(((((Leeu)))) Really sorry about your seperation. Same thing happened to me. It's never easy.:(
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God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Rheinhold Niebuhr
(((((Leeu))))) Oh good you're not separated from your sobriety. Gratitude. What's it like hanging with Leeu? I learned how to love myself and the pain went away. Amazing how it works!!
Well you're not the only one. Look on the bright side, you're separated, not divorced today. Things might change.
My family and I separated in Jan 06, I started this journey of sobriety in October 06. Gradually, the separation had been easing. There's been some difficult times, my (adult) children are maintaining their separation from me, my wife is now a friend and we behave like friends should, we don't live together and there is no one else in my life (and today I don't want there to be).
So I'm sober and still separated. But it's better than it was. I came to AA to get my family back. I soon learned that that wasn't a primary purpose and I stayed to get and stay sober. that's the primary purpose. everything else follows from that. Do i really expect the debris of 30 years to be swept away in three? No. Do i want it? Yes. Has it happened? In part. Am i sober? Yes, today. Which one is most important? The last one.
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It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you got. BB
(((((((((((((((((((( lots an lots an lots of hugs )))))))))))))))))))))))))))) time heals and being sober helps alot Hang on in there xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hey Lee thought I may find you here!! Yes and another rib shot from lifes sometimes pounding events!You know you have the strength,we are here for your hope and the experience and knowledge of knowing where you could go will keep you where you are,in pain,but clean and sober!!!((((((((((())))))))))) I think I got the hug thing now...real tight......
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
It was some of my more casual friends, or military ones.
Part of that was because I became sober and was now considered an outsider or a nonperson in their eyes--hence no drinking no fun with them anymore--even though they had said they will/would help with driving and take you to places--that fell on deaf ears also.
Well I have proved them wrong and have my license back since July 2009 and a lot of them do not know it yet--I think I do not want them to know anyhow--they may start asking favors, but since they did not help me, why should I bother helping them.
Sober and separated from my beloved of 10 years. He's going through personal stuff and our relationship is suffering collateral damage, so to speak. I'm fine, actually, just very sad, working through "letting go with love", and will take myself on a nice vacation in the spring.
