My ex-wife gave me a similar ultimatum back in 2001: "You either stop this nonsense or I'll leave". God, I miss her so. I guess she couldn't bear the brunt of my alcoholism tragic as that may be, but who could. I can't blame her, though, even after the divorce proceedings. I really do miss her smile. Anyway, Tasha, I get where you're coming from: Sometimes it takes more than an ultimatum to get their point across -I just happened to be one of those unfortunate souls. I lost everything, but luckily I have my wits about me today. My current wife is just as loving, if not more -supportive too. I guess we all get a second chance, including alcoholics.
As far as the lady from Georgia is concerned, she might want to turn to her local church for support. Our church offers a short or long-term childcare provision for most of its members. The program finds people who are willing to babysit a little or no cost to them. It may be a suitable alternative if all else fails. All fees, of course, are negotiable. I hope this helps.
-- Edited by Mr_David on Sunday 10th of March 2013 12:45:10 AM
I had to admit that my husband was doing the right thing when he said he would make sure my children would no longer be in my care if I didn't get sober and stay sober.
I see now why most mothers do not end up in recovery until their children ARE taken away. Usually we lose our marriage, and we're single Mom's, and HOW IN THE WORLD could recovery truly work in that situation???
My sponsor is facing that currently after 9 years of sobriety. Her son with violent behaviors is not able to go with a babysitter. The father developed schizophrenia when her son was just a baby and can only have supervised visits (by her) as is ordered by the court.
I'm a sponsoring a lady who is afraid to leave her kids with her alcoholic ex husband, or her alcoholic boyfriend. Her family is from GA... a bit of a drive from here to drop the kids off for an hour. She has no extra money for a babysitter, and I can't be that babysitter for her either. I want to be though.
I want to be ther to help my sponsor too.
I can't help but think that could be me...
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Thanks for everything. Peace and Love on your journey.
((((Tasha)))) your heart has many rooms and acres of land upon which animals can romp. Not being able to help often weighs heavy on the heart of a loving person and then there is God and prayer and surrender and hope. That I'll bet is what your husband did and how'd it come out for him? I will always remember and be grateful for that question my sponsor would ask me whenever I thought a thing was hopeless because within the question was the door to the solution..."What's your part in it"? You're for real. Thanks for being here. ((((hugs))))
I heard recently added to a prayer ... ... ... God please watch over and bless the children of alcoholics and addicts that are suffering conditions over which they have no choice in the matter ... this is an addition that I am trying to make routine in my prayers also ...
your post Tasha certainly is a good example as to why I need to pray daily for these kids ... thanks for the reminder ...
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
Yes it was divorce, the loss of my designated driver, and the fear of another DUI, loss of DL and the inability to pay child support (loss of visitation).... that finally got my attention. Willingness set in, and I was "ready to do whatever it took..." Tasha I'm glad that you were smart enough to see the writing on the wall.
