So I was taking a break from work yesterday when I looked over and seen I had a flat tire. Made it to les schwab and they said Id need two new front ones total $210.00 All was fine then on way back from picking up my son from school today I missed a turn and hit a curb and popped 3 tires, they had to replace all 3, thankfully they waived one tire and $90 service call fee but was still another $230 so total in last two days was $440 for 3 tires :( Good thing is I was sober when all this happened and didnt even think about drinking over it.. Im a firm believer that every thing happens for a reason just trying to figure this one out lol.. thanks for letting me vent :/
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God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
That actually is how to handle situations like yours soberly. LOL That's how sober people do it...Didn't say you went off on yourself and if you didn't you're even weller than you thought. There were times I belittled myself into a drink. Great share thanks!! (((hugs)))
Thanks, I just sorta accepted it, realized getting upset over it wouldnt change anything and that I needed to buff out or replace my headlights so I can see the curb next time lol.... I guess my changing is thinking.. hmmmm
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God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
LOL.....sanely put. I once had a sponsee call me at work from an intersection in town where he was stuck with a to the rim blown tire and I asked him what his choices were. He told me that he had just followed thru on one choice, that of kicking the crap out of an inanimate object in the middle of traffic!! I asked him if that worked for him and he said now he had two problems...the tire and his foot. We learn by doing. Good job!!
Way to go Steve, ... If that had been me a few years back ... I wouldn't have been able to afford new tires ... the drink was my first priority, but now, thanks to people like you, I'm sober and have learned to handle things like this much the same way you described ... and I have the spare funds now that used to be missing because I haven't drank it all up ... incredible , huh?
Thanks for sharing and God Bless, Pappy
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Thanks everyone, and its true, if I were still drinking theres no way I could have afforded this, I most likely wouldnt still have my job.. Guess its a lesson in humbling myself..
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God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Keep praying, keep going to meetings, keep in touch with your sponsor, keep working the steps and keep helping others. Keep coming back, you're doing well !
I know its not funny now, but with time, you will probably laugh at this and rely on it as an event you can turn to under the "I could have drank then" excuse making hierarchy we are all so familiar with. Just like you did, handing it over to your HP is the way to go. Well played Steve! Tom
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When things I perceive as negative come up for me, my sponsor reminds of helpful slogans like: This too shall pass, God won't give me more than I can handle, There are no mistakes, or everything happens for a reason. I've come to believe in the principle of these ideas and see how helpful they are.
Have to admit tho, some times I grit my teeth at them. Last winter my car went belly up. I ended up walking, calling program folks for rides and riding an electric scooter I had to dust off from the garage. After several months, I could see the truth. I was grateful in the end, cause despite getting laughed at by the youngin's at work when I'd apear in my get up to ride the scooter in the cold and rain, I learned that you can save a lot of money with out a car, and feel a freedom in the knowledge that the world still turns without wheels. I'm grateful I live in a town where I can walk or bike to everything I need if I have to. I feel a bit more freedom from angst that all will fall apart at any moment and I feel more independent in a strange way. I hestitate to say I'm grateful for hardship, yet I see how there's always something good on the other end if I stay sober.
I'm glad you were able to get new tires, have stayed sober and thank you for sharing.
Steve search the forum for post acute withdrawal. Part of that is the clumseyness and absent mindedness that occurs during early sobriety. It's frustrating and stress appears to bring it on. That's why we pretty much have to learn how to do every thing over as a sober person, with patience and some concentration. btw, buy the "road hazzard" with your tire purchase next time. It's free at Sam's club.
I ran out of gas on my way to pick up my 90 day chip. I then tried to fill up an antifreeze bottle with gas and put it in the car but spilled it all over myself. Then I walked and walked and finally got a big gas container with an appropriate nozzle and walked back as the police were writing me a ticket for my car being in the middle of the street. Then I arrived at the meeting 30 minutes late and covered in gas. But I got that red chip! So yes...I think Dean is onto something there with the clumsy/absent minded thing. I am still a clumsy and absent minded person but not as bad as in my first 6 months sober.
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