But it is from our twisted relations with family ,friends, and society at large that many of us have suffered the most. We have been especially stupid and stubborn about them. The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pg.53
Can these words apply to me, am I still unable to form a true parttnership with another human being? What a terrible handicap that would be for me to carry into my sober life? In my sobriety I will meditate and pray to discover how I may be a trusted friend and companion. Daily Reflections pg. 172
I have had relationships break in the past because of my drinking, not so much because of the drinking itself but because of the way it affected me sober. I had no tolerance whatsoever for faults in others. Most of these 'faults' I percieved in other people were nothing more than my obsessions transposed onto others. I.E I never allow myself to be late therefore it used to really irritate me if someone had said they would be somewhere and they were as much as 1 minute late.
I am really greatfull that I have become sober at a time when the relationship I'm in is one that I sincerely believe is the one for life. Maybee I'm just being young and nieve (dispite the gray hair, ha ha) But I think it's going to be ok thanks to being sober. I'm now so much more tolerant of others.
Have a great day all.
Best wishes.
Chris.
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"Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids, we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -- Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989"
Chris, So much is possible when we are living sober.I see so many couples who are in the program who have great marriage, some who were together during the drinking days, and some who have met since the drinking ceased.
Tolerance is one of the things I have learned in the program ,I sure didn't learn it in the church I attend, but I have been able to use it there.Even being able to tolerate the ones who are still drinking ,has been a gift.
