After an intense discussion, we might rehash what we said and wish we'd said something else. Perhaps some brilliant remark occurs to us long after the conversation has ended.
We can say only what comes to us at the time of the discussion. Our best preparation for any such discussion however important is to place the matter in God's hands, seeking the highest good for everyone involved.
It may be that the brilliant thoughts coming to us later would have actually been inappropriate. After all, important discussions also involve exchanges of strong feelings that influence the meeting. If our feelings are in line with the high principles of the program, the discussion should go well. In such cases, we will probably say what we're supposed to say.
I'll do my best today, without trying to second-guess every word or action.
Oh yes my mouth tends to keep flapping well after the conversation's finished. That's a good point maybe we weren't meant to bring it up. I never thought of that before lol
Ya know, I had a lot of those "Second Thoughts" in early sobriety too ... I found out later that the 10th step was perfectly made for cleaning up my 'BooBoos' of the mouth ... ... ...
Later on, it seems I tired of making amends all the time and finally started thinking before speaking ... the more I practiced that, the less I had to go back and 'fix' things ... and the less problems I had of hurting other peoples feelings ... this whole program is about changing the 'way we think' ... and once we have been able to do that, for the most part, then things just seem to always work out great for us ...
Today, I pray each morning that the words from my mouth or fingers be what God wants others to hear today ... I really try not be too critical of myself anymore ... I mean, I was paranoid in early recovery of saying the wrong thing, which I often did ... LOL ... and some old timer would come along and 'straighten' me out and I'd feel like an idiot ... so I learned there are times when one should remain quiet and just take in what's being said ...
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
