toni
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When we can't see the Forrest for the trees.
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Hi All, Was just writing this out to Rob, and decided to make a Post out of it.... Those side effects that we almost unbearable, have now gone away and my heart is now beating a good healthy beat....so the medication from hell, as I wrote a few days ago, well can I change that to this AWESOME life saving medi...
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Just Toni
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Thought on People
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Hi All Just a thought for the day that hit me. Fits for a Sunday. But look at the condition many people come to various Meetings as. Shoes in church I showered and shaved.............. I adjusted my tie. I got there and sat.............. In a pew just in time. Bowing my head in prayer......... As I closed...
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kld47
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~ As Bill Sees It: Perfection -- Only the Objective
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There can be no absolute humility for us humans. At best, we can merely glimpse the meaning and splendor of such a perfect ideal. Only God himself can manifest in the absolute; we human beings must needs live and grow in the domain of the relative. So we seek progress in humility for today. <<&l...
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Thank You All
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I want to say thank you all for the warm welcome and the great sharing here. I am grateful I found this site. Thanks, Susan B
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susanbiel
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Serenity or Courage...Accept or Change?
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Hi Ya, My homegroup is suffering from a couple of things and I know how I FEEL about it and what I THINK about it, but is it my place to DO anything about it? My town has two meetings: M-F noon, Tuesday night. There used to be another one: Thursday night. M-F noon is my homegroup. I have heard from several peo...
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Aquaman
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Daily Reflections ~ Lightening The Burden & 24hrs a Day
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Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life seem so worth while to us now. . . . the dark past is . . . the key to life and happiness for others. Alcoholics Anonymous, p.124 Since I have been sober, I have been healed of many pains: deceiving my partner, deserting my bes...
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Sobrietyspell
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Recovery means work.
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When I sponsor new people I tell them at the outset that recovery means work. That work is not only activity in AA but also action. The AA book needs to be acquired and read especially the 1st 164 pages. I make time available for my sponsees so that they start the inventory process and amends list as soon as...
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gonee
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~ As Bill Sees It: Looking for Lost Faith ~
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p. 235 Any number of A.A.'s can say, "We were diverted from our childhood faith. As material success began to come, we felt we were winning at the game of life. This was exhilarating, and it made us happy. "Why should we be bothered with theological abstractions and religious duties, or w...
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Life beyond addiction.
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My initial state before going into recovery was restless, irritable and discontented. That is why I drank alcohol, so that I could get a sense of ease and comfort. I got restored to sanity by the steps 3 to 9. Step 2 tells me about the objective of the steps which is a restoration to sanity. That objective...
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gonee
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Daily Reflections ~ Giving It Away & 24hrs a Day
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Though they knew they must help other alcoholics if they would remain sober, that motive became secondary. It was transcended by the happiness they found in giving themselves to others. Alcoholics Anonymous, p.159 Those words, for me, refer to a transference of power, through which God, as I under...
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Do prescription drugs help???
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Hi, My name is Annette. As you can see from my username, alcohol is not my only addiction! Anyway, I am new to this site, but have been reading some of the posts and not only am I amazed at the number of people who share this disease, but the encouragement and support from other members is AWESOME! The...
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Born2Buy
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Thank you
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Some of you may remember that I asked for prayers for a friend who ended up after a drink/drugs binge on death row for 13 ˝ years after being present at an incident which ended in the death of someone. I have today learnt that his sentence has been commuted to life. He would like to thank you all for your pra...
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louisa
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A milestone and a miracle...
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One of my earliest sponsors counseled me that to reach peace of mind and serenity I would have to break with everything alcohol in my life and focus on the program. That break would include not drinking myself and my alcoholic/addict second wife. My first wife was an addict...my next relationship was...
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Jerry F
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~ As Bill Sees It: Freed Prisoners ~
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p. 234 Letter to a prison group: "Every A.A. has been, in a sense, a prisoner. Each of us has walled himself out of society; each has known social stigma. The lot of you folks has been even more difficult: In your case, society has also built a wall around you. But there isn't any really essentia...
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Daily Reflections ~ The Gift of Bonding & 24hrs a day
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Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS , p. 63 Many times in my alcoholic state, I drank to establish a bond between myself and others, but I succeeded only in establishing the bondage of alcoholic loneliness. Through the A.A. way of life, I have received t...
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How to stop drinking?
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Almost all the stories I have heard in AA, talk about their first meeting and the talk with another alcoholic who experienced the problem and had found a solution to the problem. My first meeting got me sober instantly and I stayed dry for almost a month. I did not require medical intervention. My convi...
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Dwelling upon the faults of others
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Reflection for the Day Looking back, I realize just how much of my life has been spent in dwelling upon the faults of others. It provided much self-satisfaction, to be sure, but I see now just how subtle and actually perverse the process became. After all was said and d...
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Advice about lifestyle choices in recovery please
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Hello everyone, I just thought I would ask the advice of anyone in recovery, particularly those with a good amount of sobriety. I am just over three months sober. I spent 5 weeks in a treatment centre and the last 8 weeks I have been attending AA meetings most days, usually about 5 or 6 a week. I have a great...
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Me: Charlie Brown, Her: Lucy
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Will someone just shoot me now and put me out of my misery? God I always just wanted to shake Charlie Brown and say, snap out of it man, she's gonna pull that football away every time, don't BELIEVE her this time! So my wife, from whom I'm separated (and divorce on hold), who cheated on me for 6 months befor...
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FlyingSquirrel
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washing machine head and everything else
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I am angry i hate addictions. I am worried about a food addict and i feel theres no where to really talk about it. I tried a coda meeting today i was hoping to hear someone speak about having an addict in their life and didnt hear that. I dont know what to do. I am going nuts. I am reading alanon book from when my...
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slugcat
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I AM YOUR DISEASE (PLEASE READ)
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I hate meetings. I hate higher power. I hate anyone who has a program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you death and I wish you mass suffering. Allow me to introduce myself, I am the disease of addiction. Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful! That's me. I have killed millions, and Im very pleased. I l...
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SoberSteve
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8 years sober and feeling worse than ever
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I am almost 8 years sober and I feel worse than I did when I was one year sober. I am working the steps, have a great sponsor, go to meetings, have a sponsee am a single mom to two grown children who are doing great. Yet I still have bouts of depression and anxiety. My self esteem is still shaky. I think I am...
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Glinda
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