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Letting Things Happen
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We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, we're learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes, these things often work out for good. But we don't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out the purpose and plan for each detail...
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Self pity
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April 14, 2008 Self-pity Poor little old me. I had the 'ploms' and almost died from them. . . Things grew worse. I fought tears, and when I had successfully swallowed them, anger and hostility toward everyone and everything welled up in their place. . . despairing loneliness enveloped me. . . What can I...
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mistakes
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My last 2 relapses had to do with entanglements with well intentioned married men who could not, ultimately- leave either the lifestyle or the wife. Dynasty is more powerful than passion- I get that. Wives out there- I hope I'm not offending you. The analogy I am drawing is that what seems to be go...
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AAAAAAACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You know how I have been trying to minimize STRESS in my life lately wherever possible???? Well, try THIS one on for size!!!! I was at clinicals all day, and I mentioned an interview i have Wednesday morning at a practice I would LOVE to work for, plus it is only 3 10-hour days a week, which would be PERFEC...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 15th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Terrible things could have happened to any one of us. We never will know what might have happened to us when we were drunk. We usually thought "That couldn't happen to me." But any one of us could have killed somebody or have been killed ourselves, if we were drunk eno...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 4th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When I came into A.A., I found men and women who had been through the same things I had been through. But now they were thinking more about how they could help others than they were about themselves. They were a lot more unselfish than I ever was. By coming to meetings and associat...
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Liver failure at age 14
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http://www.mailonsunday.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=559589&in_page_id=1770
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Scary
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So what I am up against now? I am getting mad and distrssed at the thoughts of yester years.While I had already accepted most of the big destructive moments and events in life, I can't stand the small ones which led to them. I am reading and rereading 3 steps as Tugg suggested.Its very scary.I am unable t...
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NYQUIL?
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is it a no no for me since I'm an alcoholic?
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 14th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ A police captain once told about certain cases he had come across in his police work. The cause of the tragedy in each case was drunkenness. He told his audience about a man who got into an argument with his wife while he was drunk and beat her to death. Then he went out and drank som...
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Perfectionism
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Recovery from codependency is an individual process that necessitates making mistakes, struggling through problems, and facing tough issues.
Expecting ourselves to be perfect slows this process; it puts us in a guilty and anxious state. Expecting others to be perfect is equally destructive...
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No Progress
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Its more than what, perhaps 10 days since I started my journey to write things down.But haven't moved beyond 4 lines.And to make matters worst, I am now attracted towards an alcoholic not in the program. I am consciously trying to stay away from him, but seems I feel I want an emotional anchor. I know he c...
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Walk in dry places
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Walk in Dry Places No Conditional Sobriety Admission of Powerlessness Sobriety in AA is unconditional. This means that theres never been a reason for drinking, no matter how bad our circumstances may become. As the AA pioneers were fond of saying, THERES NOTHING THAT DRINKING WON'T MAKE WORSE. How...
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Howdy
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The Daily Practice of Steps One, Ten, Eleven and Twelve -- From the very beginning of my recovery, my sponsors let me know (in no uncertain terms) that there were four steps of the program that were to be PRACTICED EVERY DAY ... that I was to TRY to the very best of my ability ... They are the 1st, 10th, 11th a...
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"Living Sober"
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7 Using the Serenity Prayer On the walls of thousands of A.A. meeting rooms, in any of a variety of languages, this invocation can be seen: God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, The courage, to change the things we can,...
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AHHHHHH i need to talk to someone!
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My mom just said that she hasn't been drinking for 2 weeks! AHHHH I.....I ....I need someone to talk to! Lanchas
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 13th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Having found my way into this new world by the grace of God and the help of A.A., am I going to take that first drink, when I know that just one drink will change my whole world? Am I deliberately going back to the suffering of that alcoholic world? Or am I going to hang onto the happin...
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I need to slam on the BRAKES!
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I swear, I get going through the week, and then the weekend comes, and I keep going all weekend long, making messes and cleaning them up... running to and fro, losing my freAking mind. I am only 4 months past my last drunken episode, and I need to slam on the brakes.... this is how I get, I am a slug for months...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 12th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ This sober world is a pleasant place for an alcoholic to live in. Once you've got out of your alcoholic fog, you find that the world looks good. You find real friends in A.A. You get a job. You feel good in the morning. You eat a good breakfast and you do a good day's work at home or out...
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nervous, but hopeful
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This is my first time on a website like this. I've never talked about my problem with drinking before. I kinda felt like if you don't admit it, it's not a problem, I'm just "having a good time." I've realized that I'm killing myself and ruining my life, I'm 24 yrs old and I drink to the point of bl...
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Letting Go of Fear
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Picture yourself swimming floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow.
Suddenly, you become conscious of your situation. Frightened, overwhelmed with "what if's?" your body tenses. You begin to thrash around, frantically lo...
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AA meetings
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Is it ok to call my higher power Jesus, and is it wrong to ask if I could pray for a meeting at a meeting.
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odd
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Is it live, or is it memorex? My cable went out tonight, and I thought- why bother calling them- spend the night without TV. My thoughts rambled thru my day, pleasantly; and then I remembered having gone to the A&P this afternoon- a woman hollered at me for having nicked the door of her c...
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Lifting the guilt
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April 11, 2008 Lifting the Guilt For weeks I sat in the back of the rooms, silent when others shared their experience, strength and hope. I listened to their stories and found so many areas where we overlapped -- not all of the deeds, but the feelings of remorse and hopelessness. I learned that alcoholi...
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music/spirituality
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Needing a calm place is essential to my sobriety. I have issues with god, and I often listened to depressing music when I was drinking. If anyone needs a musical lift- find Carrie Newcomber's CD "A Gathering of Spirits." It is smart, haunting and comforting. Really.
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Introduction
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I just found this site and registered....I've been on another site but really looking for a site focused on the BB and 12 steps. My name is Lisa, and I am an alcoholic.
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HUD inspector came by
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What a joke that was. In and out in less that 30 seconds. The HUD inspector was a lady and she was more interested in makeing sure all the light switches worked, that the stove and refridgerator worked. I do not see how she could have took time to inspect my house keeping skills.
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Last night
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Last night was my first time meeting with my sponsor, supposedly to start working on the steps. As I drove there, I felt more and more anxious, then mad, then scared and sad. I started to cry. I didn't want to go. I sat in my car outside of her house for a while. It was like I was physically unable to move...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 11th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In that alcoholic world, one drink always leads to another and you can't stop till you're paralyzed. And the next morning it begins all over again. You eventually land in a hospital or jail. You lose you job. Your home is broken up. You're always in a mess. You're on the merry-go...
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Financial Goals
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Taking responsibility for our financial affairs will improve our self-esteem and lessen anxiety.
Each of us, today, has a present set of financial circumstances. We have a certain amount of money in hand, and money due to us. We have a pile of bills that we owe. We have taxes to pay. Those are our pres...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 10th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When I came into A.A., I came into a new world. A sober world. A world of sobriety, peace, serenity, and happiness. But I know that if I take just one drink, I'll go right back into that old world. That alcoholic world. That world of drunkenness, conflict, and misery. That alcoho...
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A new relationship
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Happy Sober Day, my dear Sobervibers. I thought I'd share something of my news with you. As of last Thursday I am taking a relationship with someone I've known in fellowship since he came in around 8mths ago. He's been in active in his addictions for years, hyper & reckless & was on his way to a...
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Just checking in
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Hey all Just wanted to check, I've been working study and well needless to say it tires one out. I keep with active aa people as much as possible, sometimes that's hard too. My son starts work on Monday coming, and I tell ya...... It's been a rough go of it, I felt myself having to walk away and let go and l...
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New Information on the Optic Nerve
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Medical news ------------------------------------ Bet you didn't know this: Did you know that in the human body there is a nerve that connects the eyeball to the anus? It's called the Anal Optic Nerve, and it is responsible for giving people a shitty outlook on life. If you don't believe it, pull a ha...
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Using Others to Stop Our Pain
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Our happiness is not a present someone else holds in his or her hands. Our well-being is not held by another to be given or withheld at whim. If we reach out and try to force someone to give us what we believe he or she holds, we will be disappointed. We will discover that it is an illusion. The person didn't h...
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All my mopping and cleaning paid off
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Just went through inspection and I passed
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scared
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I missed my favorite meeting today, a noon meeting near my office. Haven't been to a meeting in a few days now. Tonight I meet with my sponsor to start "doing the steps." I'm irrationally scared. Of what? Of myself I guess. Will I be capable of being honest? If I am, can I handle all the b...
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forgetfulness
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It ocurrs to me that when I was drinking there are so many small, yet rich experiences I lost out on. Like the 1st cup of coffee in the morning, which I am currently enjoying . We live in such a fast paced society that we have lost ways of healthy winding down in the evening, and pleasant ways to negotiat...
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Just checkin in
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Just wanted to share some gratitude for where I am today in recovery. As you may recall, I relapsed three weeks before my 18th sobriety birthday (although the "set up" was a year prior when I got "too busy" and stopped going to meetings). I spent a lot of the first year back just t...
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Step One Questions
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Step One. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol & that our lives had become unmanageable. The Disease of Alcoholism What does my alcoholism mean to me? Has my disease been active recently, if so how? What is it like when Im obsessed with something? Does my thinking follow a certain patte...
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Giving
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Learning to be a healthy giver can be a challenge. Many of us got caught up in compulsive giving - charitable acts motivated by uncharitable feelings of guilt, shame, obligations, pity, and moral superiority.
We now understand that catering and compulsive giving don't work. They backfire.
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The promises do come true...
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The one promise that has evaded me over the years has been the fear of economic security. Raising two girls on my own, in a small Kansas town of 3000, has been tough. One of the ongoing consequences of my alcoholism was the fact I walked away from a chance at a nursing degree, with an academic scholarship i...
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Is there a difference?
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I am wondering if all addictions are the same, chemical or not. My husband is addicted to an A woman and it seems to be all consuming. At work there are complaints that he spends "hours" in the bathroom - he is busy texting his g/f. I've seen the bills and they must text back and forth 30 times a...
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coming back
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hello. i thougth i would introduce myself, i just signed up on this forum. My name is Sarah, and I have 27 days sober. I have a sponsor, a homegroup, and i have been making meetings. My sponsor is taking me through the bigbook, and i just re read bills story. i have had time before (1 yr then relapsed. 1 1/2...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 9th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Third, alcoholics recover their proper relationships with other people. They think less about themselves and more about others. They try to help other alcoholics. They make new friends so that they're no longer lonely. They try to live a life of service instead of selfishn...
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Imagine My Surprise...
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Amongst all the bills and crap in the mail yesterday.... an envelope from my counsellor. Have not seen him in a few months. First thought, "There's Anthem Blue Cross and Blue Shield again, denying coverage..." Not so. I opened the envelope and I have a $5 credit, which I overpaid out of pock...
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Thank You All.
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I have to thank all who come here, and post. I learn something from every post. It might be strength, focus,love, or direction, every post helps in some way. THANK'S.
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Just Sharing
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Hi Everyone,
Danielle mentioned, in a post yesterday, that I hadn't started a thread with a share recently. So, here I am and thanks for the nudge Danielle.
I hurt my neck in January, shortly after I got back from visiting my parents, and it's still painful and troublesome at times. It looks as if it...
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Follow up on I have a problem brewing
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I just got through sweeping and mopping my floors, again. I could not believe how much dirt my dust mop picked up and then I wet mopped and I could not believe how much dirt was in the water. I guess some of it was dirt I missed the first time and some of it is dirt that has accumulated since I mopped last time...
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Are YOU Alcoholic ~ only YOU can decide
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To answer this question ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honesty as you can.Is drinking making your home life unhappy? Does your drinking make you careless of your familys welfare? Do you drink because you are shy with other people? Is drinking affecting your reputation? Do y...
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