My job takes me away from the fam quite a bit. I have missed them before, but I just got to thinking about how tall my oldest is and I started thinking about both the boys and their fleeting boyhood. That got me to thinking about my whole family and the longing actually hurt. It was too late to call my wife and make contact, so I thought I would address it here. Its not really a sobriety issue, except that it is moments of weakness that the demon of drunkenness inserts itself into your thinking. That has not happened, but who better to share my tough moments with than my MIP friends?
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It's good to hear from you. I remember my first job; a sales/marketing position that kept me on the road for weeks at a time. The pay was good, but the trips were lengthy and my quality of life was nonexistent. So, I had to quit. It's not something I would normally do, especially today -given the state of the economy. But I did have the means back when to search for steady employment elsewhere. And guess what? I found a better job...with better benefits and more family time. The next day when I handed in my travel log (for good) was by far the happiest...ever. That...and having more time to spend with my family -for sure.
I hope that happens for you real soon.
~God bless~
P.S. Didn't you mention -somewhere in a previous thread, about taking on a different role? If you did, when will you start?
-- Edited by Mr_David on Sunday 16th of October 2011 01:38:27 AM
Hey Tom! Yes I remember back when I started doing service,speaking at meetings,GSR part of committees etc and how our lifestyles can take us away from our families.It got me thinking that yes our families are glad that we found recovery ,certainly the wreakage of our active addiction tore thru the area like a tornado,leaving rubble everywhere(keep it on me anyhow)but though we are now free of the obsession and compulsion to use(drink etc)what is the real difference if we are gone to a meeting,convention,area service,committee meeting,sharing as part of group exchange speaker or we are gone from our illness(really gone)bottom line is we are "still gone"Recovery at home is as important as our own general recoveries and part of our process is working for that balance.I am not guilty anymore if I can't make every event or have to refuse a commitment because I have family plans etc..We give back to the best of our abilities but it must accompany all areas of our lives.I know you just stepped down some from a job that was keeping you away,awesome,im sure it was not easy but just think ,by God's grace and mercy we were given another shot at "life"I know for me ,with 3 separate families from marriages ,divorces etc and new babies in town!! ,I have to work very hard to maintain that balance of recovery at home just as recovery in general!Stay blessed more is always revealed!!
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Hey Mr D and Mike F, My new position does not start really until about April. It is on the horizon, so I can wait. Thanks for the great inputs that help with my perspective. Of course, time away is the problem, and in my moment of anguish, I did say a prayer. This morning I woke up, and lo and behold, my schedule changes and I get the day off tomorrow (How did that happen?) So I go home today! For anyone who looks for signs of a spiritual nature, this is one of many I have been blessed with since I started looking many years ago. Tom
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Amazing on an alcoholism recovery forum to hear this kind of dialogue...Sounds so unreal and far away from the horrors of our life threatening disease. Did I walk in the wrong room? Even has me thinking about writing a poem or song for my wife as she is planning a two week trip away from me and the pups..over the Pacific and onto the West Coast. Hmmmmm words are coming.
Amazing on an alcoholism recovery forum to hear this kind of dialogue...Sounds so unreal and far away from the horrors of our life threatening disease. Did I walk in the wrong room? Even has me thinking about writing a poem or song for my wife as she is planning a two week trip away from me and the pups..over the Pacific and onto the West Coast. Hmmmmm words are coming.
Thanks Tom...
Why don't you Jerry...I would. How about a beautiful rendition of "My girl".
-- Edited by Mr_David on Tuesday 18th of October 2011 12:20:41 AM
