Try to not judge others. See yourself as everyones equal; not better and not worse than others. Try to be free from the erroneous thinking of normal people. Have compassion on the normal people who have thinking errors about shame and guilt. They have not healed their original wounds that happened long ago. It is very difficult to heal the old wounds. It is painful and it is scary to face the truth about ourselves and others. They attempt to control others with shame and guilt. It was done to them and now they do it to others. It is time to get ourselves free from the habitual thinking of the past. It is time to dare to be ourselves and to do the things we choose to do. We do not need to let fear and doubt stop us any longer.
Thanks Steven. That's so true, and something I need to work on and remember every day. I really don't know what "normal" is, but I'm quite certain I'm not :). Today in my life I'm pretty okay with who I am...thanks to the AA program and all those who have helped me along the way!
By working the steps we come to accept a Higher Powers will.Acceptance leads to recovery.We lose our fear of the unknown.we are set free....Spiritual principles aligned with a striving to be what our HP intended us to be will keep us on the road of recovery,one day at a time>
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
By working the steps we free overselves from past sins and continue to take inventory to keep our side of the street clean. By keeping our head clear of negativity and useless debris and calm our mind we carry out Gods will for us at the moment. By doing this we have a Spiritual Experience- we know a new freedom and happiness, we don't regret the past or shut the door on it....... Etc.... The Promises....
You are very right, that "normies" or "eartth people" or whatever else we choose to call non-alcoholics, have their own sets of issues and childhood demons to conquer. Many choose not to acknowledge them, or choose to just live with them. Just like us. But we die pretty quickly from our poison and we are faced more readily with the knoweldge that we MUST get better if we are to survive.
I have struggled with seeing this in my ex, who will not get help, but continues to work himself to DEATH because that's his ESCAPE. He started working 70 hours a week, and his demons still landed on his shoulders here and there. Then he started working 90 hours a week, and that is now his "solution", which comes before family, home, spirtuality or anything else. And it is killing him and has left him once again in the middle of a divorce because he neglected his relationships and found solace in others who wanting nothing "complicated", just a roll in the sack.
SAD. And this is something I am dealing with myself right now, emotionally, processing all this. Thinking of my ex as a sick person (he even admits it himself) helps me to accept him for who he is and move on. It hurts though. And I stayed for too long and made myself sick all over again. I can accpet him today, but not buy into the sickness, and I am released from it, slowly, one day at a time.
Thanks so much for this post, and for letting me share. It has really helped me today.
Joni
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~Your Higher Power has not given you a longing to do that which you have no ability to do.
Normal.....hmmmmmmmm, wonder what that is like?! Thanks for the words and thoughts, I can only take care of myself and my side of the street. I no longer try to figure out or try to fix anyone but myself. If I don't take care of myself I'm useless to others.......and to be of service to others is crucial to recovery. Normies run their lives and do what they gotta do...... Being the designated driver and sober guy at many social functions still astounds me....... guess---I could post about that another day!!
