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anyone have any convincing "shock value" ideas for a young family friend who's so so sick
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he's having more frequent seizures and hospitalizations

 



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You may have to provide more information to get any really useful suggestions, but based on your request, there isn't much that can be done or said to "shock" or "scare" an alcoholic into getting sober. They generally need to 'hit bottom' and be allowed to face the consequences of their drinking before they will be in a state of mind to consider quitting drinking and accepting the help they may need to do that (like going into a treatment center or getting involved in Alcoholics Anonymous).

In many cases, the best you can do is make sure that nobody is preventing the alcoholic from facing the consequences of their drinking - do not make excuses to their boss to try to help them keep a job, do not lie for them to help them avoid legal consequences, do not bail them out of jail when they get arrested because of their drinking, do not give them money, etc.. 

There is a program separate from AA that provides very useful support for the family and friend of the alcoholic. These are people who know what you are going through and who can help you learn the difference between encouraging the alcoholic to get well, and accidentally helping the alcoholic to stay sick. This program is called Alanon. I encourage you to check it out.



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If that's not shocking enough....

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Might want to read with him the definition of alcoholism from the AMA especially the part that it is progressive and if not arrested by total abstinence ends in death. That still might not do it.  This disease is mostly...cunning, powerful and baffling.  Little did we know.   Keep coming back and check out the Al-Anon board also.  smile



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Alcoholism is a progressively 'FATAL'  disease ... left untreated, the person dies, period ... and it's usually always a slow, long, and drawn out process which in the end is very painful physically ... the pain caused during this process is felt by anyone that cares for this person at all ... the emotional pain is incalculable to friends and family members ... it is our experience that only a spiritual program of recovery, such as AA, can relieve the sufferer of their malady ... 

This is fact, not speculation ... the results are always the same, only the faces are different ...



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I guess sorts of interventions have had some effectiveness in the past, although they are not really part of the AA program.

If he wants help and wants to stop drinking, let him know there is a solution, help him find some meetings and a Big Book.

Hope this can help!



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