Hi I am new to site I am on last day of of community detox librium. It has been such an emotional week been very tearful. Feel like there is such a void in my life any advice would be helpful
I can only presume by your post,that you have initiated the 1st STEP of the 12 STEP program of recovery,in other words you have admitted you were powerless(the driving force in your life was out iof control drug abuse(alcoholism etc)and you realize your life was unmanageable. Glad you stopped in here.WE always suggest(really don'rt give advice)making a meeting at AA(Alcoholics Anonymous)listening to learn,sharing your story and seeking a sponsor to help you get to what WE considered the Solution,The Application of all 12 STEPS,worked with a sponsor and applied in all areas of your life(our lives)It is important now that you have put down the substance(alcohol)because the healing starts there we can't really go farther until we incorporate our 1st STEP 100%..Its very true,that this first STEP does leave a "void" in our lives after spending so much time in active addiction(not sure of your strory ,but any day in addiction is too much)Our 1st STEP strips us of any illusion about our addiction.Our 2nd STEP tells us what we found out in the first is not the end of the story.Our goal is not merely abstinence from the substance(alcohol)but recovery through application of our 12 STEPS in all those areasof our lives based on a fit spiritual condition and daily work.I do not want to get too far ahead here ,it is why I reiterate on our suggestions,Find a meeting near you,learn about our program and seek help from the fellowship and have a sponsor help your work trhought he steps.WE will learn to fill that "void" that STEP 1 can leave us with..Here is a link to the AA website,where you can help locate a meeting near you,find a helpline in your area and read the BIG BOOK(alcoholics anonymous) to quesll some of the fears you may be feeling about making meetings.WE do whatever it takes to remain free of active addiction and stepping out of our comfort zone falls into this category.Ther will be others on here to share their ESP(experience ,strength and hope) with you ,but it is you who have to step out and up.You will never regret you did,based on my own evidence..In support and prayer,hope to hear more from you.Tke that next step,and a daily jouney into LIFE ,free of active addiction. http://www.aa.org/
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
As long as we are actively drink'n, we do noth'n more than add to that void you're referring to ... that feel'n of a totally empty life ... a very, very lonely feel'n indeed ... I think most of us alcoholics have experienced that extreme loneliness at some point or other ... and the drink'n finally broke us ...
Drink'n like we did is always fatal, we had to stop or we'd have died ... I have lost a few friends since coming to live the AA way of life, which is wonderful beyond your imagination right now ... the friends I lost, ?, thought it was safe enough for them to have a few drinks, they were immediately consumed with a craving for more and more and more ... they never got a second chance to change their lives and the lives of everyone around them ... AA gave me that chance, and I hope you'll give AA a chance to help you ...
Can you simply not drink for today??? ... we go for the idea that we will not drink today ... next week?, next month?, next year? ... maybe, JUST NOT TODAY ...
Get to as many meetings as you possibly can, it may mean whether you live or die ... you got kids?, grandkids? ... how do you want to be remembered when you're gone??? ... as a great dad, grandpa??? ... or as a drunk that just wouldn't ask for help to stop drink'n ??? ...
Love ya man and God Bless, Pappy
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
Welcome....we have all been where you are at some point in our drinking lives. Good for you for reaching out for help.
I say go to has many meeting has you can. I repeat slogans from AA every day, it helps me. Find the ones that help you, and repeat them to yourself through out the day. I have some I even carry around with me in my pocket.
Keep It Simple is a good one and very easy to remember. Wishing you a great day.
A lifetime of never drinking again does seem overwhelming sometimes. Sometimes, making it half an hour without drinking seemed like a daunting task to me. Hang in there! Go to meetings, and remember that the urge will pass.
If it helps, think of that baby you're hold'n and what 'have'n a drink' will do to you ... it'll just make things worse, and you'll soon not be allowed around small kids ...
above all else, get to as many meetings as you possibly can ...
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
