im not sure what to do. I don't drink much, but lately on the weekends, I have been drinking too much. I have been dealing with stress I can't control. I want to stop and be better. I feel so bad about takes. Even my husband says I drink too much now. I cry too much afterwards because now I think he's right. I don't want him or my kids mad at me in the morning. We are visiting my oldest. Am I a bad person? I don't know what to do or say to him.
Go to the next AA meeting in your area, ... TODAY ... just listen and meet others like yourself ... learn how they got and stayed sober ... then post here on how things went and if there are questions, we're here to help ...
Love ya and God Bless, Pappy
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im not sure what to do. I don't drink much, but lately on the weekends, I have been drinking too much. I have been dealing with stress I can't control. I want to stop and be better. I feel so bad about takes. Even my husband says I drink too much now. I cry too much afterwards because now I think he's right. I don't want him or my kids mad at me in the morning. We are visiting my oldest. Am I a bad person? I don't know what to do or say to him.
On the weekend I'll start off with the intention of 1 -2 glasses of wine but then it leads to more and then to the mix drink. I don't get to the point of blackouts. But I am realizing lately I have had a lot of stress in my life and on am using alcohol to let me forget. I know if this goes on it will get worse. I want to stop it before it dies get bad.
It up to u to decide if you have a problem with alcohol, most people don't find themselves on a AA message board by mistake, like pappy said go to a AA meeting or 2, u will be able to make up your mind from there, keep an open mind and be honest with yourself. Wagon
Thank you all for your help and advice. I talked to my husband this morning and told him about all the stress I've been trying to deal with on my own. My daughter is self harming herself, I have a boss who has been putting a lot of pressure in me, being a Mom and wife has been stressful enlately. I told him I am going to find a therapist to talk to. He knew some of my stress but not all. He is supportive of me finding help. He said that will help. I hope I can find someone. I think I will also attend a few meetings to see if that is what I need too.
I believe we are Normal people . Until we pick up that 1st drink . Then something in us changes.
This. This. And a million times this.
It's not the outside BS. They are excuses. 'Well if you had my life you'd drink like me too' When really we have a lot of that baggage because we drink like we do. You are broken, but not because you are bad, but because you are sick. And the more you drink the sicker you'll get. There is a solution... and it's the same one said in every thread here. Go to a meeting, go with an open mind, and listen to the stories of those that are sober as you think 'I used to be that... how can I get what you have now'.
A lot of that baggage will go away when you get sober, not all, but a lot, and what doesn't you'll find you can deal with in a way you never expected - calm and effective...
Sorry for being so long winded. I think I ended up talking to myself there, because after many years sober and living a life I never knew possible I fell... and now I know I need to re-remember the things that gave me those great years when I'm white knuckling it.
Give AA a Try. You have nothing to lose but your sadness.
