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“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”
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So here I am. Waiting around for someone to notice me. Hoping that someone will pick me. Bursting with the desire to share what I have found... yet... opportunity does not knock. Do I really trust in the path today? Do I really believe I am exactly where I am suppose to be? Do I belong to this moment....
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Attended a baby shower for a former student yesterday.
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I was able to connect with these two young men-(students) because we had similar families. One side that is sober. One side that are abusers. There are not too many normies in this group. Same goes for my family. The party yesterday was to love and support one of the young men who is about to become a f...
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Today's Gift 01-13
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Courage and Patience There are times when the "poor me" mood strikes us all. We complain that things are not better. We bemoan our sorry lot in life. We condemn ourselves and others for not meeting our expectations. What can we do when these destructive emotions engulf us? First, we can rea...
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Sleeping.
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Hiya all just wanted to know if having trouble sleeping is part of the course with early recovery? I havent had a decent nights sleep for 6 nights now and im exhusted!!! Will this right itself with time? Anyone else had this problem? On the plus side have been having lots of late night chats with god
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Healing
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So, I just celebrated 5 months on December 31st. Woohoo! The real gift came soon after the New Year. My mom and I have always had a difficult relationship. She was physically and mentally abused by my grandmother who is now 83. As a result I grew up similarly in a very abusive, aggressive, angry, sc...
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Open hostility towards newcomers?
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I was at a meeting recently, one that I go to almost every day. It's a great meeting that I feel welcome at and a few people I used to drink with go, too- which I think is great. This particular meeting is full of oldtimers, so I often just listen as there is much to learn from these guys. Anyway, one gentleman...
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Daily Reflections ~ It Doesn't Happen Overnight & 24hrs a Day
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We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 The most common alcoholic fantasy seems to be: If I just dont drink, everything will be all right. Once the fog cleared for me, I saw for the firs...
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Are We Still Childish? - Grandiose? - Emotionally Sensitive?
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Page 122 & 123 ... ... ... 12 & 12 'When AA was quite young, a number of eminent psychologists and doctors made an exhaustive study of a good sized group of so-called problem drinkers. The doctors weren't trying to find how different we were from one another; they sought to find whatever pers...
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Whisper of the Heart
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I got this from one of the two meetings I went to today ... it's called Whisper of the Heart 1. Make peace with your past, so it won't screw up the present. 2. What others think about you is none of your business. 3. Time heals most everything, give it time. 4. Don't comp[are your life to others and do...
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testing for alcoholism
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I have what may be a silly question - The big book in chapter 3 lays out what it says are ways that people are alcoholics, and without getting into a lengthy explanation of my condition, I was wondering if the suggestion to have a drink and try to stop is actually a worthwhile test - on pp31-31 is suggests th...
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Freedom Fighter/Twelve Step
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New to these boards. Working a traditional 12-step program with a book a friend of mine recommended. They seem to be working well together. The book is a nice supplement that's really helped me get alot stronger (I've been working twelve step for a while but kept having relapses), not sure if anyone's...
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Today's Gift 01-12
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Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them. --Norman Vincent Peale What does it mean to like other people? It means giving respect and attention to their opinions and perspectives on life. It means respecting their feelings, attitudes, and values without passing judgment or...
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Checkig in
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Just here to claim my seat. Grateful to be sober today. Went to a meeting, doing some step work, talked to my sponser. I also worked out, spent a few hours with the wife and bought her some new boots and shoes without expecting anything in return. Imagine doing something for someone as selfless. I'm at wo...
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Decided not to go swimming.
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So I just got off work, well a little while ago. The last hour at work, all i could think about is that I wanted to kill off a 8 pack. I was really jonesing for a drink. I kept thinking how this time its ok. But then I started to think about this Ted talk I watched on happyness. And it talks about long term happy...
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Resentment
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Resentment is the: harboring of animosity against a person or group of people whom I feel has mistreated me. unresolved anger I have over a negative event which occurred in my past life. seething, aching emotional turmoil I feel whenever a certain person or event is discussed. lack of forgiving, t...
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Grapevine
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January 11 "We organize our principles merely so that they can be better understood, and we continue so to organize our services that AA's life-blood can be transfused into those who must otherwise die. That is the all-in...
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Today's Gift 01-11
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Newcomer You've told me I should pray for someone who's been causing me all sorts of problems. But that's not going to change that person, is it? Sponsor I've heard various descriptions of how prayer works. Some say God listens, some say our thoughts affect the energy of the universe and create change...
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Sober anyone?
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I'm so grateful to be sober tonight. There were so many people who came in to this evenings meeting that have been around since I have, that confessed to a relapse tonight. It was shocking how many and I thought of the difficulty people have with the holidays... but then I remembered, we're just alcoh...
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Sick.
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I thank God for His grace given to me. I only realise how vulnerable and weak I am , is when I get sick. My body temperature just has to elevate by 1 degree and I am disabled. Therefore it makes me realise that all 6 billion people on earth are all vulnerable. Despite our arrogance He has shown mercy to us. Phy...
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Praying
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I know that praying is pretty personal stuff, but I wonder if anyone feels comfortable explaining what works for them, or feels right for them?
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Today's Gift 01-10
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Reflection for the Day I must never forget who and what I am and where I come from. I have to remember the nature of my illness and what it was like before I came to The Program. I'll try to keep the memory green, yet not spend my time dwelling morbidly on the past. I won't be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, a...
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liver
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When I went to the doctor yesterday blood was taken for....whatever they do to find out about your liver. I swear I can feel my liver poking at me now...lol. Won't have the results until tomorrow. Can anyone tell me more about the test? What exactly are they looking for in the blood? Is it something tha...
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Down
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Is it normal to get depressed still while sober? I have been doing everything my sponsor has been telling me to do like going to meetings everyday, calling her once a day, calling 2 sober people other than her a day, service work (giving people rides), meeting up with her once a week to do big book + still w...
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Tasha?
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NowOvercastTemperature59.2 °FFeels Like 59.2 °FWind(mph)2.0Sunrise / Set7:42 AM5:49 PMMoonWaning CrescentMore Astronomy Today66 °FChance of Rain20% chance of precipitationTonight57 °FOvercast20% chance of precipitationTomorrow72 | 57 °FChance of Rain40% chance of precipi...
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Grapevine
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January 10 "I realized that it is possible to believe in a Higher Power, in the efficacy of prayer and meditation, in making a conscious contact with a Higher Power as those concepts, privately understood - or not un...
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Medical marijuana in recovery
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I have been sober for 15 months and am dating a young man who has been in the program for over 4 years. He has a chronic illness and has chosen to treat some of the symptoms with marijuana. I am having an extremely difficult time accepting his choice of treatment. A) he is an alcoholic who attends meeti...
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Today's Gift 01-09
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Today I will review the goals I've set for myself.Have I met some of them? Do some of them seem out of reach? If so, I will consider how I can simplify them by breaking them down into smaller goals.If one of my goals is to live in a nicer house, I'll look at ways I can begin to work toward that goal. Do I already k...
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Normies doing my projection for me.
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Soon a couple of days ago my motorbike caught fire. I moved it away from the house and put the fire out. It gets picked up and taken to the assessor today.
There I was looking on the bright side, the bike didn't set the house on fire. I put the fire out. I wasn't injured, when my brother rang me.
His projecti...
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Daily Reflections ~ An Act of Providence & 24hrs a Day
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It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have warped our minds into such an obsession for destructive drinking that only an act of Providence can remove it from us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 My act of Providence, (a manifestation of divine care and direction), came as I experie...
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A Facebook for Sober Folks!
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www.SoberSector.com Sober sector is a new social network specifically for sober people! Come by and check it out!
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What makes us fall ! small relapse
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i'm pretty upset with myself . I had a small relapse last night. I didn't do anything crazy or drink a crazy amount, I just had more then I wanted to. I didn't embarasse myself. I didn't do anything stupid. I actually had a really great time at the club with my friends. I just wish I drank a little less then I d...
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I don't want to talk about my AA birthday
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I don't need to know how long you people have been sober to learn from and share with you. I've met AA folks with 30-40 years clean time who were complete assholes and were unhappy. I've also met people with 6 moths or a year who absolutely glow and radiate the beauty of the fellowship and the program. Mayb...
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Today's Gift 01-08
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Cheerfulness keeps up a kind of daylight in the mind, and fills it with a steady and perpetual serenity. --Joseph Addison Our Program allows us to stand back from day-to-day confusion and let serenity come into our lives. Our program doesnt take away all the struggles and problems from life, but it do...
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Quck question
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Hey guys! Hope everyone is doing well, i just have a quick question.
Ive been making 6 mtgs/week and go to my local library to read up on spirituality 2x a week. My sponsor and i are connecting ok, but... Im bored. Im tired of hearing the same things over and over again. I feel my brain is atrophying. I als...
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Dating
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Does anyone have any ideas for where sober singles can go hang out like in a bar to mingle for potential dating scenarios? Or dating sites? Are there already topics on this? I'm sure there are but this site lacks a search feature :(
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just checking
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Grateful for another sober day! So I have a question for all you wise ones: I'm secretly (well not anymore) thinking of going to school for an Associates in AODA counseling. I have all the generals done, so each semester would only be about 12 credits. So here's the question. I was wondering if you t...
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SAD
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I live in Wisconsin, and we just turned the corner - gaining 30 seconds of daylight per day. It is still dark at breakfast and supper though. I haven't been diagnosed with it, but I feel like I have a lot of the symptoms of seasonal affective disorder. (SAD) Usually to combat this in the past, I would tr...
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Today's Gift 01-07
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We don't want to live in the past, but we do need to learn to live comfortably with it. "We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it." This is a promise of the Twelve Step program. One of the most useful tools we have for learning to live with our past is the Fourth Step inventory. Onc...
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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January 7, 2013 Quote of the Week "Trying to understand God just makesHis job harder." I can't tell you how much time I've spent trying to figure out who or what God is. I've spent years trying to understand the Catholic God I was raised with, and more years trying to define God from a philo...
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Oh happy day
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The sun was shining through the window just so, that the lace curtain in the hallway reflected roses and dancing swirls against the wall. I've never noticed that before. 6 eagles were watching over the Chippewa River behind our house. One was watching me. My daughter learned how to play a driving ar...
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Slipped Yesterday
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I saw my wifes profile on that dating site again and lost it. I went out and bought a bottle of vodka and went at it. I wish someone would tell her that her having that profile up there is wrong as she is married and its killing me.
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11th Step meetings
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Most of the meetings I have been to have been 11th step or meditation meetings. A topic is chosen, there is time to meditate, read, pray, and then everyone shares their thoughts. I am having a VERY hard time with this. I feel like I am taking a test I have not studied for. I don't know if it is that I am out of pr...
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I dont think I will ever get it..
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I had 3 months, then 6, my longest was 8 then I relapsed and had 4, well the past few months I have been smoking weed and justifying it to myself (its legal in some states) well I slipped up last week, had about 5 long islands and lost $1000 at the casino, worst part was I took my wife on this trip and she relapse...
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Today's Gift 01-06
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Oh, what a tangled web we weave When first we practice to deceive. --Sir Walter Scott To deceive means to fool people into believing things that are not true. As addicts, we did this in many ways. We lied. We hid facts. We were sneaky. While we were trying to fool other people, we also fooled ourselves. Ev...
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Memories coming back
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I always thought the first time I drank was with a friend when we were 13, getting drunk on her dad's beer. Just sitting here, I had these two memories beat me over the head: The first time I drank I was actually in my parents kitchen, by myself, drinking a glass of mixed liquors I'd siphoned from various bo...
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Tenth Step Under Fire
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Continued to take personal Inventory and when we are wrong promptly admit it. Yesterday 1/3. I accessed the site to a posted message titled A Funny for the Old-Timers As someone with 39 years of continuous sobriety, thus qualifying as such , I read it; but, in all truth did not find it funny , I found it DE...
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Give your self an Instant Raise ! quit drinking!
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Its been about a week now since I quit drinking I can't belive how much money I have in my bank! I was usually going out 3 - 4 x per week spending from 30 - 60 bucks plus at least 6 tall boys to get me started. Give your self an instant raise and quit drinking! Plus i'm being more productive! woot woot i'm pump...
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A slight miscommunication
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As I mentioned I've been a bit of a grumpy bastard the last few days and my wife has been extremely patient and understanding. I feel a great deal of gratitude and love for her and so about half an hour ago when I went to kiss her goodnight I whispered in her ear "I know that I've been impossible but I did...
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Reinvented myself also
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I took a page from Tipsy's book and decided to reinvent myself here. My other account had almost 1000 posts and I felt I needed to start over since I am on day 1 again. Made it to a face to face meeting nooner, it was about service work, I helped set up some chairs and take them down. Felt so good to be a part of...
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We went together
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My husband and I went to an alanon meeting together today for the first time. I thought maybe he would feel awkward. I thought maybe I might too for a moment. But it was great, and we were both really comfortable with it after all. I liked having my best friend there with me. We found the same things funn...
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