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jj


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Good morning all (good evening to your down unders)

the past few days i have been trying to remember the 3 c's. i can remember the didn't cause it and can't control it, but the can't cure it always slips past my memory and i have to go look them up. i can't cure anything, so it shouldn't be a surprise, but it is the word that disappears on me every time. there are a few more good c words, that came up while trying to come up with "cure" it.

there are definitely choices that i can make about it, i can't compete with it, can definitely become confused by it, shouldn't capitalize on it, would like to cancel it, close the door on it... and there must be hundreds more. but it gave my brain a work out this morning before i finally gave in and looked it up. someone from Al Anon shared the 3 C's with me. i was feeling hopeless and helpless about my husband's attitude towards me and my alcoholicism, and his pain over how i could cause us so many problems and still drink... after finding AA he still harbored those feelings towards me. there was a lot of wreckage to deal with and without alcohol i desperately needed some new tools. He had anger issues when we had to pay court bills and fines. he still has anger issues when he thinks about how much money was spent before i choose sobriety. "it takes what it takes" brings him no comfort at all. none of the AA sayings sit right with him.... but they sure help me stay sober today so i silently treasure them.

even though he isn't able to embrace the 3 c's, i can. when things happen around me that i used to get drawn into, that i did not create or cause, i have the 3 cs to help me get through. i now choose to Not be a part of the problem and can set a personal boundary of what is acceptable behavior and i choose to speak up when an unacceptable behavior crosses that line. AA taught me that and the sentence, "that is unacceptable behavior." the silence that follows that quiet statement is very rewarding and a huge relief when it works.

thanks for being here today and helping keep me sober. jj/sheila



-- Edited by jj on Monday 3rd of June 2013 12:16:31 PM

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"Not be a part of the problem and can set a personal boundary of what is acceptable behavior and i choose to speak up when an unacceptable behavior crosses that line. AA taught me that and the sentence, "that is unacceptable behavior." the silence that follows that quiet statement is very rewarding and a huge relief when it works."

I like that Sheila:) Show's we are not powerless over people places and things if we are connected to the Power.


God bless,
MikeH.

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Thanx  Sheila,,,,continued blessings!



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Thank you Sheila.
I heard at one of those other meetings the fourth c is, but i can contribute to it. I jump into that ring on the turn of a dime and I always pay for it. I heard something last night for the first time. That when the music starts to play and i feel the need to dance to remember JADE. I Dont Have to, Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain. Like all program tasks, simple but not easy. I do not have the needed power on my own. The power comes from God if I ask and and do His work the best I can.

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Thank you Sheila!  The 3 C's- certainly part of my tool box today.  I've needed them recently as I deal with someone who's been highly affected by Alcoholism.   It was a gift to be freed from the illusion of control & responsibility.  A gift only a HP(God) could bring upon this Alcoholic.  I could then suit up and show up and do the next right thing, knowing that God holds the cards and not me. 



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Thank you!

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