Hello out there. Well, I don't have any horror story. Just a simple decline of coping skills after almost 2 years of high anxiety situations.
Let me summarize for you - marriage issues, working out marriage issues, dad diagnosed with cancer, passes 6 weeks later, estate to complete, got laid off, move to another state, selling 2 houses, completing estate, buying a new home, adjusting to being out of work, step mother than once she gets her part of the estate has no other use for me, marriage issues again b/c I am now drinking daily and craving it when I don't have it. SO....after many lies and false starts....I am now admitting that I have a huge problem with alcohol. I went to the doc today and she is referring me to a counselor. I am determined not to touch the stuff again. Not after what it has done to me and more importantly my family throughout the past year. Before I had it "in control" (yeah right) but I realized that now I have nothing in control. 40 years old and about to lose everything. I have an 11 year old daughter that I scare at times. Why? I don't remember b/c at that point I have drunk enough so that I do not remember what I did the night before. When I am sober, my mood is erratic. My husband has little trust in me, and I don't blame him.
So I am here, looking for support. On day 2 of the rest of my life. I know it won't be easy. I have faith that God will help me get through this and build my life to a better place. As always, thanks for 'listening'.
Just to say Hello. Meetings were good for me. I found out I was not at all alone or unique with my issues. People said " Keep coming back. It will get better " I did and it did. Hope is nice.
Yes God can do what we can't do for ourselves,but we'll also have to take action,make the admission(check) reach N emotional acceptance of utter defeat? Realization that "we" just can't pick up,STAY AWAY FROM THE 1ST ONE.. ?,simple but not easy....Only can suggest making some meetings,listen to learn,be honest ,open minded and willinging and keep coming back.WE are here for each other,no big I's or little U's just one reaching out to another in identification.Our message is hope and our promise is freedom from a life of devastation by learning to shift into the solution"our steps" guided by a Power greater than yourself,a sponsor and others working an honest program...Welcome, hope to hear more from ya.There is truly another way to live no matter what life on lifes terms throw at us ,we dont have to pickup.....
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Aloha Struggling...Most all of us have been in that condition ourselves before finding and accepting the sober condition. I resisted the sober condition because I wasn't convinced "I" had a problem. It was my alcoholic/addict wife who had the problem and still I stopped drinking rather than having it around so that she could drink and she drank anyways. I found the 12steps and 12traditions of AA thru the Al-Anon Family Groups which eventually led me into active AA participation also. I didn't have as clear a vision about what alcohol was doing to my life and to the lives of others around me as you do...it's called denial however I came to understand and have complete the work on that with the help of the fellowship.
You came here looking for help and we can support your attempt and efforts to get and stay sober and rrib has done a huge service locating the numbers in your state that will get you into the face to face meeting groups of AA in your area. That is where you can sit and listen and learn and then practice, practice, practice.
That is what was suggested to me and what I did and what has worked so well that this afternoon after a bit of commiseration with the drunks that reside in my head still, I gave away a case plus of "cold ones" of various labels and descriptions. I was alone...cleaning out a fridge after some guys left a rental I manage. The guy I gave them to was delighted getting the loot. He knows I will not drink and why and didn't offer. Without the program of AA and it's fellowship I don't think the day would have come out the way it has and I certainly wouldn't be on the keyboard at this site.
thanks for your story. You made the only decision that makes sense heather, bar none. You can now begin the process of sobering up and reclaim the life you once knew. I hope you take full advantage of the opportunites sobriety has to offer, with the hopes of gaining some greater perspective and purpose in life and how that can eventually unfold. The first step is crucial my dear, so don't hesitate; let "AA", this forum and almighty God lead you to that tranquil place called lasting sobriety, one day at a time.
~God bless~
-- Edited by Mr_David on Friday 23rd of September 2011 03:40:44 AM
Struggling, your story rings true for me and others here I think. I was also at the cusp of "losing it all" as you stated and I remember days 1, 2, and 3 because they were that pivotal in my sobriety and they were really emotionally painful. The good thing is that you are doing something about this now.
If you stay this course you will later look upon this period as when you actually stopped struggling, admitted powerlessness (step 1) and started living in the solution.
Prayers for you. - It does sound like you are taking the right steps even though it's difficult. Just do the next right thing.
Mark
P.S. - I would utilize AA and the numbers Rrib posted. A counselor will help you deal with that long list of life stressors and the emotions that went with them. But your alcoholism has taken on a life of it's own and that does need to be treated with AA. A therapist won't be enough to make you stay sober.
-- Edited by pinkchip on Friday 23rd of September 2011 10:27:23 AM
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