Thanks for sharing, Angel. I can very much empathize with your situation due to my dad being in gravely serious health for the last 8 months. He has been nearly gone a couple of times.
I wish you God's grace to get through the upcoming months. It's quite a hard road.
Maybe the PO can help solve the out of state travel problem.
I am glad you shared. And it's not unrelated or inappropriate. This forum is not restricted to only AA or alcoholism related topics and it's not an AA group.
-- Edited by Tanin on Sunday 21st of July 2013 02:18:50 PM
It seems slightly less than appropriate to post this here as it has nothing to do with my alcoholism, nor is there any danger of drinking over it but I just found out that my father is dying. My wife and I were planning a trip to see him when she got off parole in 16 months and now...well, that's just not going to work. She can't leave the state on parole, he can't come to us and he isn't going to make it 16 more months. Just in the middle of processing...
I lost my Dad about this time last year ... I had made the 5 hour trip a number of times and he had somehow bounced back a few times ... I was on the road traveling to see him this last time when I got the call that he had pasted ... it was hard, yet I had gotten into the habit of calling him pretty often and I always ended by telling him I loved him ... for that, I'm truly grateful ... cause I was drunk while my Mom was in the hospital, and when she died, and at her funeral ... even though I made a 'graveside amends', I still feel guilt over that at times ...
Of course I don't know the distance between you and your Dad, obviously it's out of state ... and I don't know if you have the option to go by yourself or not ... and I don't know the level of trust you have for your wife to remain alone for any length of time if you should leave her, to go see your Dad ... AND I know you have some 'health issues' too ...
A lot to think about ... of course you have been, and will continue to be, in my prayers ... ... ... I'm sure you will make the right decision ...
Love ya and God Bless,
Pappy
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Thanks Tanin, I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a similar situation. I hope for serenity for you both as you trudge this part of the road. *s*
Hi Pappy. My step mother fell terminally ill in 2006 and I called my father every day during this. Once my step mother had passed, I continued the daily phone calls. We rarely talk long, just enough to say 'hi' and tell him I love him. My wife will be fine at home, but she would really like to see him again too and frankly, I could use the physical help she can provide. As for making the right decision - I've no doubt I shall because I'm waiting to hear back from my higher power on this and will do what is suggested and so, can't go wrong.
Angell...I believe that you can "settle up" as best y ou can with what you have. My elder brother just passed away and was in the process of passing away for a while. He had made a trip here during the process and while our personalities remained as designed my behaviors had been altered by the program of recovery. He came and brought himself which included the "self centered and non-caring" attitudes he still practiced and that was a cause to "settle up" with him...we did and it resulted in renewed respect. I didn't travel the 5200 miles round trip to abide by his ashes with the rest of the family as I have pretty much separated from my family of orgin as a result of an earliest sponsors direction to get away from "all things alcohol". Death on life's terms is more appropriate for me. I'm getting older and still settling up with my family as I continue in recovery and they don't. I've learned to turn them over and let God do the directing. HP's will is that I love them unconditionally not hang with them. Pray for them, wish them well and turn it over. Go with best alternatives as they present themselves. HP Bless
