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Dealing With Fear
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by Rod Spencer, M.Div. M.A. There are many things to be afraid of in life. Losing a loved one. Going broke. Growing old. Being diagnosed with a terminal illness. Dying. These are some of the more common fears we all face, and to ignore these threats is to live in denial. Fear is hardwired into ou...
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He's f'in with my sobriety
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He called on Thursday to ask me about a cell phone feature! He called me again 3hours later to say, "what did you tell me I needed to do". I sent him an email today telling him I'll bring the shitty kittty back on Tuesday and pick up my truck - he's on 12 hour night shift till tues morning - His r...
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Daily Reflections July 1
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THE BEST FOR TODAY The principles we have set down are guides to progress. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 60 Just as a sculptor will use different tools to achieve desired effects in creating a work of art, in Alcoholics Anonymous the Twelve Steps are used to bring about results in my own life. I do not overwh...
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sponsee stuff
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Hey all - sponsee came to me today with a situation regarding her sponsee. Seems her 2 years sober sponsee who is celebrating by speaking tonite has been continuing to steal $$ from people who care about her - she is a young one - 23 - she has been given guidance a few times regarding this defect of charact...
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Happy Canada Day Weekend..Canucks
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Hurting.........
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So much has been going on lately and I continue to try to push it all down, just like I 've always done - (Brave lil' Jen, oh she's fine ) If I don't acknowledge it, it isn't happening... I know that will only last for a while and then it all comes to the surface.......I have health issues again, my son is sc...
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Hi I'm new here.
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Hi all, Just found this site, I haven't been to a meeting yet. I'm scheduled to go tomorrow. I thought it would be nice to interact with others going through the same thing, maybe need a little help when I'm not at a "meeting". I don't even know what a meeting will be like. Anyhow, I'm here and an...
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Accepting Change
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One day, my mother and I were working together in the garden. We were transplanting some plant for the third time. Grown from seed in a small container, the plants had been transferred to a larger container; then transplanted into the garden. Now, because I was moving, we were transplanting them agai...
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Daily Reflections June 30
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SACRIFICE = UNITY = SURVIVAL The unity, the effectiveness, and even the survival of A. A. will always depend upon our continued willingness to give up some of our personal ambitions and desires for the common safety and welfare. Just as sacrifice means survival for the individual alcoholic, so does...
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Speak Kindly to Yourself
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What is this self inside us, this silent observer, Severe and speechless critic, who can terrorize us, And urge us on to futile activity, And in the end, judge us still more severely, For the errors into which his own reproaches drove us?-- T. S. Eliot How do you talk to yourself? Would you talk that way t...
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just when i think...
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... i realize i should quit thinking. ya know that slogan...think, think, think...well for me..its don't think, don't think, don't think. so i can probably safely say that like the majority of those powerless, i have trust issues. and ya i trust, cautiously..and get burned. yup, happened again. on...
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Dailt Reflections June 29
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RIPPLING EFFECT Having learned to live so happily, we'd show everyone else how. . .Yes, we of A.A. did dream those dreams. How natural that was, since most alcoholics are bankrupt idealists. . .So why shouldn't we share our way of life with everyone? TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 156 The gre...
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For us 'girls'
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A strong woman works out every day to keep her body in shape - But a woman of strength kneels in prayer to keep her soul in shape. A strong woman isn't afraid of anything - But a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of her fear. A strong woman won't let anyone get the best of her - But a woman of strength g...
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I'm very tempted right now...
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I'm sure why but I'm feeling very compelled to go on a tear
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Sin and Guilt
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When we mock sin, and pretend that we can't be hurt by it, we are fooling ourselves. Sin has great power to hurt and destroy. Only a fool thinks otherwise. The wise man or woman knows the risk of sin, and they learn to avoid it. When we resist sin, we are walking in the favor of our higher power as we unde...
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Jeannie, please come back
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I'm sooo sorry you misinterpreted my replies to your post......I never meant for it to sound that way. I was talking about me and my religion and what I believe. I enjoy a good religious conversation, that how I learn. I would never, ever tell anyone they are wrong in what they believe in. I was just shari...
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moving out... yes, I'm finally gonna start listening to people
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I sorta have 2 new sponsors now, 2 women from my homegroup... I can't decide between them, and well, they said I could use them both for now... one of them I know has been through these same things I'm dealing with right now, and they both gave me the same advice, same suggestions... and I was being stub...
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Give it up already!!!!
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We had to surrender to a power greater than ourselves to get where we are today. And each day, we have to turn to that power for strength and guidance. For us, resistance means struggle-struggle with others as well as an internal struggle. Serenity isn't compatible with struggle. We cannot control fo...
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Todays a good day
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After three weeks of sweating out a very thorough background check. They called today and said I start monday. As checkered as my past prior to 95 is I never thought I'd make it past that part. Funny thing is that last night I told my wife that I was done worrying about this thing. The worry and relivin...
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I'm powerless over LIFE and my life has become unmanageable
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Yes, this is going to be a long ramble, you don't have to read it, but I about feel like I'm losing it right now and I gotta get all this out. I'm a total mess right now, and it's my own fault. I don't know, I've been a basketcase for the last few days. I really don't know what's going on. But you know, all throu...
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An Inner Choice
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Peace Often we look at the outside world and find it in a state of seeming chaos or disorder. We feel compelled to transform the situation from one of turmoil into one of peace, yet we are often disappointed in our best attempts to do so. One reason for this is that we cannot bring to the world what we do not h...
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OK Wren....Go Bake The Cake!! :)
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One of the most painful things we have to do in our lives is Letting Go. Sometimes it is Letting Go of things...material things which mean a lot to us, even if only sentimental value. It may mean Letting Go of feelings. When we hold sadness inside, and try to mask it with only a show of happiness, it is bette...
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The Boundaries of Experience
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Expanding Your Comfort Zone None of us are born with a guidebook that provides explicit rules for thought and behavior that will enable us to navigate life successfully. To cope with the myriad of complexities to which all of humanity is subject, we each develop a set of habits and routines that groun...
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Daily Reflections June 28
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THE DETERMINATION OF OUR FOUNDERS A year and six months later these three had succeeded with seven more. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 159 If it had not been for the fierce determination of our founders, A.A. would have quickly faded like so many other so-called good causes. I look at the hundreds of meeti...
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When Things Don't Work
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Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve the problem in that same way. We may get frustrated, try harder, get more frustrated, and then exert more energy and influence into forcing the same solutio...
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Achieving Harmony
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When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's work separately to learn the feel, to learn the sound. One hand picks out a part until there is a rhythm and ease in playing what is difficult. Then, the musi...
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My "grandbabies" (kittens) lol
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Hm, this is weird...
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For some reason I'm finding myself highly, um...ahem...aroused since I quit drinking. I dont know what to make of it? I dont know if it's normal or what but I'm like a walking sun dial. It's sort of distracting Anyone else experience this when they stopped drinking? Phil?
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Jun 27 Daily Reflections
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CONFORMING TO THE A.A. WAY We obey A.A.'s Steps and Traditions because we really want them for ourselves. It is no longer a question of good or evil; we conform because we genuinely want to conform. Such is our process of growth in unity and function. Such is the evidence of God's grace and love among us....
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Life get's better
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As I had posted earlier, I was upset about a job that i was trying to get, but I didnt drink over it. Instead, I prayed and asked God if it was his will to let me get it. Well, today I found out I wasnt going to get it. At first I was upset, then I remembered what I had asked God. As we all know, he always gives us a ans...
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Hello new here
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Just found this site today while looking for something up lifting. I haven't drank since 6/95. I'm being considered for a very good job but probably won't survive the back groundcheck due to all the stupid things I did while still drinking. I have found people to be not very forgiving. Oh don't get me w...
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oh crap!
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well, the 4 year relationship i was in thats been over about a year had ended badly with him refusing to speak to me any more as it continually went to conflict. (same old story, i wanted more) we were stuck in a pattern that suited him to a "t" but didnt do much for me. usually i end up on much more c...
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Whew!! Lot to catch up on here..:)
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My thoughts re....a couple of posts from below.... I believe that a lot of times...we can take things out of context...when posts or replys to posts are read...and we can take them as insulting, or personally...beyond...what they are really meant to be... I believe that any replys that someone get...
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Surviving Slumps
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A slump can go on for days. We feel sluggish, unfocused, and sometimes overwhelmed with feelings we can't sort out. We may not understand what is going on with us. Even our attempts to practice recovery behaviors may not appear to work. We still don't feel emotionally, mentally, and spiritually as go...
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Struggling...
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I'm having a really difficult time right now...cant seem to keep the "just for today" philosophy in my mind. I keep thinking about things in terms of "never", "forever" and "the rest of my life"...I don't think I have what it takes to do anything for the re...
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Just my thought
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If we choose to follow in the footsteps of fools, we will also have to suffer the consequences. When we walk along blindly, we are in danger of falling into sin. We must watch our steps and turn from that which is evil. It is our obligation to flee from sin and evil. If we keep company with fools we will...
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Accepting Reality
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...self-contempt never inspires lasting change. -- Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter I can suck myself down into a deep, black hole when I focus on what I think I SHOULD be more loving, sexy, productive, whatever. Thinking I should be something else means Im not good enough now. This is poverty th...
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Daily Reflections June 26
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A GIFT THAT GROWS WITH TIME For most normal folks, drinking means conviviality, companionship and colorful imagination. It means release from care, boredom and worry. It is joyous intimacy with friends and a feeling that life is good. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 151 The longer I chased these elusive...
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Burdensome Feelings
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Blaming Others As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relat...
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Just checkin in...
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Hey y'all, just checkin in... haven't posted here in awhile... pretty hot here today, but the house is staying cool enough at least... and it's not so bad in the shade outside... Been busy doing major clean up around here all week... I've been working on the house mostly and a bit here and there outside...
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I'm not dead yet
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Hi. Just checking in. Anybody have any words of wisdom or encouragement for me to publicly mock but secretly appreciate?
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Chat room
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When is the best time to be involved in the AA chat room. I live in the UK. I've never used a chat room before and would like to give it a go, but so far have found it empty ???? Welshgit
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Daily Reflections June 25
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A TWO-WAY STREET If we ask, God will certainly forgive our derelictions. But in no case does He render us white as snow and keep us that way without our cooperation. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 65 When I prayed, I used to omit a lot of things for which I needed to be forgiven. I thought that if I di...
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Withholding
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Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. We're not available to participate in the relationship. We shut down. Sometimes, it is appropriate and healthy to shut down in a relationship. We may legitimat...
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Just sayin "Hi"
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Checkin in...and just saying hi.... Dts from computer meltdown are a bitch!! :) No addiction here!! jee sus!! New system and comming back online in a few days... Different email address also... Stay sober....stay sane.... Keep on truckin!! and Watch out for Turnip trucks!! Onward!!!
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H.A.L.T....
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heh, well, wasn't posting for awhile, now I'm posting a lot... lol H.A.L.T... Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired... I was a bit hungry... not exactly angry... lonely... and definitely tired... have been up all night... being an overprotective mama, and stirrin up trouble... lol I've got a good...
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Well well well...
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You all said I was too flippant to be serious about quitting drinking. You mocked me for coming and going and not being able to make it stick...you were cold, callous and insensitive. Well I've got a little news flash for you, I did finally get "it" and I have put together some clean time s...
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The Light Of Truth
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It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. -- Chinese Proverb With all the negativity that surrounds us, it is easy to become overwhelmed. It is also tempting to fight against the negative or to declare war on it. Yet a master teacher offered a better way: "Resist not evil, but overc...
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Just a couple of questions
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First, is there a way to do spell check when writing a post. Second, Is there a thread where folks can post Quotes that they have heard in meeting and other places that have been a big help in their recovery?
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Hi, I'm an Alcoholic!
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New to this whole AA thing, and, well, frankly, comparatively new to the whole alcoholic thing. It's developed into quite the interesting little life predicament in the last, oh, two years, I'd say. Hmm. It's been a rough two years, as I'm sure many of you can relate to. Before I ever became an alcoholi...
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