Hey guys:) my sponser has asked me to give her her 3 year chip at tommorrow nights meeting. I'm totally honored and I love her tons, she's been my strength, sanity, wisdom, and inspiration throughout my short sobriety. She's truly the first person, and often only person still, that I have no fear of being completely honest and vulnerable with. Here's the thing, though, I don't know what to say.. Most people giving the chip to someone celebrating an anniversary make a speech, bring a card and flowers and all this. I'm not too big on ceremony and honestly feel uncomfortable. I think it's a bit weird that she asked me to do it.. I have only 5 months and am not all that involved in this particular group ( I'm often racing from work to get there so don't have much opportunity to bond with people before meeting). I dunno, I just feel strange about it. I just feel as though I won't do her justice or something.
Like my sponsor always says: "Just be yourself". The rest is all you. Your 5 months is just as important as her 3 years. So congrats on both ends. Don't worry yourself any, you'll do just fine.
-- Edited by Mr_David on Saturday 20th of October 2012 07:42:31 PM
Hey guys:) my sponser has asked me to give her her 3 year chip at tommorrow nights meeting. I'm totally honored and I love her tons, she's been my strength, sanity, wisdom, and inspiration throughout my short sobriety. She's truly the first person, and often only person still, that I have no fear of being completely honest and vulnerable with. Here's the thing, though, I don't know what to say.. Most people giving the chip to someone celebrating an anniversary make a speech, bring a card and flowers and all this. I'm not too big on ceremony and honestly feel uncomfortable. I think it's a bit weird that she asked me to do it.. I have only 5 months and am not all that involved in this particular group ( I'm often racing from work to get there so don't have much opportunity to bond with people before meeting). I dunno, I just feel strange about it. I just feel as though I won't do her justice or something.
I just recently started to feel self respect/worth. Obviously your sponsor has respect for you and thinks you're worthy. I started having true respect for others after the 1st go round with the steps, and only then could I feel self respect. I wouldn't have felt self worth either not that long ago, it's so new in fact, I'm still sorting it out. Maybe this is where the saying I hear all the time "fake it til you make it" comes in. I don't know. I'm sure you'll get excellent suggestions here though, so thanks for the post and best wishes : )
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I think it a great honor that she asked YOU to do her chip presentation ... that's great ... she must feel your true effort to work the program and wants to pull you closer to the fellowship ... by asking you to do this, she is getting you accustom to participating in the group ... you will come to feel more accepted as a 'regular' and as a crucial part of the group ... it will make you feel not just 'wanted', but 'needed' ... which is all true ...
Simply express your 'gratitude' for having such a good sponsor and how fortunate that she was there when you needed her ... don't make up anything that isn't true, just speak from the heart ... I have the habit of saying a prayer, or seeking God's blessing to let the right words flow from my mouth, to let His words be heard ... if she has been an inspiration to you, by all means, say so ... short and sweet usually does the trick ... few are going to want any more details than that in this situation ...
Oh, and it wouldn't hurt a thing to give her a big 'hug' when you hand her her chip ... it's what we do! ...
Love Ya and God Bless, Pappy
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Oh, what a wonderful gift she's given you! She must have great respect for you, Col. Very special. How I wish I could do that for my sponsor today. Colletta was my sponsor for gosh, 25 years, give or take. Mean, oh my God, I thought she was the meanest angriest woman in the universe. So, because I knew what a sh** head I was, and that she'd see through that sh**, I picked her. Or she picked me, still not sure. We lost her to a series of strokes about five years ago, and I've been heartbroken that I wasn't there to be with her, she in California and myself up here in WA. But she knew I loved her like mad, and she loved me too. Didn't take one ounce of crapola from me. How I miss her, and even with a touch of social phobia, I would be so honored. Yes, she must think very highly of you. Glory in those five months! That is wonderful, it's quite the journey. And don't forget to enjoy those moments tomorrow night,that's a memory to hold forever.
That's great that she asked you to give her the chip. I'm sure you are very special to her.
I have the perfect thing to say:
"I'm totally honored and I love her tons, she's been my strength, sanity, wisdom, and inspiration throughout my short sobriety. She's truly the first person, and often only person still, that I have no fear of being completely honest and vulnerable with...."
I think you already had the answer
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"There ain't no Coupe DeVille hiding in the bottom of a Cracker Jack Box."
Not that you need to follow this script but here goes. "(Insert Name) is a great example of sobriety in action. I am new to the program and in that time I can see she (insert some of the qualities she has that made you want to choose her as a sponsor). I am so glad she was around for me when I needed help and when I needed her to be my sponsor. With that (insert name), come get your 3 year medallion."
Everybody claps. Colleen gets a hug. Slam dunk. LOL.
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