It is hard for us at times to understand the misfortunes that befall us when we are doing the very best we know how, to live right by both God and man.
It is only in times that try men's souls that the soul develops and grows stronger. Like a muscle, it develops with hard work.
If you would produce an exceptional rose, you must prune the brush of every budding branch so that all the strength goes into the single bloom. It's not what the bush would want, but it develops the perfection in the rose you desire.
