Larry's post on how does a binge start got me thinking about some of my civilian friends and the problems they have dealt with.....
Like the guy who's daughter left home on her 16th birthday and moved in with a 33 year old, married him 6 months later, divorced him 11 months after that.
Like the guy who's 25 year old son moved back into the family home with his girlfriend, because she had been disowned by her family and feared for her life. They get married in a weeks time and and promise to move out by september.
Like my best mate, who's been made redundant 3 times in a year.
like my Mum, who while mentally sharp as a pin, is going down physically
Like my Mum in Law, who is chair bound and has dementia
Like my sister, who has had two serious operations on her shoulders
Like my workmate who's wife died suddenly three years ago, eldest daughter went down with depression, now in a new relationship with a woman who's daughters treat him as if he were a gigolo.
Like my other buddy who's wife also died suddenly nearly three years ago.
all the above would be great excuses for an alkie to drink on. None of them drank alcoholically. (except one who realised he was sailing close to the edge and tacked away.) four of them didn't drink at all, it just wasn't an option for them.
That's just one of the differences between me and them. In the past my default was go get drunk. Their default was let's see how we can live with this. they all suffered the pain as it happened, except one who deferred the pain until he stopped drinking.
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It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you got. BB
Your post made me think WOW! what a great start to a grattitude list. Simply add There but for the Grace of God go I after each line.
I volunteer time with Shriners Hospitals for Children. Nothing is as powerful and gets me off my pity pot as seeeing some of these children. Especially seeing the horribly burned kids. They are amazing they are coping and enjoying life within the limitations placed on them. They are happy and I am crying for them.
Growing up I was told men don't cry, Well this one does and often. I look at that today as one of my positive attributes.
There but for the Grace of God go I
Larry, -------------------- Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. ~Mark Twain
A Chinese philosopher once coined...First the man takes a drink; then the drink takes a drink then the drink takes the man... I kinda sorta see binging as being between the drink taking a drink and the drink taking the man. The disease is going catch-up for times missed and needs to come back up to level as if the drinking has never stopped. Yah I see binging as sort of a relapse phase.
