In recovery, we often discuss anger objectively. Yes, we reason, it's an emotion we're all prone to experience. Yes, the goal in recovery is to be free of resentment and anger. Yes, it's okay to feel angry, we agree. Well, maybe. . . .
Anger is a powerful and sometimes frightening emotion. It's also a beneficial one if it's not allowed to harden into resentment or used as a battering ram to punish or abuse people.
Anger is a warning signal. It points to problems. Sometimes, it signals problems we need to solve. Sometimes, it points to boundaries we need to set. Sometimes, it's the final burst of energy before letting go, or acceptance, settles in.
And, sometimes, anger just is. It doesn't have to be justified. It usually can't be confined to a tidy package. And it need not cause us to stifle our energy or ourselves.
We don't have to feel guilty whenever we experience anger. We don't have to feel guilty.
Breathe deeply. We can shamelessly feel all our feelings, including anger, and still take responsibility for our behaviors.
I will feel and release any angry feelings I have today. I can do that appropriately and safely.
Great share Tasha, ... ... ... I would just add that we should deal with any kind of anger 'quickly' ...
Anger left alone for any length of time has a way of 'taking root' like a weed and begins to grow quickly 'out-of-control' ... ... ... WE have the tools to deal with such things as they show up so we should use our tools swiftly ...
Early in sobriety I saw that if I didn't deal with anger and get it out of my head, then the small embers would catch fire and soon burn 'out-of-control' ... this where I had to learn to NOT rent space in my head for resentments to have room to grow ... I had to learn to put away my 'childish' thinking and utilize the steps and principles of the program ...
Love you and God Bless, Pappy
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