I have to focus on myself and my recovery through the 12 steps. There is no other human being involved here except in step 9. In my early days of my recovery I squandered so much of my time worrying about others. Increasingly, my focus, became on my defects of character & removing them. Other people have the same defects of character as well & if our paths cross, I just move on & say a prayer for them, that they too, might become nice human beings. Many have.

It's a tough call but I got to adhere to it strictly, because my peace & serenity are dependent on it. I am also a chronic caretaker. I had to learn to let go of other people, so that they can grow. Also difficult to do.