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I could not answer this a year ago when asked I just didn't know. I want someone who has a spiritual relationship with God, I want someone who is honest, compassionate, understanding, emotionally available, supportive, communicative, who loves themselves, accepting, not afraid of emotional or physical intimacy, who values what they look like on the inside not just the exterior. I want a true partner. That about sums it up. I believe I know who I am now also.

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That is awesome. Not don't settle for less and know you have to consistently be all those things in order to attract it.

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pinkchip wrote:

That is awesome. Not don't settle for less and know you have to consistently be all those things in order to attract it.


 

PC- love this response.  So true!



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spiritual relationship with God, I want someone who is honest, compassionate, understanding, emotionally available, supportive, communicative, who loves themselves, accepting, not afraid of emotional or physical intimacy, who values what they look like on the inside not just the exterior. I want a true partner

 

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There was a message there somewhere...but I forget what it was. :)



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I have learned what PC relates...My program has always said..."You cannot keep it if you do not give it away".   Consistently be all those things.  smile



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My experience has been that the only way to have all those things in a relationship is to become all those things yourself.

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I could not answer this a year ago when asked I just didn't know. I want someone who has a spiritual relationship with God, I want someone who is honest, compassionate, understanding, emotionally available, supportive, communicative, who loves themselves, accepting, not afraid of emotional or physical intimacy, who values what they look like on the inside not just the exterior. I want a true partner. That about sums it up. I believe I know who I am now also.


 Looks like you want a partner that IS what YOU want to be ... just a guess ... 



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I am in a relationship now. It was extremely fragile while we were both drinking and I have to admit I was a complete bitch and a nightmare gf with the whining, accusations, nagging, snooping for "proof", etc. I am not sure if my fears and suspicions were completely unfounded as quite a bit of weird crap was going on and still does every now and then. I My main focus is from now on going to be on God and continuing to stay sober. I feel God will let me know if and when I am meant to be with someone else.

The things you mentioned you are looking for, Enigma, are the things I want to become. I think for me, being with someone sober and who is not going through or already been through his mid-life crisis and is faithful to me would be necessities.

I think I really will wind up with a dog because I have never been in one relationship where I felt I was enough for that other person and have been hurt so much. It is a real shame because I am really turning into such a nice person and someone is really going to be missing out

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Mike D wrote:

My experience has been that the only way to have all those things in a relationship is to become all those things yourself.

Mike D.


 I find this to be true. I only attracted and wanted someone as sick as myself. today I am single. not because I am sick or theres no one out there as sick as me. it is by choice. my picker doesn't work good ( cept when used on my nose) so I decided to leave the relationship thing in Gods hands and practice being comfortable in my own skin and being of maximum service to God and the people around me, which I do that with the program.

 

"I think I really will wind up with a dog because I have never been in one relationship where I felt I was enough for that other person and have been hurt so much."

 

I can relate to this,BTY. 1st, my dog rocks!!! 

I used to let my emotions/feelings go too deep too quick when getting into relationships. today I believe it takes a year or more for the masks to come off and the true people in the relationship to surface. the last one I was in, she was a kind,caring,compassionate, loving woman. then a year past. she turned into a selfish,self centered, chaotic drama queen.

 

 



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tomsteve posted...."the last one I was in, she was a kind,caring,compassionate, loving woman. then a year past. she turned into a selfish,self centered, chaotic drama queen."

OMG that was me...maybe it was me, tomsteve....



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 Lots of good stuff in this thread. I have nothing to add, I just came back here to see the puppy again.  smile

 

 



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tomsteve posted...."the last one I was in, she was a kind,caring,compassionate, loving woman. then a year past. she turned into a selfish,self centered, chaotic drama queen."

OMG that was me...maybe it was me, tomsteve....


GOD I hope not!! if it was I hope ya aint like that anymore! it really didn't look like fun. :) 



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