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Relationships
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If we are unhappy without a relationship, we'll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn't begin our life; a relationship doesn't become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life. -- Beyond Codependency
Relationships are the blessing and bane of recovery. Relationsh...
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Northern Kentucky AA Folks - Bueller, Bueller... ??
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Is there anybody out there? (NKY)
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Daily Reflections ~ Total Acceptance
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He cannot picture life without alcohol. Some day he will be unable to imagine life either with alcohol or without it. Then he will know loneliness such as few do. He will be at the jumping-off place. He will wish for the end. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.152 Only an alcoholic can understand the exact meanin...
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Directions to Recovery
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Wisdom of the Rooms January 5, 2009 Quote of the Week "Directions to recovery: Just go straight to hell and make a U-turn." When I was new to the program, I heard a word I didn't know the definition of. The word was perdition. As the fog began to clear, my sponsor recommended I look it up, and wh...
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panic feeling today
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Was out with family and met up with some old acquaintances. Talked briefly and felt panic. Not sure why, but must be about just having to review one more time with someone who knew a little about how horrible our past month has been. I wanted a drink. I thought if I had a drink, I wouldn't be feeling this n...
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Accepting Help
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Some of us have felt so alienated that we've forgotten we're not alone. We've come to believe that we have to do it ourselves. Some of us have been abandoned. Some have gone without love. Some of us have gotten used to people never being there for us. Some of us have struggled, had hard lessons to learn.
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 5th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day Have I turned to a Higher Power for help? Do I believe that each man or woman I see in A.A. is a demonstration of the power of God to change a human being from a drunkard into a sober, useful citizen? Do I believe that this Higher Power can keep me from drinking? Am I living one day at a ti...
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When I see myself as others see me, do I deny it?
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Pocket Sponsor Whatever you are trying to avoid, we won't go away until you confront it. When I see myself as others see me, do I deny it? Excerpt from the Pocket Sponsor, By The Hazelden author of ' Day By Day' & other Meditation Books Thought for TodayGenerosity Generosity of spirit increases e...
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Your greatest reward...
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Hiya, We've most likely all read the AA promises on pages 83 and 84 of the big book but I was just wondering if some of you would mind sharing with us what you feel was the greatest reward or benefit you've experienced personally since becoming sober? I find hearing these types of stories are more meaning...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 4th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day Have I admitted I am an alcoholic? Have I swallowed my pride and admitted I was different from ordinary drinkers? Have I accepted the fact that I must spend the rest of my life without liquor? Have I any more reservations, any idea in the back of my mind that some day I'll be able to d...
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Daily Reflections ~ Begin Where You Are
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We feel that elimination of our drinking is but a beginning. A much more important demonstration of our principles lies before us in our respective homes, occupations and affairs. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.19 Its usually pretty easy for me to be pleasant to the people in an A.A. setting. While Im work...
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Hello from Japan
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Hi my name is Lyndon and I am an Alcoholic.
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Can my understanding of god be that he's un-understandable?
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I may have mentioned once or twice that I have a serious problem with anything religious and with any person or groups interpretation of "god". The closest I've been able to get to acceptance of a "power greater than myself" is to believe that there are simply things that human b...
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Pocket Sponsor
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What we believed when we were five was not what we believed by the time we turned twelve. What we think we know at two years sobriety will change when we have eight. It is for this reason that we have "suggested" steps and not commandments. Not only is the way I work the steps today different f...
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Can We Choose?
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Can We Choose? We must never be blinded by the futile philosophy that we are just the hapless victims of our inheritance, of our life experience, and of our surroundings--that these are the sole forces that make our decisions for us. this is not the road to freedom. We have to believe that we can reall...
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Change
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AA Thought for the DayJanuary 4, 2009Change Let us never fear needed change. . . The essence of all growth is a willingness to change for the better and then an unremitting willingness to shoulder whatever responsibility this entails. As Bill Sees It, Page 115, courtesy of A.A.online.net Thought...
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Separating from Family Issues
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We can draw a healthy line, a healthy boundary, between our nuclear family and ourselves. We can separate ourselves from their issues.
Some of us may have family members who are addicted to alcohol and other drugs and who are not in recovery from their addiction.
Some of us may have family members...
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Rough 24 hours
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I felt like I had the worst day in the whole world yesterday. My sponsor had chewed me the day before for not following a suggestion that I didn't even know he suggested. As the day progressed, I began to obsess over it. Both of us work so it is hard to connect during the day, even though I called a few time...
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Daily Reflections ~ Powerless
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We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-that our lives had become unmanageable. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 It is no coincidence that the very first Step mentions powerlessness: An admission of personal powerlessness over alcohol is a cornerstone of the foundation of recovery....
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YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED...........
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To kiss the velvetty sides of my soft muzzle and cuddle me on a cold snowy night...... Love, Scouty
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i am new here
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I have never been to a meeting before and really do not want to go but thought the online thing may be good for me. Of course, I am having trouble with decreasing alcohol in my daily routine. Sometimes I can go for a couple days without it, and sometimes I may only have one or two glasses of wine. New Years E...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 3rd Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day When I came into A.A., I learned what an alcoholic was and then I applied this knowledge to myself to see if I was an alcoholic. When I was convinced that I was an alcoholic, I admitted it openly. Since then, have I been learning to live accordingly? Have I read the book, Alcoholics...
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Pain and Progress
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Pain and Progress "Years ago I used to commiserate with all people who suffered. Now I commiserate only with those who suffer in ignorance, who do not understand the purpose and ultimate utlity of pain." ~~~~~~~ Someone once remarked that pain is the touchstone of spiritual progress. ...
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New Recovery Community
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There's a New Recovery Community, that just started this week! It can use some support. Hope to see you there. if you want to come in and introduce yourself, and be a part of this message board, you're welcome. -- Edited by StPeteDean at 10:04, 2009-01-03
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 2nd January 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day What makes A.A. work? The first thing is to have a revulsion against myself and my way of living. Then I must admit I was helpless, that alcohol had me licked and I couldn't do anything about it. The next thing is to honestly want to quit the old life. Then I must surrender my life to a...
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My Personal Gratitude!
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My name is Carol and I'm an alcoholic.
That is such a simple statement, but one that took me years and years to be finally able to say and accept. I am an alcoholic and I will be until the day I die.
There are times when I look back at my drinking and find it hard to believe that that was really me. My life is j...
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Daily Reflections ~ First, The Foundation
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Is sobriety all that we can expect of a spiritual awakening? No, sobriety is only a bare beginning. As Bill Sees It, p. 8 Practicing the A.A. program is like building a house. First I had to pour a big, thick concrete slab on which to erect the house; that, to me, was the equivalent of stopping drinking. Bu...
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A Big Book Quote
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If you are as seriously alcoholic as we were, we believe there is no middle-of-the-road solution. We were in a position where life was becoming impossible, and if we had passed into the region from which there is no return through human aid, we had but two alternatives: One was to go on to the bitter end,...
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Nurturing Self Care
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.. .there isn't a guidebook for setting boundaries. Each of us has our own guide inside ourselves. If we continue to work at recovery, our boundaries will develop. They will get healthy and sensitive. Our selves will tell us what we need to know, and we'll love ourselves enough to listen. -- Beyond Cod...
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Healthy Limits
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Boundaries are vital to recovery. Having and setting healthy limits' is connected to all phases of recovery: growing in self esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to really love and value ourselves.
Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, a...
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4th Step "OUCHES" !
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There are quite a few, but the one that comes to mind first is years ago, when my John and I broke up for the umpteenth time, I posted him on Cheaters.com. It included his full name, address and phone number! He of course found out about it when out of the blue women starting calling and cussing him out! He al...
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Hello, intros, and Happy New Year to all...
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Hi everyone, I'd just like to introduce myself. My name's Dave and I've been sober since the 8th of March 2007. For Christmas this year I was given internet access, so I thought I'd investigate the online AA community. And here I am! Happy New Year to everyone, and I look forward to talking to you soon. Da...
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A Member Shares...
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I recieved this in an e-mail and thought it worth sharing. A Member Shares... I'm Lucia, an alcoholic. "All I Needed to Know I learned In Kindergarten" was a best-selling book some years ago. In the same vein, everything I needed in AA was handed to me in my first sober year. This is not to say t...
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Dealing with resentment in the rooms
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I have a resentment with someone in the rooms. Here it is. It started out with asking this guy for additional advice, he is not my sponser but I thought he may be able to help. He ended up self appointing himself my sponsor, and helping me with my step 4. The next thing I knew I was telling him about some...
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Personality Change
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Personality Change "It has often been said of A.A. that we are interested only in alcoholism. That is not true. We have to get over drinking in order to stay alive. But anyone who knows the alcoholic personality by firsthand contact knows that no true alky ever stops drinking permanently wit...
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Back to my Home Group
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Last night I went with my sponsor to my old Home Group (it is still hers). I miss it a lot. It is the best meeting I ever went to. We read and study the Big Book for an hour. Then we spend a half hour talking about something we are thankful for in the past week. It is an intimate group of serious people who have goo...
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In God's Hands
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"As Bill Sees It" pg. 2 In God's Hands When we look back, we realize that the things which came to us when we put ourselves in God's hands were better than anything we could have planned. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ My depression deepened unbearably, and finally it seemed to me as though I were at the ver...
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New Years Eve
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My first sober New Years eve in as long as I can remember. My wife and I are playing the Wii and having a good time. It turns out I have no balance. Hope everyone else is doing something fun tonight!
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 1st Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day When I came into A.A., was I a desperate person? Did I have a soul-sickness? Was I so sick of myself and my way of living that I couldn't stand looking at myself in a mirror? Was I ready for A.A.? Was I ready to try anything that would help me to get sober and to get over my soul-sickness...
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Stuffing Feelings
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It has taken 30 years but I finally found the missing piece to this puzzle called "My Life". I have been stuffing painful feelings forever. It started when I was very little. Knowing that feeling was too complicated and painful thus I self-learned how to stuff feelings and medicate in...
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Affirming the Good
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Fun becomes fun, love becomes love, life becomes worth living. And we become grateful. -- Beyond Codependency Wait, and expect good things - for yourself and your loved ones. When you wonder what is coming, tell yourself the best is coming, the very best life and love have to offer, the best God and His...
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Still Here
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Hello everyone! I'm still around and sober. (Grace of God) Christmas was alright, but I'm glad it's over. I'm still, and proberbly always will be, learning to live with others. Going to see how you all are!
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Have a GOOD DAY!!
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'Twas the night before Xmas, we were all in the club, Providing a meeting, instead of a pub; The ashtrays were clean and the coffee was made, The Big Books were out, and we had all prayed. When out in the lot, there arose such a clatter, We jumped from the table to see what was the matter. The Chair with his Bi...
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Checkin' In......
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Good morning, buddies in recovery! Hope all your holidays were terrific. Mine was exhausting, but sober, and I am looking forward to a New Year of positive lessons in recovery. I pledge to get to more meetings this year. Starting with a 12 & 12 tomorrow night with my sponsor. With God's help, I have...
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Feelings, Isolation, Pity Pots and Using AA to Get Positive
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I am just so sick of this God, how much more do you want me to endure, I am so tired of being alone, it seems I have no where to go, no where to turn, nothing to do but walk the lonely beach by myself, I just am really emotional and crying right now. I was going to go to the beach but I just dont feel like driving dow...
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Happy New Day!!
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I liked this reading today and wanted to share. Happy New Day. From: A New Day- December 31 Real generosity toward the future consists in giving all to what is present. -Albert Camus It's the last day of the year and the eve of a new one. For most of us this means it's a time of reflection. It is shor...
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The New Year
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Make New Year's goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you're interested in fully living life in the year to come.
Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, consc...
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Happy New Day!!
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I liked this reading today and wanted to share. Happy New Day. From: A New Day- December 31 Real generosity toward the future consists in giving all to what is present. -Albert Camus It's the last day of the year and the eve of a new one. For most of us this means it's a time of reflection. It is shor...
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Daily Reflections ~ Daily Resolutions
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The idea of twenty-four-hour living applies primarily to the emotional life of the individual. Emotionally speaking, we must not live in yesterday, nor in tomorrow. As Bill Sees It, p. 284 A New year: 12 months, 52 weeks, 365 days, 8,760 hours, 525,600 minutesa time to consider directions, goals, a...
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We beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start.
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Until I had a little sobriety under my belt I was never able to give a reasonable answer to the question of why I drank the way I did for so long. Now I realize that it was because deep down, beneath my wildly extroverted persona I was/am afraid of almost everything. Without alcohol I'm a nervous wreck in so...
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