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Okay I do not drink all the time. But it seems like once I start drinking, I can not stop. I mean I drink until I am totally drunk! I know I shouldnt do that but I forget what I do and dont know after the first drink it seems.


Tell me the truth am I an alcoholic and what can I do to stop!


I am thinking to totally give up alcohol all together. I find it hard though when everyone else is drinking and laughing and I am sitting there wondering what the joke was.


Well someone please help me.



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Hi Private...Only you have the answer youre looking for.


If you have a desire to stop...the following might help you decide..


Theres an AA number in your local phone directory...


Most of us go to AA support meetings..to share our experience..strength, and hope with each other...plus work a 12 step program. We do not pick up a drink...just for today..


I know..that I cant quit on my own..and stay quit...I need the fellowship of AA..


And I also..cannot stop at one drink...Powerless over the stuff..and addicted to it...


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AM I AN ALCOHOLIC?


The sub-questions are designed to help shed light on the basic question. Read them only if necessary, but don't count them separately. What will eventually happen is that you will have a discussion with yourself; this is only an outline to give your conversation some constructive direction.


This survey was written by recovering people. They had the same questions while they were still drinking or using and probably came up with the same answers. They survived and so will you. But there needs to be a starting point, and question No. 1 is as good a place as any ...


1. Is there some particular reason why you are concerned about your drinking at this time?


  • Are you drinking more often that you used to, or greater quantities when you do drink?
  • Are you able to drink more without getting drunk?
  • Do you sometimes have the shakes or other discomfort the next morning, and does a pick-me-up drink help make you feel better?

2. Is one of the reasons for your concern the fact that some people are getting on your back about your drinking?


  • Do close friends say you are acting differently these days, or that you undergo some kind of personality change when you drink?
  • Are they suggesting that you cut down or cut it out?

3. Do you have other friends that you prefer to be around these days -- people who don't mind your drinking, or don't mention it?


  • Are these new friends that you've recently made?
  • Are they fairly good drinkers, also?
  • Do you have much else in common with them, or are drinking-related activities your main bond?
  • Do you tend to prefer social events where drinking is more readily available?

4. Have you had more than two or three memory lapses (called blackouts) in the past 90 days?


  • After an evening or other period of drinking, have you forgotten where you left your car?
  • Or how you got home?
  • Have you had to call someone the next day to fill you in on what you were doing the night before?

5. Do you sometimes regret things that you may have said or done while you were drinking?


  • Are you ever embarrassed to the extent that you want to avoid certain people, or going back to a place where you may have done some foolish things?
  • Do you wish that you could undo those things, or ever think that less drinking might help prevent them from happening again?

6. Do you drink more than the people you are with, or do you ever load up your drinks so others don't notice what you are doing?


  • Do you order or mix doubles for yourself while others are drinking singles?
  • Do you carry an extra supply with you in case the host runs out, or the bar closes before you are ready to quit?
  • Is there anything unusual about your drinking habits that might make other people wonder!

7. Have you gotten careless about things that used to be important to you, or have you dropped certain activities from your routine?


  • Do you spend less time with your children, spouse, or other family members than you used to?
  • Are you less interested in some of your former hobbies or sports or entertainment source?
  • Are you reducing outside activities that interfere with your drinking?

8. Have you tried or considered changing things in your life in order to get along better and eliminate some of the problems?


  • Have you thought of leaving your spouse, or the family, or going away for a while to give everybody a little extra space?
  • Have you thought about changing jobs, or maybe even moving to another part of the country where you could make a clean start, without the hassles and disadvantages from the past?

9. Do you ever wonder if some of the problems that may accompany your drinking would be lessened or go away, if you decided to stop entirely?


  • Are there family arguments that might not flare up so often?
  • Would work (or school) tardiness or absenteeism be somewhat improved?
  • Are there financial or business setbacks that could be reduced? Insurance problems? Checkbook or household budget balancing?
  • Difficulties in meeting obligations or paying back loans?

10. Have you ever promised yourself that you would really try to cut down on your drinking without quitting altogether?


  • Have you tried skipping certain nights of the week, or hours of the day, when you wouldn't drink at all?
  • Have you tried switching brands or type of alcohol in order to keep from getting so drunk or losing control so much?
  • Have you tried putting someone else in charge of your drinking to help you cut down?

11. Have you ever tried to quit -- totally -- and not been able to?


  • Have you ever set a date or duration when you would actually try to stop?
  • Were there reasons why the effort really never took hold, or the timing never seemed right?
  • Did your promise to quit seem less important when the deadline to quit rolled around?
  • Was it easier to continue drinking than to fight the situation, and are you still drinking at this time?

12. Was it difficult for you to make this self examination, and is this a subject you consider too personal to discuss with others?


  • Do you intentionally avoid discussions about your drinking or its complications?
  • Do you sometimes have your spouse or other persons intervene for you, or make excuses about your tardiness or other related problems?

SCORING


This is the simplest scoring system in the annals of do-it-yourself testing. Any "YES" answer to a main or sub-question has earned you membership in a not very exclusive population of several million people with drinking or drugging problems. The more "YES's" you toted up, the better off you are. Every "YES" you were able to mentally put down was a striking symbol of personal honesty. It meant that you have begun the process of self-realization -- a principle in which virtually all recovery problems are based. Without personal recognition of your condition, there can be no meaningful recovery.


If you will consider each "YES" to be a minor victory in this same sense, you might want to take the test again and see how many more "YES's" you can identify. The enemies of recovery are guilt, denial and alibis. The allies are acceptance, understanding and honesty.


If the results of the test suggest that you, or whoever you took the test for, are an alcoholic or other chemical dependent, congratulations. Now you're getting somewhere.



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>>>>>>>>>>>>once I start drinking, I can not stop. I mean I drink until I am totally drunk! I know I shouldnt do that but I forget what I do and dont know after the first drink it seems.


 


ROSIE>>>>>>>>>>>>yep,  that is me......i would be "normal"  for weeks even a couple of months,  than get triggered and have to get toasted........i used it to run away,  to numb out.......i was "ok" if life was treating me ok.......let stuff go wrong????   stress????   triggers????  and i  ran to the beer/wine to  "cope"......now??? its the   steps...sponser...meetings...literature....PRACTICING what i learn in the literature..........until i admited i had a problem with alcohol,  i was gonna keep denying it and keep doing it......now i KNOW   "i have a problem"........and i have to work the program to KEEP that problem arrested.........take what works,   leave the rest....rosie



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Hi Private, I want to welcome you to the board. Phil and Rosie have shared alot with you , they are great suggestions. You are the only one who can figure out if you are an alcoholic. You can go to the MIP homepage , click on Alcoholics Anonymous, great stuff there to read.


Keep coming here, share and read.


(((Hugs)))


GammyRose



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Big Book CH 2


"Moderate drinkers have little trouble in giving up liquor entirely if they have good reason for it. They can take it or leave it alone.

Then we have a certain type of hard drinker. He may have the habit badly enough to gradually impair him physically and mentally. It may cause him to die a few years before his time. If a sufficiently strong reason ill health, falling in love, change of environment, or the warning of a doctor becomes operative, this man can also stop or moderate, although he may find it difficult and troublesome and may even need medical attention.

But what about the real alcoholic? He may start off as a moderate drinker; he may or may not become a continuous hard drinker; but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, once he starts to drink.

Here is a fellow who has been puzzling you, especially in his lack of control. He does absurd, incredible, tragic things while drinking. He is a real Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He is seldom mildly intoxicated. He is always more or less insanely drunk. His disposition while drinking resembles his normal nature but little. He may be one of the finest fellows in the world. Yet let him drink for a day, and he frequently becomes disgustingly, and even dangerously anti-social. He has a positive genius for getting tight at exactly the wrong moment, particularly when some important decision must be made or engagement kept. He is often perfectly sensible and well balanced concerning everything except liquor, but in that respect he is incredibly dishonest and selfish. He often possesses special abilities, skills, and aptitudes, and has a promising career ahead of him. He uses his gifts to build up a bright outlook for his family and himself, and then pulls the structure down on his head by a senseless series of sprees.

This is by no means a comprehensive picture of the true alcoholic, as our behavior patterns vary. But this description should identify him roughly.

Why does he behave like this? If hundreds of experiences have shown him that one drink means another debacle with all its attendant suffering and humiliation, why is it he takes that one drink? Why can't he stay on the water wagon? What has become of the common sense and will power that he still sometimes displays with respect to other matters?

Perhaps there never will be a full answer to these questions. Opinions vary considerably as to why the alcoholic reacts differently from normal people. We are not sure why, once a certain point is reached, little can be done for him. We cannot answer the riddle............."


 


 



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Hey Private- you are the one who can decide you are an alcoholic, BUT remember, the trouble is alcohol wants to tell you that you aren't, even if you do have a problem- Some of us went through horrible, extended suffering, lost nearly everything, and some people came in to AA much sooner than that-


Two facets of alcoholism are the compulsion (once I start, a change comes over me and of my own power, I do not stop), and the obsession (if I do get to stop for a while, sooner or later I will obsess about picking up again, unless I rely on something greater than me and take significant action)- which more or less is the catch 22- unless we rely on a power greater than ourself like AA or God or both, and do a lot of work on ourselves and to help others, we are in a lot of trouble-


In any case, that is what the program seems to say, more or less- But there are all sorts of perspectives-


Good luck-


Joel



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