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TipsyMcstagger


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As some of you may know I've considered it before but for one reason or another decided against it.

 

Any tips or suggestions?



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Hi Tipsy,

As a newbie myself I can't offer much in the way of suggestions. What I can say is that only you can decide what is best for you. And I will add that I dont believe that it matters why you turn up to AA, anything that gets you in the door is a great thing. Once there you will learn for yourself what needs to be learned.

Give it a go! Good luck and God bless



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My tip? ... ... ... Total honesty with ones-self ... ... ... You're reaching the point of 'ALL or nothing' at this point ... ... ...


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What I can say is that only you can decide what is best for you. 

 Disasterous advice. AA is about getting you out of the way of yourself. While actively drinking my best decisions landed me in places that would make your skin crawl.

 

My advice is to keep digging.



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haha thats why I am a newbie- cant get anything right. What I was meaning is that nobody can tell you that you have reached the point where you feel that you need to change something about your drinking. If you are really honest with yourself you will know if your drinking is a problem. But what do I know, im just a newbie........


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I stopped july 2 and I have to say this is the first time I really feel I can. Lost everything so I can only go up. I keep telling the people I hurt that I can't t change the past, I can only go forward. Some people in my life have told me they don't want to hear I'm sorry from me again. I get it. I  have to keep God with me at all times and show everyone I know that I really want to change this time. It destroyed my life and hurt everyone I love. Keep strong and keep the faith.....newbie and taking it a day at a time.



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Welcome to MIP Alward, ... I love your new 'attitude and outlook on life' ... stick around here and let us know how things are go'n with your new life ... and if our experience can help you, we'll share what we've learned without judgement ...


Love ya and God Bless,
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Thanks, very happy to be here......would never have been here a year ago.....would have been making up excuses. Wonder if the liquor store who knew me by name....never a good sign.....wonder what happen to me  lol     thanks God



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LOL ... That makes me remember the 2 or 3 stores I used to go to ... I knew the owners and their names AND their kids names, (since they had family pictures on the counter) ... I tried to spread my buying habit around so no one would suspect I had a problem ... NOW I realize they knew I had a problem long before I could admit it to myself ...

Total Honesty, that's what we strive toward ... especially to ourselves ... glad to have you with us ...



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Hey, Tipsy, how ya doing?

Seems like a recurring concern for you:

aa.activeboard.com/t61571293/is-it-possible-that-im-not-an-alcoholic-but-merely-a-problem/

Time for a diagnosis...

Best of luck.



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Tanin wrote:

Hey, Tipsy, how ya doing?

Seems like a recurring concern for you:

aa.activeboard.com/t61571293/is-it-possible-that-im-not-an-alcoholic-but-merely-a-problem/

Time for a diagnosis...

Best of luck.

 

If there is anything a drunk hates more than his previous statements coming back to haunt him...I have no idea what it is :)



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I guess it's about time for an update.

I've changed many things about my life. Having two beautiful little girls to consider has had a dramatic affect on me. It has caused me to cease some very destructive behaviours, ie: cavorting in dangerous places with dangerous folks. However, I have begun doing my drinking alone in my "man cave" to a frightening degree. I dont even enjoy social drinking anymore. I much prefer solo drinking, whilst I work/sh*tpost on various forums.

My newfound profession, as an online content creator and writer, lends itself well to many reasonable nights in my garage, after my family retires for the evening. And being self sufficient/self employed means I have nobody to answer to the next day. This lack of responsibility could be the death of me :)

All kidding aside...my father died recently, after a short life of abusing his body. I fear the same fate is in store for me. So while my mind would be fine with continuing my drinking, my conscience and my body are beginning to protest. For the sake of sparing my daughters having to bury their father earlier than necessary, I need to make more life changes.

So what does someone like me do? I still love the escape of the bottle, and the creative juices it lets flow...but I know that I'm slowly killing myself, and my untimely death is something I don't wish to inflict on my daughters.

It's a bit of a conundrum no



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Hey man, I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad ... and that reminds me that that could have easily been me but for the grace of God ... Don't know how much you drink, but if it's anywhere close to how I used to drink, you aren't long for this world if you don't make some changes ... (I checked into Rehab the last time with B/A level almost 4 times the legal drunk level ... Doc said my liver had stopped working and I was jaundiced ...) ... that's when I knew I had to stop or die ...

ya know, I kept think'n how peaceful it would be to simply drink myself to death ... no pain just go to sleep ... ... ... forever ... but like you, I felt the pain when some of those we knew here, did just that ...

It IS a conundrum ... ... ... my body was begging me to stop and after 2/3 days without a drink, it was begging me to get some down my throat and hell with the consequences ... I really should have been dead for about 9 1/2 years now ... but AA and some really great AA members made the difference for me ... so, be'n dead at 55 was not to be ... and in a couple months, I'll be 65, go fig'r ...

Hey Buddy, ... you've heard it hundreds of times ... go to meet'ns and work the program, it works and it'll give you a new lease on life, it really will if you have an open mind ...



Love ya dude and God Bless,
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Tipsy, from what you write it sounds like you have it together. It is okay if aa isn't for you. We try not to ram this process down people's throats. We lead by example and just let the light shine thru us for all to see. 

Many many people are able to quit drinking without aa and that's okay too.



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I don't have it together. I'm slowly killing myself and I am unable to stop. Even the incredible love I feel for my daughters isn't strong enough to make me stop.

I think I might be an alcoholic : |



-- Edited by TipsyMcstagger on Wednesday 16th of August 2017 12:42:52 PM

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We're usually the last to know!!! ... ... ... and I know how you feel ... even love of family wasn't enough to get me to stop ... I finally just decided that I just couldn't do this drink'n thing any more ... the sickness and weakness was horrible ... yeah, I thought of down'n a bottle or two of Vodka or even pure grain alcohol, but I had the fear I might not die and then be left with wet brain ... think it's hard on family and friends now, just think how they'd feel if we effed up where they had to care for an invalid??? ... ... ... your kids??? ... want them to remember Daddy as a person who didn't have the balls to not drink and mess up what could have been good happy times filled with love and a caring Daddy??? ... (my son needed me one night when my truck, which he borrowed, quit on the side of the road 100 miles from his destination ... I was passed out at home on the couch ... wife could not wake me up ... he luckily had some friends to come tow it the rest of the way ... ... ... How do you make amends for something like that???) ... ... ... Letting family down is the worst ... The booze just ain't worth giving up all the good things that can happen when we're sober and responsible parents ...

You're going to have functions to go to for your kids as they go to school ... you don't want to show up plastered outta your mind and say or do something really dumb ... maybe even hurt someone ...  




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This is a troll post. Don't feed the troll.

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Goofyman wrote:

This is a troll post. Don't feed the troll.

 

I've been around these boards, off and on, for a decade or so. If I'm a troll I surely deserve some award for dedication to the craft wink



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This morning I noticed that Goofyman deleted his account sometime last night.



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Too bad ... ... ... maybe he was sensitive about something ... just hope he's sober ... ... ...



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Yeah, I hope he's OK.

Maybe he'll be back. Sometimes people leave but then they return.

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Hey guys. I didn't really "leave", I just haven't been around too much. I still read the posts every now and then.

glad to see everybody is doing good. Except the ones that arent. Hope you get good. Never give up. Ever. 

Im over 3 years now. 

Like ive said before, life ain't quite as fun, but it's a lot better. Your life doesn't have to be "fun" all the time, to be good. 

I think that is was one of the biggest things I realized, after quitting, and being quit for awhile. Life is great, even when it's not fun, when you're sober. But, when you're drinking, you may be having fun, but that doesn't mean your life is great. 

Much love to everybody, 

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It's good to hear from you Baba ...


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Congrats on 3 years, BL.

Keep up the good work.

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Tipsy maybe the constant head shaking with the thoughts "I dunno" is part of the problem.  As long as you get to keep doing that it won't kill you and then that kinda makes sense till it does.  I think of these share about alcoholic suicide and understand that for me alcoholic suicide is the most comfortable passing with the exception that my HP got one last question to me near the end knowing that my mind entertained questions and just had to have the answers.  The question was "Did you have that last ounce too much"?  but I was already on the cold concrete floor unable to raise myself up an inch.  I got the answer in college when my professor told the class "there is that point where you will have that one ounce to much and will be dead".   I had no life available to me to consider anything at all which seems to be where you are at right now.  You can do that one ounce too much while the babies and your wife sleep  and you are all alone.  True?  Alcoholic depression.  Alcohol is a depressive chemical.  It will get you there whether you want it to or not.  

The last time I went down I was all by myself in American Samoa in a lights out Fal'e (house) thousands of miles away from my sons and daughter just wanting to sleep deep.  I ended up with a heart beat and breath which one more ounce would have relieved me of.   Thanks for your support.  (((hugs))) smile 



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Hmm .. Hey buddy I really don't know if you have read the Big Book, my apologies if I'm wrong. Maybe you could try reading or re reading the BB especially Bill's story. Sorry about your dad.....

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Hi Nat2000, ... Welcome to MIP ... We'd love to hear more from you, and about your journey ...


Love ya and God Bless,
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