and I'm at home, got the car dug out so can get to a meeting tomorrow and have lit the fire. I'm 54 and no-one has ever shot at me, no-one has ever tried to kill me. I've still got both arms, both legs and an undamaged face.
I'm just watching a documentary about an 18 yr old soldier, no legs, one arm, facially disfigured by a roadside bomb. Rebuilding his life. WTF do I have to feel sorry about?
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It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you got. BB
Self pity usually doesn't care how bad other people have it. You know that we are very fortunate souls with our sobriety. We really can have/do anything that we are willing to work for. If we don't have it, then we weren't willing to do the legwork and as such didn't want it that badly. Our program has even showed us how to do it (through duplicating other people's successful efforts) and ask for help. When I am envious (hardly ever) or feeling less than, I know that I would be happier if I increased my gratitude level.
Gratitude = Happiness. There is no other truer equation. You simply can't have one without the other.
1. At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. Albert Schweitzer
2. You say grace before meals. All right. But I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing and grace before I dip the pen in the ink. G. K. Chesterton
3. No duty is more urgent than that of returning thanks. Unknown
4. Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. Marcel Proust
5. He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has. Epictetus
6. You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you. Sarah Ban Breathnach
7. We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures. Thornton Wilder
8. There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. Albert Einstein
9. Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings. William Arthur Ward
10. Take full account of the excellencies which you possess, and in gratitude remember how you would hanker after them, if you had them not. Marcus Aurelius
11. Real life isnt always going to be perfect or go our way, but the recurring acknowledgement of what is working in our lives can help us not only to survive but surmount our difficulties. Sarah Ban Breathnach
12. We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude. Cynthia Ozick
13. Can you see the holiness in those things you take for granteda paved road or a washing machine? If you concentrate on finding what is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul. Rabbi Harold Kushner
14. We can be thankful to a friend for a few acres or a little money; and yet for the freedom and command of the whole earth, and for the great benefits of our being, our life, health, and reason, we look upon ourselves as under no obligation. Marcus Annaeus Seneca
15. When we become more fully aware that our success is due in large measure to the loyalty, helpfulness, and encouragement we have received from others, our desire grows to pass on similar gifts. Gratitude spurs us on to prove ourselves worthy of what others have done for us. The spirit of gratitude is a powerful energizer. Wilferd A. Peterson
16. Whatever our individual troubles and challenges may be, its important to pause every now and then to appreciate all that we have, on every level. We need to literally count our blessings, give thanks for them, allow ourselves to enjoy them, and relish the experience of prosperity we already have. Shakti Gawain
17. Thou that has given so much to me, Give one thing morea grateful heart; Not thankful when it pleaseth me, As if thy blessings had spare days; But such a heart, whose pulse may be Thy praise.
George Herbert
18. (Some people) have a wonderful capacity to appreciate again and again, freshly and naively, the basic goods of life, with awe, pleasure, wonder, and even ecstasy. A.H. Maslow
19. If the only prayer you say in your life is thank you, that would suffice. Meister Eckhart
20. Find the good and praise it. Alex Haley
21. Give thanks for a little and you will find a lot. The Hausa of Nigeria
22. What if you gave someone a gift, and they neglected to thank you for it-would you be likely to give them another? Life is the same way. In order to attract more of the blessings that life has to offer, you must truly appreciate what you already have. Ralph Marston
23. Happiness is itself a kind of gratitude. Joseph Wood Krutch
24. The moment one gives close attention to anything, even a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself. Henry Miller
25. There is a calmness to a life lived in gratitude, a quiet joy. Ralph H. Blum
26. Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no matter how much we have we will not be happy because we will always want to have something else or something more. Brother David Steindl-Rast
27. Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude. Denis Waitley
28. As each day comes to us refreshed and anew, so does my gratitude renew itself daily. The breaking of the sun over the horizon is my grateful heart dawning upon a blessed world. Adabella Radici
29. For each new morning with its light, For rest and shelter of the night, For health and food, for love and friends, For everything Thy goodness sends.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
30. Grace isnt a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal. Its a way to live. Attributed to Jacqueline Winspear
31. When eating bamboo sprouts, remember the man who planted them. Chinese Proverb
32. Only a stomach that rarely feels hungry scorns common things. Horace
33. But the value of gratitude does not consist solely in getting you more blessings in the future. Without gratitude you cannot long keep from dissatisfied thought regarding things as they are. Wallace Wattles
34. Blessed are those that can give without remembering and receive without forgetting. Author Unknown
35. If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul. Rabbi Harold Kushner
36. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for the good, which is directed at you. Train yourself never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude. Albert Schweitzer
37. God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you? William A. Ward
38. Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic. John Henry Jowett
39. Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life. Christiane Northrup
40.The best way to pay for a lovely moment is to enjoy it. Richard Bach
41. Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes of which all men have some. Charles Dickens
42. Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance thats present love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience Heaven on earth. Sarah Ban Breathnach
43. Whenever we are appreciative, we are filled with a sense of well-being and swept up by the feeling of joy. M.J. Ryan
44. Gratitude is riches. Complaint is poverty. Doris Day
45. Many people who order their lives rightly in all other ways are kept in poverty by their lack of gratitude. Wallace Wattles
46. Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didnt learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didnt learn a little, at least we didnt get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didnt die; so, let us all be thankful. Buddha
47. Two kinds of gratitude: The sudden kind we feel for what we take; the larger kind we feel for what we give. Edwin Arlington Robinson
48. There is a law of gratitude, and it is . . . the natural principle that action and reaction are always equal and in opposite directions. The grateful outreaching of your mind in thankful praise to supreme intelligence is a liberation or expenditure of force. It cannot fail to reach that to which it is addressed, and the reaction is an instantaneous movement toward you. Wally Wattles
49. Gratitude should not be just a reaction to getting what you want, but an all-the-time gratitude, the kind where you notice the little things and where you constantly look for the good, even in unpleasant situations. Start bringing gratitude to your experiences, instead of waiting for a positive experience in order to feel grateful. Marelisa Fábrega
Be Thankful
Be thankful that you dont already have everything you desire, If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you dont know something For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when youre tired and weary Because it means youve made a difference.
It is easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.
GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your blessings.
Author Unknown
God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say "thank you?" ~William A. Ward
The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving. ~H.U. Westermayer
Silent gratitude isn't much use to anyone. ~G.B. Stern
If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you," that would suffice. ~Meister Eckhart
There is no such thing as gratitude unexpressed. If it is unexpressed, it is plain, old-fashioned ingratitude. ~Robert Brault
Gratitude is the memory of the heart. ~Jean Baptiste Massieu, translated from French
When we were children we were grateful to those who filled our stockings at Christmas time. Why are we not grateful to God for filling our stockings with legs? ~G.K. Chesterton
The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. ~John E. Southard
Gratitude is an art of painting an adversity into a lovely picture. ~Kak Sri
If you have lived, take thankfully the past. ~John Dryden
As each day comes to us refreshed and anew, so does my gratitude renew itself daily. The breaking of the sun over the horizon is my grateful heart dawning upon a blessed world. ~Terri Guillemets
I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder. ~G.K. Chesterton
You say grace before meals. All right. But I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing and grace before I dip the pen in the ink. ~G.K. Chesterton
For each new morning with its light, For rest and shelter of the night, For health and food, for love and friends, For everything Thy goodness sends. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
If a fellow isn't thankful for what he's got, he isn't likely to be thankful for what he's going to get. ~Frank A. Clark
The unthankful heart... discovers no mercies; but let the thankful heart sweep through the day and, as the magnet finds the iron, so it will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings! ~Henry Ward Beecher
Grace isn't a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal. It's a way to live. ~Attributed to Jacqueline Winspear
Praise the bridge that carried you over. ~George Colman
If you count all your assets, you always show a profit. ~Robert Quillen
He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has. ~Epictetus
What a miserable thing life is: you're living in clover, only the clover isn't good enough. ~Bertolt Brecht, Jungle of Cities, 1924
Gratitude is the best attitude. ~Author Unknown
Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving. ~W.T. Purkiser
We thank Thee, O Father of all, for... all the soul-help that sad souls understand. ~Will Carleton
We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures. ~Thornton Wilder
Gratitude is a quality similar to electricity: it must be produced and discharged and used up in order to exist at all. ~William Faulkner
If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily. ~Gerald Good
Gratitude is the least of the virtues, but ingratitude is the worst of vices. ~Thomas Fuller
There is not a more pleasing exercise of the mind than gratitude. It is accompanied with such an inward satisfaction that the duty is sufficiently rewarded by the performance. ~Joseph Addison
I feel a very unusual sensation - if it is not indigestion, I think it must be gratitude. ~Benjamin Disraeli
There is no greater difference between men than between grateful and ungrateful people. ~R.H. Blyth
Courtesies of a small and trivial character are the ones which strike deepest in the grateful and appreciating heart. ~Henry Clay
Who does not thank for little will not thank for much. ~Estonian Proverb
Thou hast given so much to me, Give one thing more, - a grateful heart; Not thankful when it pleaseth me, As if Thy blessings had spare days, But such a heart whose pulse may be Thy praise. ~George Herbert
The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings. ~Eric Hoffer, Reflections On The Human Condition
Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul. ~Henry Ward Beecher
When our perils are past, shall our gratitude sleep? ~George Canning
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. ~John Fitzgerald Kennedy
We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude. ~Cynthia Ozick
Only a stomach that rarely feels hungry scorns common things. ~Horace
The grateful person, being still the most severe exacter of himself, not only confesses, but proclaims, his debts. ~Robert South
Gratitude is merely the secret hope of further favors. ~François Duc de La Rochefoucauld
Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. ~Aldous Huxley
When eating bamboo sprouts, remember the man who planted them. ~Chinese Proverb
Thanks are justly due for boons unbought. ~Ovid
In this world of sin and sorrow there is always something to be thankful for; as for me, I rejoice that I am not a Republican. ~H.L. Mencken
Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. ~William Arthur Ward
Hem your blessings with thankfulness so they don't unravel. ~Author Unknown
-- Edited by StPeteDean on Thursday 2nd of December 2010 07:33:22 PM
Oh grand Mahalo to you Bill for this post...it also brought Dean out of his corner and I'm looking for a wall to hang his response. This is a "keeper" and I'm grateful for it thanks (Mahalo).
I've already started with "saying grace" before everything in front of me. That post will only lead to greater spiritual awakening and then I got more to pass on right? Getting even farther away from the next one.
I stumbled across this yesterday, time to put on my thinking cap
Sharing gratitude- 'Gratitude'- I couldn't find that word in the non-story section of the BB.
Thank, Thankful, Thanks- Found that five times.
This surprised me when my sponsor pointed it out. I always thought that gratitude was a huge part of meetings- hell, tons of people (myself included) have shared gratitude. Sponsor asked me to think about those shares; what did they have in common?
Selfishness. The times I shared about gratitude- it was all about myself. Even if my intent was to share hope- those shares always ended up just about me and what I got. Not what someone else could get- in general terms. They were very specific and usually about outside issues.
When I share my thanks- It's an action on my part. I thank people for being there, I thank the person who's chairing or the person who shared. It's action-orientated instead of how I feel. I've had enough time to live inside of 'How I Feel'- had therapy for ten years! lol
I had trouble getting this really- so I found the definitions-
Gratitude- noun the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful: He expressed his gratitude to everyone on the staff.
Thanks- verb (used with object) 1. to express gratitude, appreciation, or acknowledgment to: She thanked them for their hospitality. 2. thank god, (used interjectionally to express relief, thankfulness, etc.) Also, thank goodness, thank heaven.
noun 3. Usually, thanks. a grateful feeling or acknowledgment of a benefit, favor, or the like, expressed by words or otherwise: to return a borrowed book with thanks.
""a grateful feeling or acknowledgment of a benefit, favor, or the like, expressed by words or otherwise""
Expressed by words or otherwise- that really struck me. It's movement, it's doing- not just feeling something but doing something to show that feeling. Reminds me of how we don't recover if we never get past step 3 and get Into Action.
This really helped me in recovery- to see just how far my selfishness goes. Maybe it can help someone else too.
Wait wait
Got it
I am thankful I have an attitude of gratitude, but seriously, he makes some valid points, I had to stop and think for awhile, like it was worth a ponder
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I just scratched the surface of gratitude quotes. There are so many when you google for them, lists upon lists. It seems that anybody who was anybody made gratitude statements. Must be the reason there were great and successful.
I just scratched the surface of gratitude quotes. There are so many when you google for them, lists upon lists. It seems that anybody who was anybody made gratitude statements. Must be the reason there were great and successful.
You know what is interesting, is most of the quotes I liked best were in some way referring to taking some action of gratitude
You say grace before meals. All right. But I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing and grace before I dip the pen in the ink. ~G.K. Chesterton
3. No duty is more urgent than that of returning thanks. Unknown
4. Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. Marcel Proust
5. He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has. Epictetus
6. You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you. Sarah Ban Breathnach
7. We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures. Thornton Wilder
8. There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. Albert Einstein
9. Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings. William Arthur Ward
10. Take full account of the excellencies which you possess, and in gratitude remember how you would hanker after them, if you had them not. Marcus Aurelius
11. Real life isnt always going to be perfect or go our way, but the recurring acknowledgement of what is working in our lives can help us not only to survive but surmount our difficulties. Sarah Ban Breathnach
12. We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude. Cynthia Ozick
13. Can you see the holiness in those things you take for granteda paved road or a washing machine? If you concentrate on finding what is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul. Rabbi Harold Kushner
15. When we become more fully aware that our success is due in large measure to the loyalty, helpfulness, and encouragement we have received from others, our desire grows to pass on similar gifts. Gratitude spurs us on to prove ourselves worthy of what others have done for us. The spirit of gratitude is a powerful energizer. Wilferd A. Peterson
16. Whatever our individual troubles and challenges may be, its important to pause every now and then to appreciate all that we have, on every level. We need to literally count our blessings, give thanks for them, allow ourselves to enjoy them, and relish the experience of prosperity we already have. Shakti Gawain
All of these ask for some action on our part, a mental effort or a literal one to train the mind, to remap it, and change it's perception, to express our gratitude to those around us directly or indirectly...interesting
I always groan when the topic is gratitude and it's always a great meeting and lifts me up, yet the next time the topic is gratitude I groan again lol
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Great stuff, guys. I still convene the Steve pity party from time to time. Mainly b/c things are not exactly the perfect way as Steve wants them at that exact moment and therefore the world is terrible, I'm the only person who has ever had this, and what's going to happen next, etc.
Thankfully, this Fellowship has given me the tools to re-focus if I choose to use them...though sometimes I forget that my vision is out of focus. ;)
LB's points about gratitude are especially poignant -- I can see so much self-centredness in me still: so many of my shares have been "I'm grateful to HP b/c I'm sober today, not going into work hungover every day, blowing all my cash at the pub, etc." Something for me to keep working on.
I can find many things wrong with winter , but thanks to Dean and his list of gratitudes, I should really be honest with myself and take note of them all.
One of the biggest things I do have to be thankful for is the blessed fact and miracle that Im sober this morning. Thanks to the Grace of God and the life changing program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Bill recovered alcoholic. I learned here how to be grateful with action . I was told to do gratetude.example. sweep and mop the room after the chairs are put away. Do what is asked .lead when asked give of my spare time and my couple dollars. In order for faith to be vital it must be accompanied by self sacrafice, unselfishand costructive action. put other people first.hold the door .self support thru your own contibutions. That I was told doing more than just taking a seat.thank God for a twelve step program. Thanks for the post.