I Drop in, and let I'm ok. The last 2 days felt like apart of me left the building. Yes it had to do with my son and I lost it on him and quite frankly I still don't think he gets it.
I explained to him I really felt about this drinkin, and the affect it has on the household. Told him he's gonna have to find someelse to live, and most of all didn't appreciate the way he speeks to me. I mentioned as well about the combination of the meds and alcohol and what its doing to him, not a good combination. I asked him if he ever wondered why his sister doesnt' stay around much, he still hasn't figured it out.
Guess what I'm saying is I'm done and it hurts like hell. I can't even give him a hug, and he's apologizing perfuzely, I still can't bring myself to hug him right now.
Maybe this is a sign of a wake up call for him and me.
To do the right thing is some times very difficult. Tough love, or what ever you want to call it is HARD! I've heard it said. You can deal with things now, or later if your not dead. So sounds like now is a good time for you. This to shall pass!
Sorry to hear all that. Maybe it's just time for the relationship to change and it's time for him to live on his own. Lots of times we start acting more responsible when we don't have our parents to save us. You are doing the right thing.
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Tina, I can so relate to your post. I too have a son. Without going into a long story I will simply say that today I am glad he has found recovery as well.
Doing the right thing doesn't always feel like the right thing, nor do I have to be comfortable with it to do it today. Some of my best growth in recovery came as a result of doing exactly what I never wanted to.
I love my son dearly, but I am not willing to love him to death literally. I had to let go, let the consciquences unfold for him, and turn him over to the care of God.
God and alcohol did a much better job of getting him in the rooms than I ever did.
Hey Tina,not in violation of our 6th Tradition,implying outside endorsements) but I also am an active meember of another fellowship for parents and friends of addicts.Has helped me a lot in living life with a hard core 24 yr. old Heroin addict in my life,who now is in semi-recovery(substitute meds)I can certainly Identify and know how this scenario can lead us to that "one bad decision" we are all capable of at any given moment!In support and prayer,keep your process on top of everything else,for that we are responsible....peace
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
For the support and the wisdom from each an everyone of you, I've been thinking long and hard and prayed about this.
Letting go isn't easy but it needs to be done, I'm gonna take the next few steps to mean what I say and say what I mean. My son had a girl over today, and drank today.
So obviously he thinks I am kidding or I'm not following through with what I said. I have my assumption he slept with this girl in the house, who is seeing someone else, as far as I know. But gonna not bring it up unless he does, Or should I bring it up? not really sure what do about that any suggestions????
At this moment He needs to go before our relationship as mother and son is no more. I've been silent with him and haven't said much. When I do it leads to arguements.
So with this said wish me luck..... I'll be checking in and Thanks
