So, I work in a pharmacy and yesterday a lady....probably in her 70's (not that that matters, but makes it even more ridiculous), came up to buy sudafed. It's a federal law that anyone buying it, must present a driver's license and sign paperwork. We also have to enter all of the information into the computer on a sudafed registry. There is no way to get around it. When I asked for her driver's license she said 'well I didn't bring it in with me.'
I explained to her why we needed it, and she rolled her eyes and walked away. A few minutes later, she returned to the counter with her license. And very soflty said, 'making a sick women walk all of the way to the car.....serves you right if I puke all over you.'
I was stunned. I have had all kinds of things happen working in customer service, but for some reason that really got to me. I did not say another word to her. Just finished my work and gave her the bag. I've been stewing about it ever since. I wish I could have just smirked and forgotten about it, but I can't seem to let it pass. How could I let such a minimal thing ruin my entire day? Makes me feel awfully dumb! GrRrRrRrRr.....
P.S. What's that new tag looking thing to the right of the 'subject line' of our posts for? It brings up a little box that can be typed in. Just wondering, I just noticed it???
-- Edited by cramcj01 on Monday 21st of September 2009 08:08:38 AM
Crystal, Nice to hear from you. I have those moments too. We all do..... In moments like that I just remember that there are some people who are sick with other diesases and it's my patience and tolerance that's being tested. You were just enforcing the rules and didn't make them. I also like to keep in mind that I'm grateful that I'm not like that person.
Had to think about how that must have felt, when she said and "softly"....'making a sick women walk all of the way to the car.....serves you right if I puke all over you.'
Making you the responsible party, what can be said other than sometimes people can be sooo strange, indeed. It would have bothered me too. Her words and the visual of that, would have made it feel like she had actually "puked" on me, verbally.
Hope this morning that she is in the wind now, or in HIS hands.
I asked the same question about those little yellow tags that were appearing and just got a sort of vague response about it being some new feature that the founder of this Board, John, has put in place. I think it might be for sending to another website, like Facebook, or something if the writer chooses to do so. But I am guessing here.
It only shows up first, if you are signed on, and second, in only your Post title, you cannot see others, right. I just let it go myself. Just something I will not be using for whatever reason.
So happy to see you here this morning my friend, thanks for the note too.
God I would have loved that invitation to dialogue with her. Let my crazy side float outside my body for a while wondering if I could actually get her to chuck up at the counter. That's just a bit of my alcoholic side of course the program side would have gotten her to talk abit about what was really ailing her so that I could offer some positive feedback or the offer of a small paper sack. LOL
Have you ever said anything "out of line" when someone carded you for alcohol? (I know I have) Your doing your job...You would need the same info for your mom or grandmother, right?? People just may not understand "WHY" you are asking. Just a job, don't sweat it. You did as you were trained to do.
BTW, a 60+ year old here was arrested for producing meth, just to say, you never know..
Hi Crystal, Being alcoholics, codependents, people pleasers etc... we look for validation and as such care a bit too much what others think about us. It disturbs me when I think that there's is someone that doesn't like me, but what others think about me is none of my business and I certainly wouldn't take anything that a stranger said personally. Not that we should take anything that someone else thinks, writes, or says personally. It' their perogative to have an opinion and opinions are subjective to say the least. When you introduce reason and logic to your feelings it doesn't guarantee that it will make you indifferent to others' comments but it will take away the sting.
Interesting how that weird transference dynamic happens...even with total strangers. They try to transfer the blame to us and somehow we transfer power to them to facilitate the process. What's up with that? We sure are crazy critters.
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