Hi, my AH has been drinking for 5+ days, and this is is the worst what I had seen, he does t seem to stop himself, which he could before on about day 4. This is already day 6 and I am sure he got more. he is saying no to go to a doctor, he never did before. He is in the worst shape I ever saw him. I am afraid he is going to die if he doesn't get any professional help. We are in Mexico, there are some doctors, but this is like a small beach village. Is there anything g I can do? I am here with my children, we are all defendant on him to get sober as he is the only one who can drive us to the airport. Please any advice is very appreciated
Hi Venera...
There is nothing you can do to stop another person from drinking --they have to want to do it. There is an alanon board on this site which you hopefully will find of help. I am an alcoholic as are other posters on this board and we each had to decide for ourselves that we had had enough of the drinking. The alanon board is for family and friends of alcholics. You are welcome to post here, but I think you will find it more helpful to check out that other board. Blessings to you.
I am registered there as well, I understand I can't make him quit. But I want to be ready. I know he will not quit today. But I wanted to ask people who had personally gone thru thus, is there anything that could be done? He is not able to withdrawal . He has job and had periods of drinking, but somehow he was always able to stop on day 4. It is day 6 now and he seems in a really bad shape. Does he need a doctor?
Vernera....
That is good that you are registered on the alanon site. That said, the next thing which I can tell you is in response about him being the only one who can drive you to the airport. Venera, he cannot drive. He is drunk. To do so would be jeopardizing his, yours and your kids lives. You are sober so it is up to you to protect your family. You said you are dependent on him....you cannot be dependent on him--he is intoxicated. If there is a friend, neighbor, family member near you please call them in case you need transportation. Or look into transportation in your area --cab, bus, etc. But please please do not get into the car with him, and in fact, hide his keys if you think he may want to go out and get more to drink. I know you care for him, and that is the utmost care you can give him right now is not to allow this man to drive and possibly kill himself, your family but other innocent people as well.
Next thing I would say if he is has been drinking non-stop for that many days, please look up the number in your area for Emergency. Here it is 911. I'm not sure what it is for Mexico. When someone drinks for days non-stop the chances are greater for alcohol poisoning. You can look that up on the internet since you obviously have that by being able to be on this board. He can black out and pass out, and eventually wake up. I don't mean to scare you but it is something to be aware of...he might not wake up if the poisoning is that great. He will need medical intervention if that is the case. You cannot force anyone to go to the doctor if they don't want to and it sounds like you have tried. We are not doctors and are not supposed to give medical advice and that is what it sounds like he needs in the state he is in. Please let your common sense be your guide and not wait for responses on an internet site to overrule that.
Venera: You could call intergroup. Here are the listings and numbers in Mexico that I could find:
INTERGROUPS AND/OR ANSWERING SERVICES
Chiapas, Tapachula Oficina Intergrupal De Tapachula De A.A.
Phone:Main: ( 52)962-59276
Hidalgo Oficina Intergrupal De Ciudad Hidalgo
Phone:Main: ( 52)962-1439039
Jalisco, Zapopan Oficina Intergrupal Zapopan de Alcoholicos Anonimos
Phone:Main: ( 52)33-36331839
Mexico City Oficina Intergrupal Del Sur De A.A.
Phone:Main: ( 52)55-946384
Queretaro Oficina Intergrupal De A.A.CEN
Phone:Main: ( 52)442-2158493
Quintana Roo Oficina Intergrupal De A.A.
Phone:Main: ( 52)98-841271
Veracruz, Huatusco Oficina Intergrupal De A.A.
Phone:Main: ( 52)273-41071
Veracruz, Orizaba Oficina Intergrupal De A.A.
Phone:Main: ( 52)272-7256977
Depending on which office you are close too...call the number. Tell them your husband is on the verge of drinking himself to death and you were wondering if there is anyone who could come out for a 12th step call. If it gets much worse....just call the hospital/emergency...He can refuse to go to a doctor but paramedics will at least give him some attention that might save his life. At some point he may be considered a danger to self and he could be committed so calling the paramedics is a good idea if it's getting that bad.
Prayers.
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Not knowing the temperament of your husband, sober or drunk, means we should be very careful in giving out advice here ... Thanks PC for listing the available 'help' numbers ... I pray your husband sees and feels the need for help ... this is something he cannot do by himself, for sure ... He is in my prayers, but mostly for you and your children ...
Love ya and God Bless, Pappy
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