Go to a meeting and share, talk to your sponsor, throw on some led zeplin and scream at the top of your lungs. These are some things I do when I get most frustrated.
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sober: showing no excessive or extreme qualities of fancy, emotion, or prejudice
I go to meetings, call folks in the program, take walks, hot baths, yoga, chill out with a movie, play with my dogs, bake something, enjoy a big decaf latte, decorate, browse Pinterest and lots more. Thanks to the program I have coping skills and a solid foundation in my Higher Power. Because of that, I rarely think of taking a drink to get myself numb. :)
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I think there's an invisible principle of living...if we believe we're guided through every step of our lives, we are. Its a lovely sight, watching it work.
Go to meetings, don't drink/use ... share your bad feelings ... talk to your sponsor ...
We didn't get in the sad shape we were in when we came to AA, overnight ... so it will take some time, and a little work on your part, to straighten things out ... the promises will indeed come, if we work for them ... And always remember that there is no problem you have now that a drink or a drug won't make worse ...
Hang in there, it will keep getting better if you work the program ...
God Bless, Pappy
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
I hear you Erican. I was tightly wound myself for many years, until I started my meditation routine that is. I knew I couldn't change certain things, but I had to change how I reacted to them and meditation help me do just that. It not only changed my attitude but also cleared the air of any negativity as well. It's been an integral part of my daily routine ever since.
If the problem involves other people than I try to be a little less passive and a lot more vocal. I also try to be more 'assertive' when I feel it's necessary. I try not to buckle under the pressure either -whether by intimidation or not. I state my case and then wait for a sensible response. If we still can't agree than I try to compromise as best I can. One thing I will never succumb too is intimidation or inferiority tactics, ever. That's what I call standing up for yourself. I hope this helps.
-- Edited by Mr_David on Tuesday 22nd of May 2012 02:58:43 AM
I took my problems to my sponsor, my solutions to a meeting. I try to help others, and above all I try to remember that God NEVER gives us more than we can handle in one day.
-- Edited by Fyne Spirit on Tuesday 22nd of May 2012 04:29:47 AM
Life still goes on and some of the shit it throws at you is still hard to take. For me, the everyday 'normal' stuff got way easier to deal without the alcohol. Funny how it works ain't it?
The fellowship of A.A. (or N.A.), meetings, and working a program helps, especially in early sobriety.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
And wisdom to know the difference.
Life on life's terms. If something is stressing you out and you can do something about it, then do it. If you can't then accept that it is what it is, and hand it over to the universe to worry about. And do it one day at a time. Tomorrow's problems are just that: tomorrows. Yesterday's are gone. The things you can change today is all you need concern yourself with.
There are lots of things in the world that would make my life better / easier / more fun etc if they were different. But they are not, and drinking on it won't change a damn thing except it will make my life worse. Fighting the million and one inconveniences of life is what drives us insane and picks up the bottle for us.
The Big Book says this better than I ever could, but until your mind can catch up to really understanding these things keep the prayer handy and apply it liberally to every problem that pops up.
