I'm sitting outside a meeting right now-it's due to start in a few minutes. My 22 year old son was arrested for drunk driving last night. I'm not sure what to do. The stress on my wife and I is pretty high right now. I ask for prayers.
So sorry to hear that, Troy. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Your Higher Power will get you all through this. I got a DUI a few years ago. It was a turning point in my life that helped me realize that I had more of a problem with drinking than I wanted to think I did. Although it was not enough to make me want to quit drinking completely, I never drank and drove again. Hopefully your son will learn from this experience. Thank God he is still alive to have that chance.
You got the prayers offered on you and your family's behalf ... I pray that your son will be open to 'listening' to you guys when he's back and try'n to figure things out ... everyone makes mistakes and I hope he realizes this and is open to calm discussions ... it also sounds like some boundaries may need to be set in place to get him to realize there will be other consequences should this happen again ... he must learn to know there are others being affected by his actions ... and driving while under the influence can cost someone other than him, their life/lives ...
Love you guys and God Bless, Pappy
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Thanks folks. The meeting helped me get back centered a little better. I spent an hour or more in prayer. Now I can't sleep. Oh well, I'm not drinking over it.
Hope you were able to get some sleep Troy ... let your prayers put you at peace with the 'Big Guy' upstairs and relax ... it won't help anything to 'worry' about what just happened ... let your son figure out how he's go'n to pay for get'n out of the mess he just created ... support him for sure, but let him work out just how he needs to get through this ...
Then let your words AND actions speak for themselves as an example to your son ... many times our kids draw great strength from watching just how we handle difficult circumstances ... pray to be guided to say and do the next right thing ... and this too, shall pass ...
Pappy
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
Good ... Be strong for your wife and use common sense in deal'n with your son ... never make rash decisions, take time to 'think it out' ... after all, he's an adult and SHOULD suffer the consequences so he can learn from the experience ... invite him to a meet'n, however, you probably shouldn't go to the same one ...
-- Edited by Pythonpappy on Monday 4th of April 2016 08:13:03 AM
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
Yeah, I talked to my sponsor about that. I realize that I can't 12 step him, effectively, because I am too close to it. My role as a dad makes it different than that as an alcoholic. My "dad" role comes through stronger and I can't be reasonable.
Thanks gonee.
Things are following the legal path right now. Importantly for me, after a rough 12 hours of stress for me and clinging to my HP, I have a peace again. The Serenity prayer is what really kept me grounded. I still feel really bad for my son, but I have accepted it.
Let me know how things are going. Yeah you cant do much other than accepting it but your son must learn a lesson of life-time. My brother has worked with a DUI lawyer and have told me instances where lives get ruined due to drunk driving.
-- Edited by Cecily23 on Tuesday 21st of June 2016 12:51:33 AM
Really, "Cecily23"????
I am hoping that your concern is genuine and that your posting is not an attempt to use this site to promote the services of a DUI lawyer. Perhaps it was a faux pas.
Sorry to hear about your sons situation. Recently saw a picture my 20 year old posted with him and his buddies on the road with open containers. I was furious about something I had done hundreds of times. He explained the driver was sober DD. Talked with him about open container and MIP . Let him know as much as I love him I will let him face the consequences of his actions. He will get through this and hopefully come out better on the other side.
Troy there is another page on this site for the Families, friends and associates of alcoholics which is called the Al-Anon Family Groups...check it out without pressure and see what other parents are saying. I am not assuming that your son is alcoholic tho a DUI is evidence of a problem isn't it? Check out the other page and see what is said there and sending prayers for your family. Take care
My son is doing well. He realized that he had "man up" and take care of this. He says he realizes that he does stupid stuff when he drinks so he is not going to drink anymore. I've offered to haul him to meetings and/or to talk through some issues but he has declined. Right now he is in Germany for the next 60 days or so and he just has to deal with what is in front of him. Thank you all for your thoughts and concerns.
