Today is a new day. My HP does not hold grudges. How can I be good to me if I am not a reflection of what I believe my HP is? I have no problems other than the fact that I kept my kids home from school today to end the constant battle of tears in the morning about going... thinking I would 'kill this attitude' with boredom... offer no stimulation and have them clean their room and the playroom etc. I would 'show them' how much better it is to go to school.
You know what happened???????????????
They cleaned their room and picked up the whole house happily. They played together building with blocks and got along like angels without anything from me for another couple of hours. They got their own snacks and now they just went upstairs to watch a movie together. When I prompted the conversation about how it would be so much better to go to school than be bored all day at home cleaning... my son looked me in the eyes and said "but Mama, this is so much better. When I'm here with you, I don't have to feel scared with no one to protect me, I don't have to feel nervous about getting my work done on time, I don't have to feel scared if I get hurt no one will be there to give me a hug. My teacher never gives out hugs."
Did you notice the several "I feel statements"? I DID! I hugged him and thanked him for sharing his feelings with me. Now I'm researching good home school options. It's such a struggle for me because I do want them to learn how to cope with these feelings too - but is anyone there teaching that???? No.
Is this all REALLY a problem - no - the problem is going to be convincing my husband. And I have wanted to home school them all the time but I was not confident enough. Now I am (close) but I am not sure how my Hubby will react to it because it will be costly for me to quit some of my jobs. I guess it's not really a problem - it's just that I'm still trying to replace the fears with faith in HP - and I still don't get that automatically - I have to work at it. Sharing this with you has helped - so thank you for being here and listening :)
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Thanks for everything. Peace and Love on your journey.
Well, you did spend some quality time with them and your house is clean. I hated school and feigned "sickness" more than I can count...loved being at home with my mom, and by noon, I usually made a complete recovery and happily cleaned the house. She never fussed at me at all about staying home. Think she felt a little lonely at times too and I was there for her as well. My daughter didn't like school that much and stayed home some a lot of times she was sick (lots of sinus/allergy/asthma problems) but sometimes I let her stay at home when she was well enough to go. I did home school her in 2nd grade. Ended up after one year she was ready to go back to school.
" It's such a struggle for me because I do want them to learn how to cope with these feelings too - but is anyone there teaching that???? No."
umm, yes there is someone there. YOU. its just one of the responsibilities of parents.
"Is this all REALLY a problem - no"
if they aren't allowed to see the world and learn how to live out there, some day,yes, it could very well be a problem. for them.
as a parent, I had a responsibility to teach my son how to handle life on lifes terms. I could have done what I wanted and protected him from the world, but that wouldn't have helped him be the man he is today.
" It's such a struggle for me because I do want them to learn how to cope with these feelings too - but is anyone there teaching that???? No."
umm, yes there is someone there. YOU. its just one of the responsibilities of parents.
"Is this all REALLY a problem - no" if they aren't allowed to see the world and learn how to live out there, some day,yes, it could very well be a problem. for them.
as a parent, I had a responsibility to teach my son how to handle life on lifes terms. I could have done what I wanted and protected him from the world, but that wouldn't have helped him be the man he is today.
courage.... comes from God.
Well said!
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This is still a hot button with me because our public school systems are so controlled by the government ... and that sucks, why, they changed the 'Pledge of Allegiance' to the flag for starters, if they allow it to be said at all ... and the list goes on and on and on ... I got paddled more than a few times in grade school, well, and high school too, now they put you in jail for abuse if you do that ... and people wonder what's wrong with our children today ... huh? bunch of idiots ...
Home Schooling is much preferred, I think, over public schooling ... A lot of 'one-on-one' attention can be given and tailored to each child this way ... I'm all for it ...
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I can't even imagine having home schooled my kids. I'm pretty sure we would have killed each other. They needed that time away from me so they could learn how to interact with other kids their age and learn responsibility without me being there breathing down their necks. I think what's wrong with our children today is not that they don't get corporal punishment, I did and it taught me how to be a better liar and sneak, it's that parents are too lazy/busy/wishy washy to set rules and actually enforce consequences when they aren't followed.
Great post, Justadrunk! Yeah, I hated school as well, and I could go on and on about what's wrong with the public school system, but I'm not a parent. My opinions wouldn't carry any weight. Would I have this observation when drunk? No, I'd be loud, boorish, and even more unlikeable than I am now. That's why I do the A.A. program. I must never get drunk again.
Hello Tasha, Hey....you know what? I think God might be trying to tell you that Home Schooling is what you should do for your kids. My guess is that YOU probably have a lot more to teach them than anyone else. Sounds like a good idea. You're educated and qualified. You can teach with love. And.....you can give out the hugs that their public school teachers can't. Blessings, Mike D.
