Congrats on your 10+ years of sobriety. My 11th year anniversary just happens to be the 10th of this month, July. So I know how grateful it must feel. It's been a rewarding experience for me ever since day 1, and A.A. had a lot to do with that. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles though, but like I've said many times before; 'you might be new to A.A. but you're not new to the world'. So be careful, okay. Welcome again to "MIP".
-- Edited by Mr_David on Wednesday 4th of July 2012 02:50:47 AM
I've been shafted by more "recovery" people than "normal people. After 6 1/2 yrs sobriety I drank. Today by the grace of God I have 11 yrs in August. My problem is that my ex-sponser, his AA wife, My ex-AA girlfriens best friend and 13 others in recovery have hung me out to dry to the tune of $1000's of dollars in cash and merchandise.
Yes I've learned, but I am not a doormat. I'm sueing them all! The "friends" of my ex-girlfriend really shafted me and instead of having my back, she choose them. 3 1/2 yrs wasted ...and she IS one of the best people I've ever met and The diamond ring is now thrown in the ocean.
I stopped going to AA for a while but I'm now attending again. I'll never trust an AA member ever again for anything physical. I'll give all the help I can to help them do steps and be available to help them find they're own God, BUT I AM ANGRY STILL. I'll keep praying for them, but I'm not taking any of this laying down. HELP!!! Thoughts please.
Thanks Mr. David and happy anniversary. We learn, we grow, we stay sober. Thanks for the words of encoragement. Happy 4th...watch out for the drivers lol.....stay in touch. are there online meetings on this site? I haven't explored it yet......best regards, Phil
Thanks Phil. This site is awesome, and yes they do have online meetings, Tuesdays and Saturdays. Maybe you can lead one, eventually.
I've experienced a lot myself over the past 11 years, some good and some not so good. But like you said, it's a learning process for all of us. I've been burned by so many people over my lifespan that I stopped counting -none in sobriety though. But like you said, that's how we learn. I still help those in need, but with a greater awareness today, that's all. It's a part of me that will never change, I hope.
Welcome Phil, sad news indeed. I did very little dating in AA, and zero business deal, even though I'm a contractor and could've had plenty of work, I figured that that's not what I go to meetings for. I could get confused or lose heart in the fellowship and in the program. Imo it's best to keep it simple. I've got great AA friends that I've been around the country and the world with, and I've had 6 great sponsors, very blessed. It hurts me when I hear of one AA doing another wrong, and the impending distrust that results in the program in general. Don't let this happen Phil. Pick up your marbles and move on to another set of friends.
Congratulations on 10+ years of sobriety.Resentments are a killer,pray hard to your Higher Power and move forward.People will always let us down but we continue to remain"aware"and reach out to the best of our ability.I also have to work hard to not always look for the "con" going on from my years on the streets . Have a blessed and productive day and a safe 4th!!
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I know it sucks! I'm new at this, I've been now five days sober, but it's hard to be with a man who has already been wasted in two of those fives days I have been sober! I have been with him for almost six years, so ya there is a history with us, but I feel that I am alone with this. My bestfriend is also an alcoholic. At yesterdays pool party, she offered me a beer twice,(thank goodness I hate the taste of beer) I'm more of a hard liquer drinker, but still it's frustrating. I just keep praying, and staying stronge. Hang in there, there is a reason to everything!
Welcome....I think early in sobriety...Or with long term sobriety...Inside or outside of AA....You need to be very careful in choosing who your friends are....That's just life....That's not AA. Glad you're here.
Just recently my old sponsor, who I have always been very close with, told me to leave him alone out of the blue. I was angry for several days but then I thought about what it says in the BB- that we should treat the people who cross us as if they are sick, just as we are. Like it was said, people can suck inside or outside the rooms. Congrats on your long-term sobriety!