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Asking for Help
It's okay to ask for help.One of the most absurd things we do to ourselves is not asking for the help we need from a friend, a family member, our Higher Power, or the appropriate resource.We don't have to struggle through feelings and problems alone. We can ask for help from our Higher Power and for support and encouragement from our friends.Whether what we need is information, encouragement, a hand, a word, a hug, someone who will listen, or a ride, we can ask. We can ask people for what we need from them. We can ask God for what we need from God.It is self-defeating to not ask for the help we need. It keeps us stuck. If we ask long and hard enough, if we direct our request to the right source, we'll get the help we need.There is a difference between asking someone to rescue us and asking someone in a direct manner for the help we need from him or her. We can be straightforward and let others choose whether to help us or not. If the answer is no, we can deal with that.It is self-defeating to hint, whine, manipulate, or coerce help out of people. It is annoying to go to people as a victim and expect them to rescue us. It is healthy to ask for help when help is what we need."My problem is shame," said one woman. "I wanted to ask for help in dealing with it, but I was to ashamed. Isn't that crazy?"We who are eager to help others can learn to allow ourselves to receive help. We can learn to make clean contracts about asking for and receiving the help we want and need.
############oh i was terrified to ask for help...like i had to do it ALL on my own , in my head anway......i did for others, but to meet my needs???? i got left behind....now its a diferent story......now i can SHARE my feelings/ problems/ and struggles......its freeing...AND it is making my relationships better
##########and i do ask my HS too, i can't get hugs from HS, but i can find someone usually to give me one, and i am not afraid to ask....i just ASK.......i really don't ask my HS for anything but courage to change the changeables.....cooperate NON resist the unchangeables.....wisdom for the diference......
######## i know when i do not accept ALL parts of me, i am not accepting me....that means my back, my finances, my being alone, my parts that i fought....i am learning to accept ALL of me.....QUIT fighting and resisting the parts i don't care for.....COOPERATE with my life chart........i think at LEAST case scenario, it will ease if not go away.....
#########i know i am my own rescuer....i and my higher self....thats IT....i can get help, but i ask for help to help myself.....not rescue...i used to do that...but now???? i know that ONLY i and my higher self within can do that......another person cannot , it is not their job to do that......i have to take care of my own crap, just like they do...i give/receive support/ encouragement/ help in the way of a *boost* but in the end???? i gotta do it....i gotta *make it work* the best way i can....i am NOT alone, but i must make my OWN karma here on earth...noone can do it for me.........
Today,
I will ask for help if I need it - from people and my Higher Power. I will not be a victim, helplessly waiting to be rescued. I will make my request for help specific, to the point, and I will leave room for the person to choose whether or not to help me. I will not be a martyr any longer by refusing to get the help I deserve in life - the help that makes life simpler. God, help me let go of my need to do everything alone. Help me use the vast Universe of resources available to me.
