Feeling the need to be perfect, comparing our progress with what we assume is the progress another woman has made, is one of the dangers we face. Women have been comparing themselves with others since childhood. The habit is not easily broken. Yet we must compare our progress today with where we were yesterday and look at other women as examples, just as we are serving as examples. The improved life we seek comes through "showing up for it," not wishing it were like another woman's life.

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