Motives are important in dealing with other people. If we're frank with someone and that person gets upset, we might think he or she just can't handle our directness, our honesty. But "honesty" without love is more like brutal frankness. If we want to be confrontational, we have to put up with the consequences.
But what is the real reason for being confrontational ("honest"), for pointing out others' flaws? Are we perhaps afraid that our own flaws will be discovered? Are we protecting ourselves by focusing attention on others?
Are my motives always honest?
Higher Power, help me see where my motives are selfish or mean or petty, so that I stay honest in my program.
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'