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camitch


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My father passed away on September 23, 2008.  Today is his birthday and I really miss him.  We had our rough patches but the last five years he was my best friend. 

The sadness and anxiety set in early and became more powerful throughout the day.  I left work early, prayed, and went for about an hour long walk before having dinner and attending an AA meeting.

I am about 102 days sober.  I used to enjoy a beer with the old man on occasion.  Today could have turned out to be one of those days.  I am glad it wasnt.  He would be proud. 

I settled for some cake and ice cream, said a prayer, and wished him a Happy Birthday and thanked him for his support.



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(((Camitch)))

I am sure he would have been very proud of you today

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Hugs, camitch. Comfort to you.

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Awww, Im sorry you had a rough day over these thoughts and feelings .

Good news is you had cake & ice cream instead of drinking and more good news is that you recognize your thoughts and feelings today and can deal with them.

Keep trudging the road. And Id be willing to bet too that your Dad is proud of You.

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Your in my thoughts..

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{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}} Camitch. Think of how proud that he'd be that you're sober.

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((((((((((Hugs))))))))))

Your Father would be proud

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camitch wrote:

My father passed away on September 23, 2008.  Today is his birthday and I really miss him.  We had our rough patches but the last five years he was my best friend. 

The sadness and anxiety set in early and became more powerful throughout the day.  I left work early, prayed, and went for about an hour long walk before having dinner and attending an AA meeting.

I am about 102 days sober.  I used to enjoy a beer with the old man on occasion.  Today could have turned out to be one of those days.  I am glad it wasnt.  He would be proud. 

I settled for some cake and ice cream, said a prayer, and wished him a Happy Birthday and thanked him for his support.



Camitch,

I lost my mother in September. Her birthday came and went in March of this year. It was a sad time for me too. 
I am sure your father would be very proud of you. I was still sober in September (having almost two yrs.,) when my mother passed away. She took my hand on her death bed and said, Janet,"I am so proud of you for staying sober."
I think most parents want better things for thier children, even if they don't always show it or tell you.  
I am glad you are still sober...I am glad you shared your somber day here. I needed that.

J



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Way to go Camitch! I would sometimes go to my fathers gravesite,he died in May '83 I didnt get sober until  dec.'84. I know he would have been proud and you can feel your dad would be too.I'll sit there at the gravesite,cry a little,laugh a little ,tell some jokes  and feel his prescence.For us our bottom line is we can never let any 'pain' bring us back to that "one bad decision" to pick up again! Give him a hug from your heart today and then go make an extra effort to help someone else today/'Pain shared is pain lessened! Thanks for sharing where your at and I will keep you in prayer...peace!

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mikef wrote:

Way to go Camitch! I would sometimes go to my fathers gravesite,he died in May '83 I didnt get sober until  dec.'84. I know he would have been proud and you can feel your dad would be too.I'll sit there at the gravesite,cry a little,laugh a little ,tell some jokes  and feel his prescence.For us our bottom line is we can never let any 'pain' bring us back to that "one bad decision" to pick up again! Give him a hug from your heart today and then go make an extra effort to help someone else today/'Pain shared is pain lessened! Thanks for sharing where your at --and I will keep you in prayer...peace!
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Thanks Mikef for this,

I have gone to my Mom and Dads gravesite crying and talking to them. Just sitting there on thier grave. I carry some regret for my life, when they were living. Oh, how I miss them. 
I used to fear people would think I was crazy, if they saw me there crying, and talking to them. And where I live, i.e. the bible belt... my actions would not be considered appropriate. Going to church would be the thing.

Heck with it...I see that I am not alone in you.

J


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Good Job taking care of yourself, Camitch! First Things First, eh? I'm a Dad and someday I'll be dead. I want my kids to honor me by taking care of themselves and their loved ones. Someday I'll meet my Dad in The Clearing at the End of The Trail and I'm glad that I'll have some honor to bring to him.

Peace,
Rob


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Thanks for all the thoughts and replies.  It means a lot to me.  I thought this feeling would pass with the new day and it has become more intense.  I just got home from a meeting and it made me feel a little better but I need to get past this.



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We are here to help you, camitch. You are not alone.

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